What does unmanageable mean?
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Join Date: Nov 2009
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Originally Posted by ananda 
middle of page 52...sums it up for me.
Surely I'm missing the point of life.
Grouch and Brainstorm
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 238
Originally Posted by ananda
just remember, step 1..the bedevilments...thats all about the problem.
The rest of the steps are about the answer
I can't stay sober on step 1.
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The rest of the steps are about the answer
I can't stay sober on step 1.
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Wombling Free
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Thailand
Posts: 60
Thank you for posting this Spryte.
I have had an awful lot of trouble getting step one, I just could not believe that with 2 new cars in the drive, 2 homes, a loving wife, enough money to retire at 49..where is the unmanagability? How was I powerless?
This is more than likely the reason why I could not after 16 months of constant relapsing stay stopped, I still thought I was in charge. Like others I drank at home, bad things don't hapen to me when I drink at home and I dont make such an ass of myself.
So I come on here and I find what I am looking for. I am only 13 days sober again, my last drink/drunk was on my birthday....I made an ass of myself, puking up and having to be poured into my car by my wife and a friend, we nearly got mugged as I had wandered away and was lying on the ground in my own puke, but my wife and her friend found me just as some guys on a bike were pulling up ready to have a go.
So thats manageability for me?
I NEVER want to be like that ever again, reading the remarks that have been posted here are just what I need to read, so thank you all.
I go to aa meetings every day since that drunk, and will continue to do so, meetings are a big part of my recovery , that and having a really good sponser who understands that I am not perfect..even if sometimes I think I am , he brings me back down to earth.
I now have a healthy fear of alcohol, and as long as I keep it.....maybe this time, just maybe........
I have had an awful lot of trouble getting step one, I just could not believe that with 2 new cars in the drive, 2 homes, a loving wife, enough money to retire at 49..where is the unmanagability? How was I powerless?
This is more than likely the reason why I could not after 16 months of constant relapsing stay stopped, I still thought I was in charge. Like others I drank at home, bad things don't hapen to me when I drink at home and I dont make such an ass of myself.
So I come on here and I find what I am looking for. I am only 13 days sober again, my last drink/drunk was on my birthday....I made an ass of myself, puking up and having to be poured into my car by my wife and a friend, we nearly got mugged as I had wandered away and was lying on the ground in my own puke, but my wife and her friend found me just as some guys on a bike were pulling up ready to have a go.
So thats manageability for me?
I NEVER want to be like that ever again, reading the remarks that have been posted here are just what I need to read, so thank you all.
I go to aa meetings every day since that drunk, and will continue to do so, meetings are a big part of my recovery , that and having a really good sponser who understands that I am not perfect..even if sometimes I think I am , he brings me back down to earth.
I now have a healthy fear of alcohol, and as long as I keep it.....maybe this time, just maybe........
Practice Sobriety
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: KC missouri
Posts: 885
I am a fall down puking drunk and that is not manageable in itself. Another thing that that bugs me, is I know when I am drink I am not the best person I can be, mostly because the next day I am hungover and sick. Those hungover days add up and in the end I don't want to waste a second of life on that.
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Posts: 3,095
Originally Posted by Mcribb
I don't want to waste a second of life on that.
Do that, and you will have taken Step 1, for that's what is meant by conceding to one's innermost self that one is alcoholic.
seeking recovery
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: NSW
Posts: 171
Nearly 90 days sober for me and ready for action plan to grow..stay off alc
Unmanageable for me, is to give in to the triggers despite all best intentions/resolve..that is scary as once that door is open..alc gradually takes control and I spiral down into depression..inner chaos..my life is not my own but controlled by the unpredictability..merry go around of drinking..living in fog
Unmanageable for me, is to give in to the triggers despite all best intentions/resolve..that is scary as once that door is open..alc gradually takes control and I spiral down into depression..inner chaos..my life is not my own but controlled by the unpredictability..merry go around of drinking..living in fog
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: helena montana
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for me, the unmanageable part of my life was just about EVERYTHING....which today means the wreckage of my past...which, thankfully and amazingly, has been cleared up by the steps of the program...
of course life does not follow rules, and can be quite messy and/or painful at times, and so it remains unmanageable...but, not nearly so unmanageable as it was prior to turning it all over to God, and working the steps....
today when i am wrong and promptly admit it, it keeps things from adding up and becoming umanageable...
as i continue to seek God and His will for me, that also keeps my life on the right track and 'less' unmanageable....
the key of course is to continue in recovery, working the program....then when life throws something at me, as it surely will and does, i can deal with that, as best as i am able to, relying on God to guide me through it...and by doing the next right thing i will prevent 'new wreckage' from building up and sucking the recovery out of me...
LadyQ
hope is a good thing
of course life does not follow rules, and can be quite messy and/or painful at times, and so it remains unmanageable...but, not nearly so unmanageable as it was prior to turning it all over to God, and working the steps....
today when i am wrong and promptly admit it, it keeps things from adding up and becoming umanageable...
as i continue to seek God and His will for me, that also keeps my life on the right track and 'less' unmanageable....
the key of course is to continue in recovery, working the program....then when life throws something at me, as it surely will and does, i can deal with that, as best as i am able to, relying on God to guide me through it...and by doing the next right thing i will prevent 'new wreckage' from building up and sucking the recovery out of me...
LadyQ
hope is a good thing
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