Is today the day for me - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

lostsheep · 05-26-2011, 09:21 AM

I want today to be the day I do not drink, despite an awards ceremony. Any day will bring with it an excuse to put off my quit day. What can I do to get through this first night? Will be able to sleep? I don't want to be controlled by alcohol anymore. I've lost 4 yrs of my life and lost things I used to enjoy doing. Help

miller · 05-26-2011, 09:47 AM

If missing the awards ceremony is not an option, then I think pray before and during the ceremony. If need be take a break, go to the restroom and ask GOD to give you strength. I had to learn not to go to certain places where I know I will be tempted. Take in mind, I am only recently sober, so I know exactly where you are at. If you have someone you trust you can call if you feel the urge to drink, that can help you that would be great. If not, and you cant miss this, GOD is the answer. If you have faith, pray to him for strength, and be willing to whole heartedly reach up to him, HE WILL NOT LET YOU FAIL!!

lostsheep · 05-26-2011, 10:08 AM

The problem is not fear of drinking at awards ceremony, as it is being held at the high school, but the fear of either drinking before going or attempting to make today my quit date. I can come up with an array of excuses any day for not quitting. I hit rock bottom this morning when I woke up...slight hangover. I woke up and the first thing in my mind was "I have to quit drinking" and it was so hard getting kids ready for school when I felt like crying and begging someone to hold my hand. I even researched detox facilities in area but would like to try on my own before spending money we don't have. the end of the school year is always stressful; this open house, this ceremony, this Girl Scout night meeting, etc, and my oldest is graduating from high school, which is doing a number on me, and then family coming for grad party. Luckily that won't be until June 10.

Is it wrong to plan a quit date, like say Friday? I'm find during the day but night is the problem and if I know I have no obligations; hubby can make dinners and drop kids off here and there over weekend, and then maybe I can pay the piper as I go through the process. I don't know what to expect.

Last time I quit smoking, I scheduled a quit date and everyone in house knew to back off and not place any demands on me while I was stepping down (patch). Well, there is no patch was drinking cessation (I wish) and I don't want to be a burden to my children or husband, who incidentally has the flu. Lol. Independence Day movie, "I sure picked a fine time to quit drinking." I've done it before and went 7 yrs. I want my life back. I want to go on road trips, go shopping, take pictures, watch Disney movies with my kids, make dinners....without having to have a couple glasses of wine. Dear God, please give me the strength and carry me through this.

Pumpkin Soup · 05-26-2011, 10:15 AM

The best time to quit is now. You will get tons of support and advice from people in here. There will always be an excuse......

I wish you the very best of luck and whatever you decide keep coming back here for help.

If you really only have a couple of normal sized glasses of wine a day then its unlikely (but not definate) that your withdrawal will be dangerous. It would be advisable to speak to your doctor about it though and I strongly urge you to do that as soon as possible.

Good luck and I look forward to hearing of your progress. Im newly sober too, only on day 5 this time around and I am happy to go through this with you. I also have two young daughters, my eldest is at the end of secondary school also and its a very busy time for us all - all the more reason to be sober and feel well enough to deal with it and enjoy it!

Hope to hear from you again soon.

PS x

lostsheep · 05-26-2011, 10:28 AM

How do you deal with the muscle tightness, feeling as though blood rushing through veins, the agitation etc. My first thought was to go ahead and have a glass of wine before ceremony (no, can't miss it- scholarship being awarded to oldest). School only 6 min away. I don't know if ativan will help the withdrawals and I certainly don't want to miss this event. Don't know why they just couldn't tell us what the scholarship was. (sigh). I also have a hangover and am tryign to avoid the tail of the dog that bit me

Pumpkin Soup · 05-26-2011, 10:45 AM

You should really speak to your Dr about the symptoms you are having. Everyone varies but any hangover is horrible - having another drink will just delay the next one which will be that little bit (or possibly alot) worse.

Good luck I hope you manage to get through it.

lostsheep · 05-27-2011, 10:19 AM

Am seeing my psychiatrist who treats my anxiety and will be telling him of my plans. I'm hoping he won't send me off to some other dr, which will just delay my quit date. Hopefully he can aid me as far as dealing with potential withdrawal side effects. I have also told my family members that I am dependent on alcohol. This day is going to go by soooo slow.

daveinmd · 05-30-2011, 04:47 AM

I'm glad your here , and I'm glad you realize you have a problem. Alchohol is cunning baffling and powerfull, Tomorrow is a terrible day to quit drinking because tomorrow never comes. Theres allways another one,then another one. We can always find an excuse to drink, and you have allready found the reasons to quit. Which one of these is more important.

05-26-2011, 09:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
lostsheep lost sheep Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 23	Is today the day for me I want today to be the day I do not drink, despite an awards ceremony. Any day will bring with it an excuse to put off my quit day. What can I do to get through this first night? Will be able to sleep? I don't want to be controlled by alcohol anymore. I've lost 4 yrs of my life and lost things I used to enjoy doing. Help

05-26-2011, 10:15 AM	#4 (permalink)
Pumpkin Soup Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: near London, UK Posts: 574 Blog Entries: 1	The best time to quit is now. You will get tons of support and advice from people in here. There will always be an excuse...... I wish you the very best of luck and whatever you decide keep coming back here for help. If you really only have a couple of normal sized glasses of wine a day then its unlikely (but not definate) that your withdrawal will be dangerous. It would be advisable to speak to your doctor about it though and I strongly urge you to do that as soon as possible. Good luck and I look forward to hearing of your progress. Im newly sober too, only on day 5 this time around and I am happy to go through this with you. I also have two young daughters, my eldest is at the end of secondary school also and its a very busy time for us all - all the more reason to be sober and feel well enough to deal with it and enjoy it! Hope to hear from you again soon. PS x __________________

05-26-2011, 10:45 AM	#6 (permalink)
Pumpkin Soup Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: near London, UK Posts: 574 Blog Entries: 1	You should really speak to your Dr about the symptoms you are having. Everyone varies but any hangover is horrible - having another drink will just delay the next one which will be that little bit (or possibly alot) worse. Good luck I hope you manage to get through it. __________________

05-26-2011, 09:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
miller Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Midwest city, Oklahoma Posts: 10	If missing the awards ceremony is not an option, then I think pray before and during the ceremony. If need be take a break, go to the restroom and ask GOD to give you strength. I had to learn not to go to certain places where I know I will be tempted. Take in mind, I am only recently sober, so I know exactly where you are at. If you have someone you trust you can call if you feel the urge to drink, that can help you that would be great. If not, and you cant miss this, GOD is the answer. If you have faith, pray to him for strength, and be willing to whole heartedly reach up to him, HE WILL NOT LET YOU FAIL!!

05-26-2011, 10:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
lostsheep lost sheep Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 23	The problem is not fear of drinking at awards ceremony, as it is being held at the high school, but the fear of either drinking before going or attempting to make today my quit date. I can come up with an array of excuses any day for not quitting. I hit rock bottom this morning when I woke up...slight hangover. I woke up and the first thing in my mind was "I have to quit drinking" and it was so hard getting kids ready for school when I felt like crying and begging someone to hold my hand. I even researched detox facilities in area but would like to try on my own before spending money we don't have. the end of the school year is always stressful; this open house, this ceremony, this Girl Scout night meeting, etc, and my oldest is graduating from high school, which is doing a number on me, and then family coming for grad party. Luckily that won't be until June 10. Is it wrong to plan a quit date, like say Friday? I'm find during the day but night is the problem and if I know I have no obligations; hubby can make dinners and drop kids off here and there over weekend, and then maybe I can pay the piper as I go through the process. I don't know what to expect. Last time I quit smoking, I scheduled a quit date and everyone in house knew to back off and not place any demands on me while I was stepping down (patch). Well, there is no patch was drinking cessation (I wish) and I don't want to be a burden to my children or husband, who incidentally has the flu. Lol. Independence Day movie, "I sure picked a fine time to quit drinking." I've done it before and went 7 yrs. I want my life back. I want to go on road trips, go shopping, take pictures, watch Disney movies with my kids, make dinners....without having to have a couple glasses of wine. Dear God, please give me the strength and carry me through this.

05-26-2011, 10:28 AM	#5 (permalink)
lostsheep lost sheep Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 23	How do you deal with the muscle tightness, feeling as though blood rushing through veins, the agitation etc. My first thought was to go ahead and have a glass of wine before ceremony (no, can't miss it- scholarship being awarded to oldest). School only 6 min away. I don't know if ativan will help the withdrawals and I certainly don't want to miss this event. Don't know why they just couldn't tell us what the scholarship was. (sigh). I also have a hangover and am tryign to avoid the tail of the dog that bit me

05-27-2011, 10:19 AM	#7 (permalink)
lostsheep lost sheep Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 23	Am seeing my psychiatrist who treats my anxiety and will be telling him of my plans. I'm hoping he won't send me off to some other dr, which will just delay my quit date. Hopefully he can aid me as far as dealing with potential withdrawal side effects. I have also told my family members that I am dependent on alcohol. This day is going to go by soooo slow.

05-30-2011, 04:47 AM	#8 (permalink)
daveinmd In Memory of Dave Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Port Republic Md Posts: 25 Blog Entries: 2	I'm glad your here , and I'm glad you realize you have a problem. Alchohol is cunning baffling and powerfull, Tomorrow is a terrible day to quit drinking because tomorrow never comes. Theres allways another one,then another one. We can always find an excuse to drink, and you have allready found the reasons to quit. Which one of these is more important.

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