What the Big Book says about Step 5

[nandm]

Bill W. took the Fifth Step with Ebby T. 13:10

My school mate visited me, and I fully acquainted him with my problems and deficiencies.

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Confessions of shortcomings 25:4

Almost none of us liked the self-searching, the leveling of our pride, the confession of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation.

This program works. We may apply it to our lives if we choose to. Should we desire to give the AA program a try, this paragraph lists a few of the requirements for success.

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Admitted to God and to another 59:12

Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Here the program of action is laid out for us to examine. If we have taken the first two steps toward recovery, we can now decide whether we want to continue. To go on as we have been, or to accept a way of life based on the conscious awareness of the existence of God, what is our choice to be?

Awakening spiritually does not stop us from being human. At times we willfully disregard the will of our Higher Power. We try to apply these principles in every area of our lives, but being human we sometimes fall short. The benefits of trying to lead a spiritually based life are so great that we return to the path as soon as we recognize the errors of our ways. As we progress spiritually, the time we spend in the darkness of self-will lessons and the time we spend in the Sunlight of the Spirit lengthens.

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If we skip this vital step 72:13

The reason first: if we skip this vital step, we may not overcome drinking.

This is a practical program. We do it because it works. The experience of millions of recovered alcoholics is impossible to deny. If we fail to follow our third step decision with these actions, it likely will have no permanent effects (64:1). If we cannot establish a relationship with a Power greater than ourselves, we may not recover from alcoholism (44:3-4).

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Wondered why they failed 73:1-5

Having persevered with the rest of the program, they wondered why they fell. We think the reason is that they never completed their house cleaning. They took inventory all right, but hung on to some of the worst items in stock. They only thought they had lost their egoism and fear; they only thought they had humbled themselves. But they had not learned enough of humility, fearlessness, and honesty, in the sense we find in necessary, until they told someone else all their life story.

This explains why we need to take all of the steps in order. As we work the following steps our understanding of the previous ones broadens and deepens. Picking and choosing which steps we prefer to take produces little or no results. This is a suggested program not a program of suggestions. Each subsequent step depends and builds upon our experience with each of the earlier steps. Few who have not admitted powerlessness will be willing to abandon their old way of life and adopt a new one. Few who are unwilling to believe in a Power greater than themselves will decide to turn their will and life over to the care of God. Why do a moral inventory if we are not seeking to be rid of those aspects of ourselves that block us from God? What admission can we make to God, ourselves and another person if we have not developed the insight to recognize the real problem? We need to take all the steps to successfully overcome alcoholism.

The authors are being polite and trying to avoid making judgments of us. Let us not fool ourselves into believing that they are referring to someone else. Cross out the word “they” in ever sentence and replace it with “I.” We need to learn the benefits of this way of life first hand. We need to have our own individual spiritual experiences. Practicing the fifth step enables us to directly experience this spiritually based way of life and to reap its benefits.

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Directions for the Fifth Step 75:7-23

We pocket our pride and go to it, illuminating every twist of character, every dark cranny of the past. Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we are delighted. We can look the world in the eye. We can be alone at perfect peace and ease. Our fears fall from us. We begin to feel the nearness of our Creator. We may have had certain spiritual beliefs, but now we begin to have a spiritual experience. The feeling that the drink problem has disappeared will often come strongly. We feel we are on the Broad Highway, walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the Universe.

Returning home we find a place where we can be quiet for an hour, carefully reviewing what we have done. We thank God from the bottom of our heart that we know Him better. Taking this book down from our shelf we turn to the page which contains the twelve steps. Carefully reading the first five proposals we ask is we have omitted anything, for we are building an arch through which we shall walk a free man at last. Is our work solid so far? Are the stones properly in place? Have we skimped on the cement put into the foundation? Have we tried to make mortar without sand?

This list of promises, which are the result of taking our Fifth Step, make it all worthwhile. This is a very practical program. It works! If we did not realize results form adopting these principles we would abandon them. One benefit is that humility replaces humiliation. Instead of the pain of humiliation that we fear exposing of our secrets will bring, we gain the peace of forgiveness. We are able to forgive ourselves for being human and full of faults. We can see the path ahead that leads us to the type of life we have always wished we could live.

Experience is the best teacher. We gain experience by repeated practice of the techniques explained in each of the twelve steps. This is our own personal experience gained through direct application of spiritual principles to solve our problems. As we progress we develop faith that God will give us the help we need.

These are specific instructions for preparing for the sixth step. We become entirely ready to have God remove our defects of character by taking the five previous steps. Our admission of powerlessness over alcohol and unmanageability of our lives turns us necessarily to a Power greater than ourselves. Making the decision to turn our lives over to the care of God sends us on the quest to face and be rid of the things in us that block us off from God. By indentifying our failings and admitting them to God, ourselves and another human being, we become entirely ready to have God remove them.

The admission of our defects brings us closer to God. When we draw close, God is revealed to us (57:12). The instruction for this prayer is simple. The expression of our gratitude to God places us in the proper frame of mind to continue with the next steps.

An arch is a stable and strong structure capable of withstanding pressure and strain. The component pieces of an arch work together to support themselves, thus each component part of the arch is necessary. The omission of any part of the arch will cause the whole structure to fall.

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We have admitted in confidence 78:22

We have already admitted this in confidence to another person, but we are sure we would be imprisoned or lose our job if it were known.

Most of us, sharing common character defects, bring similar types of trouble into our lives. Greed causes us to steal in large or small amounts, envy causes us to slander or gossip, sloth causes us to neglect our responsibilities, wrath causes us to lose control, gluttony causes us to seek more pleasures than are good for us, pride causes us to put up false fronts and lust causes us to damage our relationships. These defects, present in various degrees, have the power to control us until we admit to ourselves, to God and to another person, that they exist and ask God to remove them. Being free from the control of these shortcomings, we then take the actions described in the Ninth Step to bring our new found faith to life.

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Requires discussion 94:15

He may rebel at the thought of a drastic housecleaning which requires discussion with other people.

If we know ourselves well, we will be able to anticipate the suggestions our prospects will balk at. When we are new we are sometimes confused about the cause of our problems. A moral inventory followed by an admission of our faults to another person may seem as though it will not address our problems. Confusing pride with self-esteem, and humility with humiliation we think that admitting our faults to others will make us feel worse about ourselves. We may feel that if only we felt better about ourselves we would not drink so much. Our progress depends upon our willingness to abandon our old ideas and to give this new way of life an honest try. We find that the source of genuine self-esteem is humility rather than pride.

[jimhere]

Judith,
I wanted to thank you for the time and effort you are putting into this. I always want to add my two cents to these Big Book posts of yours, but after I read them, there's not much I can add.
Jim

[Rob B]

Ditto, your service is important and appreciated.

[nandm]

Thank you both.

Both of you have been a part of challenging me to learn more about the Big Book, the Steps, the Principles, and how it all relates to recovery. For that I thank you.

I have truly enjoyed the learning experience I am getting as I find and post these things. At nearly 7 years of sobriety it is about time I learned these things. Although I am realizing that I will not be able to learn it all in a lifetime. Hopefully though with the continued application and study of this program I will continue to stay sober and grow.

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A lot went down and no questions asked?

Do we learn form our questions or others answers?
If it is answers why did we not get this long ago from our parents/police/friends/wife's on and on.

That's why we had to 1st trust in God and 2ndClean house 3rd give freely of what we find.

How does someone help another with their past when they were not even there? do we have something backwards?

How many does it fearlessly as the Big Book BEGS US TO?
How many does it out of fear imposed by others?
How many has "PERSONAL" willingness? Instead of being told
How many are scared or conned into it out of fear? instead of live and let live
How many can love a drunk for who they are the way they are? Instead of want to change them
How many think they have to help change another to stay sober themselves? instead of one drunk freely talking with another
How many understand that help may not be help? carry the message not the Alcoholic
How many don't understand that it is a FREE GIFT given by God FREELY ?
How many believe there duty is to administer the steps to another instead of being their friend and allowing them to live and let live?
How many are responsible and able to look at the recovery rate today? 2%
How many are accountable and do not care? 98%
When was the last time you introduced someone to the fellowship of A.A.? Someone new not the many who already knew?

The questions are long and endless so are the solutions as long as our relationship with him is right - God works miracles through people as long as the don't claim it - a label is a claim and A.A. asks us not to use labels inside A.A. the Big Guy Little Guy arena is an illusion and the deletion we are like someone else "presently" has to be smashed - mutual and why? More answers than questions maybe?