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mikiglen · 03-07-2007, 08:18 AM

thanks kj, angel
cat had come and gone a lot the last several weeks, so this was not uncommon. i stayed in touch with her more through im's than on here. i guess i didn't think...who wants to believe that someone hasn't been on because of this?
i will pm you in a bit, angel

Candy Scratch · 03-07-2007, 08:20 AM

Angel (and to all who knew Christine)

Thank you for writing.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please give a hug to each of her children from all of us here at SR.

Sending you much strength to get through this.

Peace and love,
C

AcristicatAngel · 03-07-2007, 08:21 AM

THANK YOU, MikiGlen ~ As I said, I feel like an intruder but also feel a stronger need to keep Christine's memory alive and her spirit with us always! I think I need help here, because I'm not doing well at all... It would be a great comfort to be able to share stories about Cat, as you all so lovingly call her, and I would love more than anything to do that. Right now I'm trying to deal with all else in life, including my brother who I've taken in who is an alcoholic, addict, and compulsive gambler (currently in an in-house rehab and 2 months clean and sober ~ I'm SO proud). If any of you have any questions you would like answered, please do not hesitate to ask. I promise to you that I will tell you all that I can regarding Christine's passing. I can only say, at this time, that Chad told me she "drank herself to death" when he called me last Friday. I'm pretty sure there was something in addition to that, but toxicology reports will not be back for 6-8 weeks, maybe longer : ( And.. is it really important? I don't know. I don't know anything right now. I just know that I will never see my beloved Christine again and the pain is almost unbearable. I keep calling her cell phone (voice message box full) JUST to hear her voice over and over and over... Is this normal? Again, I don't know... I would love, when I'm able to, to share some insight and stories about our friend, Cat. Where exactly do I go to do that? I ended up going to her name and clicking on that and just reading all her posts, yours in return, etc. Is that how I should continue? It seems there are so many different areas and I'm afraid I might miss something or go to the wrong (?) forum/post/thread, etc. Thanks for all your help and prayers. It is a tremendous gift to me!
Angel

***indigo*** · 03-07-2007, 08:21 AM

So very very sorry to hear this news.

indigo

teke · 03-07-2007, 08:25 AM

angel, i am so sorry to hear of your loss and ours. i am devestated and full of sorrow, this is the 2nd member of our family to past within 2wks. i do know what its like to lose a best friend too, i am so sorry. you are in a good place here and we welcome you with open arms, you do belong here with us.
i'll keep you, and her entire family in my prayers, saying a special prayer for her husband and kids. may she rest in peace, and may god be with you all. know that she will be missed and thank you for thinking of us.

i usually post in the friends and family of substance abuse forum too, we'd love to have you visit us sometimes too.

mikiglen · 03-07-2007, 08:27 AM

angel, you can do it that way, there is so much stuff on this forum. there is also a grief forum as well that might help you
you are in no way intruding...thank you for posting here, we are glad you did. i have pm'd you, so feel free to ask/talk about anything there or here.
sending you a big hug

**CarolD** · 03-07-2007, 08:30 AM

Prayers for comfort going out to all who love Cat

**Done-With-It** · 03-07-2007, 08:52 AM

Maryanne,

I am so glad you are here. She was loved by so many of us, and I know she was trying so hard. Her spirit was so great, I adored her. We may not have always looked for her when she was gone, but I 'did' always notice and was always a little concerned when she wasn't around. Her pm's were always so full of life and full of fight, this disease knows no boundaries.
I am with you all in spirit, and please stick around, You are just as welcome
as she was, We would love to have you around here.

Much love and light to you all,

DWI

***cmc*** · 03-07-2007, 08:56 AM

I'm so sorry. I hope you will continue to come here and share your thoughts and feelings, and -yes, what happened to your dear friend will help many others who struggle with addiction. We are here for you and again, please accept my heartfelt condolences.

cmc

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you may click on their avatar/under their screen name, and select from the options given.... or
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on the blue task bar above you may also select "Members List" to look up personal profiles of people you wish to contact
If you need any further help in using SR, just ask.

**historyteach** · 03-07-2007, 09:01 AM

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and Cat's family.

Thank you for letting us know. I can only imagine your grief.

Shalom!

Talluleh · 03-07-2007, 09:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AcristicatAngel

I keep calling her cell phone (voice message box full) JUST to hear her voice over and over and over... Is this normal?

Angel, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your friend. I lost my best friend in June 2002, she was hit by a car and killed. I found myself calling her home and work voicemails constantly just to hear her voice. I don't know if it's normal but I did it too.

I am new to this site and didn't know Christine at all but I'm sure people that read her old posts will find comfort in her words here even though she is gone.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

AcristicatAngel · 03-07-2007, 09:41 AM

Much thanks and love to you all! I truly feel at "home" here and as though I'm still with OUR girl... I will be staying and sharing with all of you and appreciate, with all my heart, all your kindness, sympathy, condolences and comfort you've passed on to me, which I will pass on to Christine's/Cat's family. I will be back over the weekend (I need to work, but am finding it impossible and feel like "quitting", so I can try to deal with my grief). This has helped more than anything you can imagine and you are all an inspiration to me! My heart goes out to all of you who struggle. My thoughts and prayers are with each and everyone of you, whom Cat so lovingly adored...

All My Love ~

anvilhead · 03-07-2007, 10:20 AM

angel - such tragic news.....there aren't words adequate for the sorrow and loss you must feel. your love for aristicat is so evident and i know her life was blessed to have you be a part of it. please know we are here to support you. so sorry for the reasons that brought you here, but somewhere the universe in it's divine wisdom opened this pathway....

**Alera** · 03-07-2007, 10:50 AM

Angel, cats was special to many of us. Every time I saw her picture in a thread, I would start humming that song "Everybody wants to be a cat" from the movie the Aristocats.

Here are two boards here at SR that you may find helpful. The first is for those who have an addict in our lives. For some of us, the addict has passed on to better places, but we all have a lot in common:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...tance-abusers/
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers

Here is a direct link to the Grief and Loss forum:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/grief-loss/

AcristicatAngel · 03-07-2007, 11:00 AM

Thanks SO very much. I will endeavor to check out those sites and very much appreciate your thoughtfullness! Right now, I should be working, but am going to crawl into bed for some much-needed sleep, which has completely eluded me since I received "that" phone call about Cat. I will be around and would love to stay in touch and "catch up" with all who are interested in sharing and grieving for Cat....

Love and Peace ~

**BigSis** · 03-07-2007, 11:12 AM

(((Acristacatangel))) Please accept my condolences on the loss of Christine. Her picture was so vibrant and beautiful, I often stopped to read her posts both here and at another board she was on. Her death hits hard.

Thank you for allowing us the time and space to work through out grief and pain... this is the second death here in a very short time.

You are a good friend, thank you for being strong enough to bring this news to her online friends.

(((Maryanne)))

Smyle · 03-07-2007, 12:02 PM

I am so very sorry to hear that beautiful cat is gone....

I am once again..numb....

It is tragic and so very sad....

thank you for telling us....and kiss that boy for us and hug him tight....

~Beezy

chichi · 03-07-2007, 01:04 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this tragic news. My sincerest condolences to all who loved her.
chichi

***Doug*** · 03-07-2007, 01:20 PM

Dammit.

Maryanne my condolences to you and Cat's family, I am very sorry. Thank you for taking the time and effort to get here and let us know.

racegirl2448 · 03-07-2007, 01:24 PM

I am racegirl..... I started working 14-16hr days around January 22nd ...the new job kept me from logging in as much as I used to. I only worked about a month but I have asked about Christine numerous times mostly through Private Messages though.
I am crying right now actually as I just was told the horrible news. I kept missing her when she's log on I would be off...I'd log in and she'd be off. Damn it!!!!!
Christine-Miki & myself were always on here together for a long time.... I did not know her as long as you did Angel but..... we got along so friggin well and I treasure the friendship I was able to have for the time I had it. I just regret not trying harder to get in touch with her...I regret not forcing myself to stay up later (when working) to talk to her. I feel like ****.... I was planning to visit her this summer.....she invited me to drive the hour or so and stay the whole summer if I wanted..... that was the last Private Message I got from her about the time I started working. OH MY GOD!!!! NOT CAT!!!
Thank You MIKI for insisting I call you..... you and Christine were the very first people that offered me friendship.... both of you with the big hearts, Cat always looked out and asked how I was before I even got a chance to ask her how she was.... she always made me smile when I was bummed out.....even though she was so sad she loved talking about her little 3yr old Reese, she loved her other son and daughter so much. Although she is no longer with us..... I will never forget her....ever.... sometimes you do not need to be friends with someone for a long time to know that they touched your life in a way that you will always remember and for that I say " THANK YOU CHRISTINE"....and I love ya babe!!!!! (( kisses & hugz forever))
I wish I would not have worked that month.... wish I could have been a better friend.... I gotta go for the moment...the tears are flowing...need a short break....be back later
AGAIN...
ANGEL I am so so so so sorry you lost your friend....... and please tell Chris's kids & ex-hubby (the EMT...if I remember right....she spoke kindly of him) that her friend Darlene from Massachusettes sends her love and a heartfelt "I am sorry for their loss"...... she will be missed.
ANGEL... do not feel strange for calling her cell phone to hear her voice..... I did the same thing at one time when a friend of mine passed unexpectedly...... sometimes just hearing their voice helps....sometimes it hurts more but.... if you wanna do it then please do not think it is stupid or crazy. When my Nana (grandma) passed in 1998 I took one of her jackets and slept in it for like a month just to smell her perfume....now that is strange.

***Doug*** · 03-07-2007, 01:28 PM

Her last posts....."stickied" in memory of.

Again.....sadly....

mikiglen · 03-07-2007, 01:29 PM

thanks for the sticky, doug
she deserves it

waldo · 03-07-2007, 01:45 PM

I didn't know Cat, but my condolences to everyone who are feeling the pain of her loss, especially her family and Maryanne.

Waldo

janeeyre · 03-07-2007, 02:04 PM

I didn't know her either, but my heart goes out to you, Maryanne, as well as the others she's left behind. I am so, so sorry.

ccgirl · 03-07-2007, 02:27 PM

Aristacatangel; I pm'd you. I live very near. If there's anything I can do, please let me know.

03-07-2007, 08:18 AM	#26 (permalink)
mikiglen Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: here, there, everywhere Posts: 2,122	thanks kj, angel cat had come and gone a lot the last several weeks, so this was not uncommon. i stayed in touch with her more through im's than on here. i guess i didn't think...who wants to believe that someone hasn't been on because of this? i will pm you in a bit, angel __________________ Now and again we try To just stay alive Maybe we'll turn it all around 'Cause it's not too late It's never too late

03-07-2007, 08:21 AM	#29 (permalink)
*indigo* Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,133	So very very sorry to hear this news. indigo __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

03-07-2007, 08:25 AM	#30 (permalink)
teke grateful rca Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: hidden between states Posts: 3,427	angel, i am so sorry to hear of your loss and ours. i am devestated and full of sorrow, this is the 2nd member of our family to past within 2wks. i do know what its like to lose a best friend too, i am so sorry. you are in a good place here and we welcome you with open arms, you do belong here with us. i'll keep you, and her entire family in my prayers, saying a special prayer for her husband and kids. may she rest in peace, and may god be with you all. know that she will be missed and thank you for thinking of us. i usually post in the friends and family of substance abuse forum too, we'd love to have you visit us sometimes too. __________________ GOD LOVES YOU AND SO DO I

03-07-2007, 08:27 AM	#31 (permalink)
mikiglen Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: here, there, everywhere Posts: 2,122	angel, you can do it that way, there is so much stuff on this forum. there is also a grief forum as well that might help you you are in no way intruding...thank you for posting here, we are glad you did. i have pm'd you, so feel free to ask/talk about anything there or here. sending you a big hug __________________ Now and again we try To just stay alive Maybe we'll turn it all around 'Cause it's not too late It's never too late

03-07-2007, 08:30 AM	#32 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 15,187	Prayers for comfort going out to all who love Cat __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

03-07-2007, 08:20 AM	#27 (permalink)
Candy Scratch Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 529	Angel (and to all who knew Christine) Thank you for writing. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please give a hug to each of her children from all of us here at SR. Sending you much strength to get through this. Peace and love, C

03-07-2007, 08:21 AM	#28 (permalink)
AcristicatAngel Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Cape Cod, MA Posts: 18	THANK YOU, MikiGlen ~ As I said, I feel like an intruder but also feel a stronger need to keep Christine's memory alive and her spirit with us always! I think I need help here, because I'm not doing well at all... It would be a great comfort to be able to share stories about Cat, as you all so lovingly call her, and I would love more than anything to do that. Right now I'm trying to deal with all else in life, including my brother who I've taken in who is an alcoholic, addict, and compulsive gambler (currently in an in-house rehab and 2 months clean and sober ~ I'm SO proud). If any of you have any questions you would like answered, please do not hesitate to ask. I promise to you that I will tell you all that I can regarding Christine's passing. I can only say, at this time, that Chad told me she "drank herself to death" when he called me last Friday. I'm pretty sure there was something in addition to that, but toxicology reports will not be back for 6-8 weeks, maybe longer : ( And.. is it really important? I don't know. I don't know anything right now. I just know that I will never see my beloved Christine again and the pain is almost unbearable. I keep calling her cell phone (voice message box full) JUST to hear her voice over and over and over... Is this normal? Again, I don't know... I would love, when I'm able to, to share some insight and stories about our friend, Cat. Where exactly do I go to do that? I ended up going to her name and clicking on that and just reading all her posts, yours in return, etc. Is that how I should continue? It seems there are so many different areas and I'm afraid I might miss something or go to the wrong (?) forum/post/thread, etc. Thanks for all your help and prayers. It is a tremendous gift to me! Angel

03-07-2007, 08:52 AM	#33 (permalink)
Done-With-It InAButtonKindOfWay. Seriously? Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hollywood Posts: 8,250 Blog Entries: 15	Maryanne, I am so glad you are here. She was loved by so many of us, and I know she was trying so hard. Her spirit was so great, I adored her. We may not have always looked for her when she was gone, but I 'did' always notice and was always a little concerned when she wasn't around. Her pm's were always so full of life and full of fight, this disease knows no boundaries. I am with you all in spirit, and please stick around, You are just as welcome as she was, We would love to have you around here. Much love and light to you all, DWI __________________ Living in fast forward Hollywood RockStar outta control Need to rewind real slow Alwys Runin Time to take control Oh yeah ...

03-07-2007, 08:56 AM	#34 (permalink)
*cmc* Community Greeter Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: a good state of mind Posts: 9,548	I'm so sorry. I hope you will continue to come here and share your thoughts and feelings, and -yes, what happened to your dear friend will help many others who struggle with addiction. We are here for you and again, please accept my heartfelt condolences. cmc If you want to send a pm to someone- here are some tips: you may click on their avatar/under their screen name, and select from the options given.... or you may go to the top right of each page here and click on "private messages" on the blue task bar above you may also select "Members List" to look up personal profiles of people you wish to contact If you need any further help in using SR, just ask. __________________ Every day is a gift.

03-07-2007, 09:01 AM	#35 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: centered again Posts: 8,006	My thoughts and prayers go out to you and Cat's family. Thank you for letting us know. I can only imagine your grief. Shalom! __________________

03-07-2007, 09:41 AM	#37 (permalink)
AcristicatAngel Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Cape Cod, MA Posts: 18	Much thanks and love to you all! I truly feel at "home" here and as though I'm still with OUR girl... I will be staying and sharing with all of you and appreciate, with all my heart, all your kindness, sympathy, condolences and comfort you've passed on to me, which I will pass on to Christine's/Cat's family. I will be back over the weekend (I need to work, but am finding it impossible and feel like "quitting", so I can try to deal with my grief). This has helped more than anything you can imagine and you are all an inspiration to me! My heart goes out to all of you who struggle. My thoughts and prayers are with each and everyone of you, whom Cat so lovingly adored... All My Love ~

03-07-2007, 10:20 AM	#38 (permalink)
anvilhead Honorary Cheesehead Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Western Washington Posts: 7,036	angel - such tragic news.....there aren't words adequate for the sorrow and loss you must feel. your love for aristicat is so evident and i know her life was blessed to have you be a part of it. please know we are here to support you. so sorry for the reasons that brought you here, but somewhere the universe in it's divine wisdom opened this pathway.... Last edited by anvilhead; 03-07-2007 at 10:21 AM. Reason: spelling error

03-07-2007, 10:50 AM	#39 (permalink)
Alera SR's SMART Goth Mod Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: SoCal Posts: 1,892	Angel, cats was special to many of us. Every time I saw her picture in a thread, I would start humming that song "Everybody wants to be a cat" from the movie the Aristocats. Here are two boards here at SR that you may find helpful. The first is for those who have an addict in our lives. For some of us, the addict has passed on to better places, but we all have a lot in common: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...tance-abusers/ Friends and Family of Substance Abusers Here is a direct link to the Grief and Loss forum: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/grief-loss/ __________________ Copyright © 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008 Alera The addiction will protect itself ... AT ALL COSTS.

03-07-2007, 11:00 AM	#40 (permalink)
AcristicatAngel Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Cape Cod, MA Posts: 18	Thanks SO very much. I will endeavor to check out those sites and very much appreciate your thoughtfullness! Right now, I should be working, but am going to crawl into bed for some much-needed sleep, which has completely eluded me since I received "that" phone call about Cat. I will be around and would love to stay in touch and "catch up" with all who are interested in sharing and grieving for Cat.... Love and Peace ~

03-07-2007, 11:12 AM	#41 (permalink)
BigSis On a tear Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Volcano Country! Posts: 3,164	(((Acristacatangel))) Please accept my condolences on the loss of Christine. Her picture was so vibrant and beautiful, I often stopped to read her posts both here and at another board she was on. Her death hits hard. Thank you for allowing us the time and space to work through out grief and pain... this is the second death here in a very short time. You are a good friend, thank you for being strong enough to bring this news to her online friends. (((Maryanne))) __________________ No matter how spoiled the past may be, our future is spotless.... BigSis

03-07-2007, 12:02 PM	#42 (permalink)
Smyle Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Newfie-Land, Mo Posts: 1,623	I am so very sorry to hear that beautiful cat is gone.... I am once again..numb.... It is tragic and so very sad.... thank you for telling us....and kiss that boy for us and hug him tight.... ~Beezy

03-07-2007, 01:04 PM	#43 (permalink)
chichi Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NJ Posts: 36	I'm so sorry to hear this tragic news. My sincerest condolences to all who loved her. chichi

03-07-2007, 01:20 PM	#44 (permalink)
*Doug* Administrator Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: SR. (OFTEN imitated, never duplicated) Posts: 1,347	Dammit. Maryanne my condolences to you and Cat's family, I am very sorry. Thank you for taking the time and effort to get here and let us know.

03-07-2007, 01:24 PM	#45 (permalink)
racegirl2448 Goin'....Goin'....Gone! Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: planet earth ( I think...) Posts: 342	I am racegirl..... I started working 14-16hr days around January 22nd ...the new job kept me from logging in as much as I used to. I only worked about a month but I have asked about Christine numerous times mostly through Private Messages though. I am crying right now actually as I just was told the horrible news. I kept missing her when she's log on I would be off...I'd log in and she'd be off. Damn it!!!!! Christine-Miki & myself were always on here together for a long time.... I did not know her as long as you did Angel but..... we got along so friggin well and I treasure the friendship I was able to have for the time I had it. I just regret not trying harder to get in touch with her...I regret not forcing myself to stay up later (when working) to talk to her. I feel like ****.... I was planning to visit her this summer.....she invited me to drive the hour or so and stay the whole summer if I wanted..... that was the last Private Message I got from her about the time I started working. OH MY GOD!!!! NOT CAT!!! Thank You MIKI for insisting I call you..... you and Christine were the very first people that offered me friendship.... both of you with the big hearts, Cat always looked out and asked how I was before I even got a chance to ask her how she was.... she always made me smile when I was bummed out.....even though she was so sad she loved talking about her little 3yr old Reese, she loved her other son and daughter so much. Although she is no longer with us..... I will never forget her....ever.... sometimes you do not need to be friends with someone for a long time to know that they touched your life in a way that you will always remember and for that I say " THANK YOU CHRISTINE"....and I love ya babe!!!!! (( kisses & hugz forever)) I wish I would not have worked that month.... wish I could have been a better friend.... I gotta go for the moment...the tears are flowing...need a short break....be back later AGAIN... ANGEL I am so so so so sorry you lost your friend....... and please tell Chris's kids & ex-hubby (the EMT...if I remember right....she spoke kindly of him) that her friend Darlene from Massachusettes sends her love and a heartfelt "I am sorry for their loss"...... she will be missed. ANGEL... do not feel strange for calling her cell phone to hear her voice..... I did the same thing at one time when a friend of mine passed unexpectedly...... sometimes just hearing their voice helps....sometimes it hurts more but.... if you wanna do it then please do not think it is stupid or crazy. When my Nana (grandma) passed in 1998 I took one of her jackets and slept in it for like a month just to smell her perfume....now that is strange.

03-07-2007, 01:28 PM	#46 (permalink)
*Doug* Administrator Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: SR. (OFTEN imitated, never duplicated) Posts: 1,347	Her last posts....."stickied" in memory of. Again.....sadly....

03-07-2007, 01:29 PM	#47 (permalink)
mikiglen Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: here, there, everywhere Posts: 2,122	thanks for the sticky, doug she deserves it __________________ Now and again we try To just stay alive Maybe we'll turn it all around 'Cause it's not too late It's never too late

03-07-2007, 01:45 PM	#48 (permalink)
waldo Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: tampa florida Posts: 100	My Condolences I didn't know Cat, but my condolences to everyone who are feeling the pain of her loss, especially her family and Maryanne. Waldo

03-07-2007, 02:04 PM	#49 (permalink)
janeeyre Guest Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 1,526	I didn't know her either, but my heart goes out to you, Maryanne, as well as the others she's left behind. I am so, so sorry.

03-07-2007, 02:27 PM	#50 (permalink)
ccgirl Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Harwich, MA Posts: 2,593	Aristacatangel; I pm'd you. I live very near. If there's anything I can do, please let me know.