This step scares me.

[James13]

I am frightened about this step, because I have alot of guilt I have dealt with and continue to deal with about myself. While I have not started actually working the steps, seeing alot of happy people who have has made me interested and attracted to working them.

I have a close friend who confided in only me about some pretty serious things they had done, and when revealing this to their sponsor in step 5, their sponsor didn't even flinch, and actually forgave them for it.

I think that is a great thing, and makes it even more attractive to me, but I am still scared of this one. I think I will be ready for it after I work steps 1-4.

[sugErspun]

Exactly - step 5 can look pretty daunting, heck step 9 looked even worse!

That is why there is 1-4.

Once I had a complete 4th step - I was more than willing to read it, discuss it with another...I had to be rid of that stuff and the 5th step was the action I took. The book says that we THINK we have learned of humility, fearlessness and honesty - it becomes a reality when we sit down and look someone in the eye and LET IT OUT.

You will be ready, or else it won't happen - and if it doesn't happen it is my belief that an alcoholic of my type will drink again (I don't think I am alone in this belief). I think most people who never do the 5th never really finish the 4th because they think they had an option at the 3rd because they really didn't come to believe at the 2nd because they have reservations about step 1.

[noad]

You move at your pace but some of the greatest relief was doing it because I needed too. A major relief was when I did a spiritual releif........Your choice...LUCK

[Charmie]

the steps are in order for a reason! i got to four and five and found i couldnt put the pen down on four once i got going and it was a little uncomfortable doing five but i was ready to get rid of all the things that were "blocking" me from living a better life.it was easier than i thought and i asked my sponsor if it should have been so? she said i had done solid 1,2,3 so yes.i burst into tears after my "confession" and she asked me if i had found it tough and i said no,i just found it terribly sad that i had been running round my whole life full of fear for 37 years.when i started working with her i kept jumping through the book,thinking i was doing a bit of ground work,or homework if you like.but she told me as we hadnt got there yet in her "official capacity" of taking me through them,they were none of my business yet! well that put me in my place.please do not worry about something that you have no idea of what you are worrying at just yet! waste of energy i would say!,,im delighted you have decided to get on the programme.it has opened up a whole new world to me.i have a new set of eyes and a new heart thanks to the God given 12 step recovery programme of Alcoholics Anonymous.i wish you well.

[LuvinMe]

I remember being scared as well.. I think my sponser felt it. A month before we began my 4th step, she tells me a story of a young lady who lied all thru out her forth and ended up relapsing at about 2 yrs clean.

Welp that scared the heck outta me and I didnt wanna relapse, I told my sponser how I felt & that I didnt feel comfortable telling another woman all my business, she laughed and said I have probaly done things a lot worse than you! lol... she wasnt kidding eitha!

Finally when it came time, she got off of work, came and got me, we prayed and I promise that woman didnt flinch... I love her so much... what a relief off my back!

Dont be afraid, just let it go...