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|07-13-2011, 11:08 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: West Bend, WI
Not sure where to start, all my friends drink. I can't just have one. Almost everything I do for fun involves drinking. When I drink I don't give my wife the respect she deserves. Where do I start on stoping.
|07-13-2011, 12:00 PM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Columbus, Ohio
Do you really want to stop drinking and stay stopped drinking? Because in order to accomplish that goal, it is going to require change. Change in activities, change in thinking, change in yourself, change in relationships, etc.
Assuming that you want to stop, there are some practical matters that need to be addressed. First, how much are you currently drinking? Have you had withdrawal symptoms in the past? Is detox/withdrawal going to be an issue for you?
Alcohol withdrawal can be life-threatening. It is always wise to consult with your doctor before quitting because he or she can provide assistance with a safe medical detox. Your doctor can also be a great source of referrals and resources.
Second, most people find that they need some sort of program or support to stop and stay stopped. I have found the program of Alcoholics Anonymous invaluable to me and key to my being able to stop drinking and stay stopped drinking.
AA is not the only resource or program available -- there are rehabs and treatment centers (both inpatient and outpatient), SMART, LifeRing, Rational Recovery, addictions counseling, group therapy, etc. You might check out the sticky notes for resources.
As for friends and drinking, have you considered asking your friends to do activities that do not involve drinking? If your friends are true friends, they will support and encourage you in your efforts not to drink. If they don't, then you may need to reevaluate your friendships.
One thing that is neat about AA is the extensive fellowship and support network that is available. Folks in AA do all sorts of fun things -- from camping, to motorcycling, to canoeing, to picnics/BBQs, to music festivals -- all without alcohol. One does not need to drink to have fun. In fact, sobriety is even more fun because one gets to be present for and to remember the activity. No guilt, shame, remorse, regret.
I hope the above is helpful to you. Others will be along shortly to share their thoughts. Susan
|07-13-2011, 12:35 PM||#3 (permalink)|
Join Date: May 2004
Blog Entries: 10
Welcome to SR Chaps!
Susan has some great things to say and I can't really add much right now. Looking forward to "seeing" you around here.
Good luck to you in your journey. It DOES get better. It just takes some time.
Advice is like snow; the softer it falls the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind.
--Samuel T. Coleridg
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|07-13-2011, 07:28 PM||#5 (permalink)|
12-Step Recovered Alcoholic
Join Date: May 2010
your life will do a 180 just as surely as mine did. best of all, you don't have to "fix" or "change" yourself......you can't anyway.....and if you could, you would have by now.
"We can't solve our problems using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." - Albert Einstein
/-all BB quotes-1st. Edition-\
|07-14-2011, 05:19 AM||#6 (permalink)|
Forward we go...side by side
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
when I wanted to stop drinking..I found local AA meetings and started on my recovery ..
Welcome Chaps ..my best to you and your wife..
Each Day Sober Is A Victory!!
Joy In AA Recovery!
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