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Fluttering · 06-24-2008, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Rusty Zipper

i think the dependence to strive for the independence is what its all about...

if that makes any sence...

Makes sence to me.....Living with dignity

citychick · 06-25-2008, 01:00 AM

I've re-read that a few times...

and I'm still not making the connection

citychick · 06-25-2008, 01:00 AM

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning

I have a simple philosophy. Fill what's empty. Empty what's full. And scratch where it itches.

Alice Roosevelt Longworth

All too often, we complicate our lives. We can wonder and worry our way into confusion; obsession or preoccupation it's often called. "What if?" "Will he?" "Should I?" "What do you think?" We seldom stop trying to figure out what to do, where to do it, how to meet a challenge, until someone reminds us to "keep it simple."

What we each discover, again and again, is that the solution to any problem becomes apparent when we stop searching for it. The guidance we need for handling any difficulty, great or small, can only come into focus when we remove the barriers to it, and the greatest barrier is our frantic effort to personally solve the problem. We clutter our minds; we pray for an answer and yet don't become quiet enough, for long enough, to become aware of the direction to go, or the steps to take. And they are always there.

Inherent in every problem or challenge is its solution. Our greatest lesson in life may be to keep it simple, to know that no problem stands in our way because no solution eludes a quiet, expectant mind.

I have opportunities every day to still my mind. And the messages I need - will come quietly. My answers are within me, now.

**Ann** · 06-25-2008, 01:49 AM

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We clutter our minds; we pray for an answer and yet don't become quiet enough, for long enough, to become aware of the direction to go, or the steps to take. And they are always there.

This is a lesson I keep learning over and over. I can get wound very quickly trying to force solutions and make answers come before I am ready.

Quiet time is something I try to plan throughout my day, and certainly any time I just need to step aside and let an answer fall in place.

Good reminder for me to keep it simple today, thanks CC.

Hugs

Rusty Zipper · 06-25-2008, 02:33 AM

KIS

cc

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I've re-read that a few times...

and I'm still not making the connection

look at it this way...

when we rightly relate ourselfs to our power thst be...

thy will, not mine...

hope that may help

and i love you for always asking questions when you dont understand something...

i do, and it helps let go of that old pride bit!

citychick · 06-26-2008, 12:23 AM

Ann

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Quiet time is something I try to plan throughout my day, and certainly any time I just need to step aside and let an answer fall in place.

I make time in the mornings for my meditation, and that helps enormously during the day if I need to 'step back' and let go of something. I've just discovered there's a meditation class tonight at the school where I work, so I'm going to check it out tonight. It could only be helpful.

Rusty

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thy will, not mine...

hope that may help

it's obvious now you mention it..lol

I'm not afraid to ask questions these days.

I spent too many years thinking I was supposed to know all the answers

citychick · 06-26-2008, 12:26 AM

Thursday, June 26, 2008

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning

Mental health, like dandruff, crops up when you least expect it.

Robin Worthington

We're responsible for the effort but not the outcome. Frequently, a single problem or many problems overwhelm us. We may feel crazy, unable to cope and certain that we have made no progress throughout this period of recovery. But we have. Each day that we choose sobriety, that we choose abstinence from pills or food, we are moving more securely toward mental health as a stable condition.

We perhaps felt strong, secure, on top of things last week, or yesterday.

We will again tomorrow, or maybe today. When we least expect it, our efforts pay off - quietly, perhaps subtly, sometimes loudly - a good belly laugh may signal a glimmer of our mental health.

No one achieves an absolute state of total mental health. To be human is to have doubts and fears. But as faith grows, as it will when we live the Twelve Steps, doubts and fears lessen. The good days will increase in number.

Meeting a friend, asking for a raise, resolving a conflict with my spouse, or friend, will be handled more easily, when I least expect it. Looking forward with hope, not backward, is my best effort-today.

Rusty Zipper · 06-26-2008, 02:35 AM

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The good days will increase in number

and they have, from not just knowing the steps... living them to the best of my ability...

Rusty Zipper · 06-26-2008, 02:36 AM

Being truly loving means doing all those thankless tasks we do for others without complaining about the fact that they are thankless.…

When we seek recognition for our actions, our action is no longer purely about loving the other person, but about the person knowing what we have done.

May you have Humility!

Blessings

IO Storm · 06-26-2008, 06:49 PM

Frequently, a single problem or many problems overwhelm us. We may feel crazy, unable to cope and certain that we have made no progress throughout this period of recovery. But we have.

Several weeks ago, a family member seemed intent (not over yet BTW)

on convincing anyone who would listen that I had relapsed ...

Why? Possibly jeaulosy of my relationship of another family member...

Who knows?

My sponsor came to pick me up for our weekly session..and while I was waiting...another bad

phone call..another accusation.

(She..the family member) had ordered my sis to stay away from me...my beloved sister.

The world turned upside down.

I looked out the window, the wind was blowing ferociously...and it seemed

like those movies where everything is grey and there might be one red rose

or a little girl with wearing a red coat...

Nothing seemed real. I actually doubted my own mind for an instant.

But not my sobriety or my program or my God.

What a "coincidence" sponsor drove up just then. And we studied Step

10 in the 12x12... avoiding emotional booby traps!

They can throw us loopy for sure.

Oh..the problem has not been solved..but I have been solved, to a larger degree.

Thanks, CC!

citychick · 06-27-2008, 01:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Rusty Zipper

Blessings

found it!

citychick · 06-27-2008, 01:46 AM

Friday, June 27, 2008

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning

Often God shuts a door in our face, and then subsequently opens the door through which we need to go.

Catherine Marshall

We try and try to control the events of our lives. And not seldom the events in others' lives, too. The occasions are frequent when our will conflicts with God's. Then for a time we feel at a loss. Our direction is uncertain. But always, always, another door opens. A better way beckons. How stubborn we are! And how simple life would be were we to daily, fully, turn our will and our lives over to the care of God. God's help and direction in all things are always available. Turning a deaf ear is like trying to find a seat in a darkened movie theater unaided by the usher.

Every experience is softened when we face it accompanied by our higher power. Any past struggle, any present fear, is a testament to our attempts to do it alone. Too frequently we forge ahead, alone, only to have our way blocked. The detours need never be there. No door closes unless there is a better way. Divine order will prevail.

There is no need to struggle, today. I will breathe deeply and take my higher power with me, wherever I go. And the doors will be open for as far as I can see.

**Ann** · 06-27-2008, 02:15 AM

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There is no need to struggle, today. I will breathe deeply and take my higher power with me, wherever I go. And the doors will be open for as far as I can see.

Some days I just need to show up and let life happen. Thanks for the reminder to let myself be led.

Hugs

Rusty Zipper · 06-27-2008, 02:51 AM

CC

Quote:

found it!

lol, yep, me too!

what a Maroon...

citychick · 06-27-2008, 10:51 PM

Saturday, June 28, 2008

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning

Joy fixes us to eternity and pain fixes us to time. But desire and fear hold us in bondage to time, and detachment breaks the bond.

Simone Weil

We live both in the material realm and the spiritual. In our material dimension we seek material pleasures, inherent in which is pain. Our human emotions are tied to our material attachments, and joy, at its fullest, is never found here. Real joy lies outside of the material dimension while living fully within us too, in the secret, small place inside where we always know that all is well.

We are on a trip in this life. And our journey is bringing us closer to full understanding of joy with every sorrowful circumstance. When you or I are one with God, have aligned our will with the will of God, we know joy. We know this, fully, that all is well. No harm can befall us.

Each circumstance in the material realm is an opportunity for us to rely on the spiritual realm for direction, security, and understanding. As we turn within, to our spiritual nature, we will know joy.

Every day in every situation I have an opportunity to discover real joy. It's so close and so ready for my invitation.

06-25-2008, 01:00 AM	#152 (permalink)
citychick Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: The Emerald City Posts: 1,917	I've re-read that a few times... and I'm still not making the connection
	__________________ " May you live for an audience of One today in your little corner of the world..."

06-25-2008, 01:00 AM	#153 (permalink)
citychick Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: The Emerald City Posts: 1,917	Wednesday, June 25, 2008 You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning I have a simple philosophy. Fill what's empty. Empty what's full. And scratch where it itches. Alice Roosevelt Longworth All too often, we complicate our lives. We can wonder and worry our way into confusion; obsession or preoccupation it's often called. "What if?" "Will he?" "Should I?" "What do you think?" We seldom stop trying to figure out what to do, where to do it, how to meet a challenge, until someone reminds us to "keep it simple." What we each discover, again and again, is that the solution to any problem becomes apparent when we stop searching for it. The guidance we need for handling any difficulty, great or small, can only come into focus when we remove the barriers to it, and the greatest barrier is our frantic effort to personally solve the problem. We clutter our minds; we pray for an answer and yet don't become quiet enough, for long enough, to become aware of the direction to go, or the steps to take. And they are always there. Inherent in every problem or challenge is its solution. Our greatest lesson in life may be to keep it simple, to know that no problem stands in our way because no solution eludes a quiet, expectant mind. I have opportunities every day to still my mind. And the messages I need - will come quietly. My answers are within me, now.
	__________________ " May you live for an audience of One today in your little corner of the world..."

06-26-2008, 12:26 AM	#157 (permalink)
citychick Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: The Emerald City Posts: 1,917	Thursday, June 26, 2008 You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning Mental health, like dandruff, crops up when you least expect it. Robin Worthington We're responsible for the effort but not the outcome. Frequently, a single problem or many problems overwhelm us. We may feel crazy, unable to cope and certain that we have made no progress throughout this period of recovery. But we have. Each day that we choose sobriety, that we choose abstinence from pills or food, we are moving more securely toward mental health as a stable condition. We perhaps felt strong, secure, on top of things last week, or yesterday. We will again tomorrow, or maybe today. When we least expect it, our efforts pay off - quietly, perhaps subtly, sometimes loudly - a good belly laugh may signal a glimmer of our mental health. No one achieves an absolute state of total mental health. To be human is to have doubts and fears. But as faith grows, as it will when we live the Twelve Steps, doubts and fears lessen. The good days will increase in number. Meeting a friend, asking for a raise, resolving a conflict with my spouse, or friend, will be handled more easily, when I least expect it. Looking forward with hope, not backward, is my best effort-today.
	__________________ " May you live for an audience of One today in your little corner of the world..."

06-26-2008, 02:36 AM	#159 (permalink)
Rusty Zipper Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: my room in ct. Posts: 10,032	Being truly loving means doing all those thankless tasks we do for others without complaining about the fact that they are thankless.… When we seek recognition for our actions, our action is no longer purely about loving the other person, but about the person knowing what we have done. May you have Humility! Blessings
	__________________ *Rule 62*

06-26-2008, 06:49 PM	#160 (permalink)
IO Storm IO Storm Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 6,317	Frequently, a single problem or many problems overwhelm us. We may feel crazy, unable to cope and certain that we have made no progress throughout this period of recovery. But we have. Several weeks ago, a family member seemed intent (not over yet BTW) on convincing anyone who would listen that I had relapsed ... Why? Possibly jeaulosy of my relationship of another family member... Who knows? My sponsor came to pick me up for our weekly session..and while I was waiting...another bad phone call..another accusation. (She..the family member) had ordered my sis to stay away from me...my beloved sister. The world turned upside down. I looked out the window, the wind was blowing ferociously...and it seemed like those movies where everything is grey and there might be one red rose or a little girl with wearing a red coat... Nothing seemed real. I actually doubted my own mind for an instant. But not my sobriety or my program or my God. What a "coincidence" sponsor drove up just then. And we studied Step 10 in the 12x12... avoiding emotional booby traps! They can throw us loopy for sure. Oh..the problem has not been solved..but I have been solved, to a larger degree. Thanks, CC!
	__________________ "God holds me still in the eye of the Storm"

06-27-2008, 01:46 AM	#162 (permalink)
citychick Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: The Emerald City Posts: 1,917	Friday, June 27, 2008 You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning Often God shuts a door in our face, and then subsequently opens the door through which we need to go. Catherine Marshall We try and try to control the events of our lives. And not seldom the events in others' lives, too. The occasions are frequent when our will conflicts with God's. Then for a time we feel at a loss. Our direction is uncertain. But always, always, another door opens. A better way beckons. How stubborn we are! And how simple life would be were we to daily, fully, turn our will and our lives over to the care of God. God's help and direction in all things are always available. Turning a deaf ear is like trying to find a seat in a darkened movie theater unaided by the usher. Every experience is softened when we face it accompanied by our higher power. Any past struggle, any present fear, is a testament to our attempts to do it alone. Too frequently we forge ahead, alone, only to have our way blocked. The detours need never be there. No door closes unless there is a better way. Divine order will prevail. There is no need to struggle, today. I will breathe deeply and take my higher power with me, wherever I go. And the doors will be open for as far as I can see.
	__________________ " May you live for an audience of One today in your little corner of the world..."

06-27-2008, 10:51 PM	#165 (permalink)
citychick Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: The Emerald City Posts: 1,917	Saturday, June 28, 2008 You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning Joy fixes us to eternity and pain fixes us to time. But desire and fear hold us in bondage to time, and detachment breaks the bond. Simone Weil We live both in the material realm and the spiritual. In our material dimension we seek material pleasures, inherent in which is pain. Our human emotions are tied to our material attachments, and joy, at its fullest, is never found here. Real joy lies outside of the material dimension while living fully within us too, in the secret, small place inside where we always know that all is well. We are on a trip in this life. And our journey is bringing us closer to full understanding of joy with every sorrowful circumstance. When you or I are one with God, have aligned our will with the will of God, we know joy. We know this, fully, that all is well. No harm can befall us. Each circumstance in the material realm is an opportunity for us to rely on the spiritual realm for direction, security, and understanding. As we turn within, to our spiritual nature, we will know joy. Every day in every situation I have an opportunity to discover real joy. It's so close and so ready for my invitation.
	__________________ " May you live for an audience of One today in your little corner of the world..."