Intro Step 10 - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

**CatsPajamas** · 08-29-2010, 07:59 AM

This is an online Step Study. Each of the 12 steps will have its own thread, so you can participate at whatever level you are comfortable and discuss your own experience with concepts in each step. It’s a combination and compilation of step studies – some from Al Anon, some from Nar Anon and some from CODA.

Sources include Paths To Recovery, Al-Anon’s Steps, Traditions and Concepts ©1997and How Al Anon Works for Families and Friends of Alcoholics ©1995, along with some readings from Courage to Change, One Day at a Time in Al Anon II ©1992.

Each of us works the steps in our time, and in our own manner. Most often, step work is done by those who attend face-to-face meetings and have a sponsor. That doesn’t mean that you MUST, it’s just a suggestion. Please don’t feel as though you must rush thru these steps… it took some of us a few years in the program before we began, and we found ourselves stuck on at least one of the steps for a year or more. The questions and postings here will be an outline, a framework from which you can begin your journey. If nothing else, the questions will provoke some thought and self-reflection, and some great discussions and dialogue.

Others who have worked the steps before may find that they wish to do the steps again. Many people who work one step per month every year – 12 steps for 12 months. The more you learn about yourself, the more you know, and the more you wish to learn!

Step 10: Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

Step 10 is the beginning of what some members refer to as the maintenance steps. Others call them the continuous-growth steps. Step 10 helps us to keep the principles and tools of the previous Steps working in our daily lives. To maintain our serenity and continue to grow, we continue to inventory ourselves and make amends to others.

With Step 10 we try to keep our slate clean in order not to slip back into self-destructive patterns. Slips are especially likely to occur in times of stress, when it is natural to retreat into old, defensive behaviors. Recovery does not cure us of every human imperfection or eliminate all the pain in our lives. But it gives us the tools to deal with our problems and to continually work to improve ourselves

Some members find it useful to make a chart that includes a list of typical personal weaknesses and strengths that can be checked off before going to bed. A mental review of the day chronologically or taking note of an event that produced and comfortable feelings also works. The following questions may help develop the habit of continual inventory.

What is the purpose of step ten?

How do I feel about take a personal inventory?

What means of taking daily inventory is comfortable?

What will help me continue to apply program tools when life gets rough?

How can I be patient with myself if I feel I’m not growing fast enough?

When might I need to take a spot-check?

What can I do with my spot check inventory?

In a daily inventory, I can ask myself:

What were the major events of the day?

What feelings did I experience?

How did I deal with them?

Did I get myself involved in any situation today that I had no business being in?

What can help me to accept myself as I make mistakes again and again?

Did fear or faith rule my actions today?

How can I admit my wrong despite my pride and fear that it will be used against me?

Am I at fault for trying for peace at any price? What are my motives?

How do I know when to make amends and when not to?

What positive traits did I exhibit today?

What negative traits did I exhibit today?

How did I try to fix anyone today?

How can I “Let Go and Let God “?

Did I abandon my own needs today? How?

Have I been too accommodating, saying “yes” when I wanted to say “no”?

Was I afraid of an authority figure? Of anyone? Why or why not?

What small things can I do to practice standing up for myself?

How did I take on anyone else’s responsibility today?

What am I afraid will happen if I don’t take on extra responsibility?

If I was wrong, did I promptly admit it?

What can I do to take good care of myself today?

Is there something that I need to take a longer look at? What is it?

Have I done something difficult or particularly well today? How can I appreciate myself for it?

How could sharing my daily tenth step inventory with another person, such as my sponsor, help me?

What characteristics show up most often in my inventory?

Why do I resist having them removed?

After practicing the tenth step, how have my feelings about it changed?

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CatsPajamas Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In my little piece of heaven Posts: 3,064	Intro Step 10 This is an online Step Study. Each of the 12 steps will have its own thread, so you can participate at whatever level you are comfortable and discuss your own experience with concepts in each step. It’s a combination and compilation of step studies – some from Al Anon, some from Nar Anon and some from CODA. Sources include Paths To Recovery, Al-Anon’s Steps, Traditions and Concepts ©1997and How Al Anon Works for Families and Friends of Alcoholics ©1995, along with some readings from Courage to Change, One Day at a Time in Al Anon II ©1992. Each of us works the steps in our time, and in our own manner. Most often, step work is done by those who attend face-to-face meetings and have a sponsor. That doesn’t mean that you MUST, it’s just a suggestion. Please don’t feel as though you must rush thru these steps… it took some of us a few years in the program before we began, and we found ourselves stuck on at least one of the steps for a year or more. The questions and postings here will be an outline, a framework from which you can begin your journey. If nothing else, the questions will provoke some thought and self-reflection, and some great discussions and dialogue. Others who have worked the steps before may find that they wish to do the steps again. Many people who work one step per month every year – 12 steps for 12 months. The more you learn about yourself, the more you know, and the more you wish to learn! Step 10: Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Step 10 is the beginning of what some members refer to as the maintenance steps. Others call them the continuous-growth steps. Step 10 helps us to keep the principles and tools of the previous Steps working in our daily lives. To maintain our serenity and continue to grow, we continue to inventory ourselves and make amends to others. With Step 10 we try to keep our slate clean in order not to slip back into self-destructive patterns. Slips are especially likely to occur in times of stress, when it is natural to retreat into old, defensive behaviors. Recovery does not cure us of every human imperfection or eliminate all the pain in our lives. But it gives us the tools to deal with our problems and to continually work to improve ourselves Some members find it useful to make a chart that includes a list of typical personal weaknesses and strengths that can be checked off before going to bed. A mental review of the day chronologically or taking note of an event that produced and comfortable feelings also works. The following questions may help develop the habit of continual inventory. What is the purpose of step ten? How do I feel about take a personal inventory? What means of taking daily inventory is comfortable? What will help me continue to apply program tools when life gets rough? How can I be patient with myself if I feel I’m not growing fast enough? When might I need to take a spot-check? What can I do with my spot check inventory? In a daily inventory, I can ask myself: What were the major events of the day? What feelings did I experience? How did I deal with them? Did I get myself involved in any situation today that I had no business being in? What can help me to accept myself as I make mistakes again and again? Did fear or faith rule my actions today? How can I admit my wrong despite my pride and fear that it will be used against me? Am I at fault for trying for peace at any price? What are my motives? How do I know when to make amends and when not to? What positive traits did I exhibit today? What negative traits did I exhibit today? How did I try to fix anyone today? How can I “Let Go and Let God “? Did I abandon my own needs today? How? Have I been too accommodating, saying “yes” when I wanted to say “no”? Was I afraid of an authority figure? Of anyone? Why or why not? What small things can I do to practice standing up for myself? How did I take on anyone else’s responsibility today? What am I afraid will happen if I don’t take on extra responsibility? If I was wrong, did I promptly admit it? What can I do to take good care of myself today? Is there something that I need to take a longer look at? What is it? Have I done something difficult or particularly well today? How can I appreciate myself for it? How could sharing my daily tenth step inventory with another person, such as my sponsor, help me? What characteristics show up most often in my inventory? Why do I resist having them removed? After practicing the tenth step, how have my feelings about it changed? __________________ What other people think of me is really none of my business!

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