Reality of the Unseen - Part 3

[citychick]

I find 'acting as if' very hard to do. I'm more a feel the fear and do it anyway kind of person.

maybe thats what acting as if, is?

[Rusty Zipper]

miss sis

I would most likely have grown

into the sofa by now!

a Castro Convertable?

[citychick]

Saturday, June 14, 2008

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning

All of us have unique talents and gifts. No obstacle, be it physical, mental or emotional, has the power to destroy our innate creative energies.

Liane Cordes

Believing this fully is difficult at times; for some of us, most of the time. But it is true. What each of us can contribute to the world is unlike every other contribution. Each talent is slightly different from every other talent. And they are all needed. We are all needed.

Creativity - any kind - writing, photography, cooking, childcare, weaving, managing, woodworking - nourishes the self that feels isolated and worthless. And as the self is nourished, it grows; it recovers.

Recovery means changing our lifestyle. It means reaching out to others and being there for one another. It means rejoining the human race by giving of ourselves. Our talents are the gifts the human race awaits, needs, in fact. Do we know our talents?

I will search out my secret dreams today. In them lie my talents. I will develop them. Help awaits me.

[Fluttering]

Originally Posted by citychick

I find 'acting as if' very hard to do. I'm more a feel the fear and do it anyway kind of person.

maybe thats what acting as if, is?

"Acting as If" sounded so phony to me..I had been acting as if all my life.. wearing many masks and acting like everyone wanted me to act...to please them...to have peace at any price...yada ..yada...yada

Today I understand the deeper meaning and remind myself I can act as if and it will become and it is a healthy thing far removed from what my previous preconceived idea of it had been.

Thank You

Hug

[citychick]

Originally Posted by Fluttering

I can act as if and it will become

it's in fear situations that I have to 'act as if'..feel it & do it anyway.

once I've done 'whatever' it is, I usually discover there was nothing to be afraid of in the first place..and the self-centered fear disappears.

thanks Fluttering

[citychick]

Sunday, June 15, 2008

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning

For many years I was so flexible I didn't know who I was, and now that I'm discovering who I am, I think, "OK, I know where I stand on that issue. Now on to the next one." But I have to remind myself that all issues are interrelated--no one is separate.

Kathleen Casey Theisen

Today flows from yesterday, the day before, the day before that. Tomorrow repeats the pattern. What we are given on any one day will have its beginning in the past and its finale in the future. No incident is isolated entirely; no issue is self-contained.

Maturity is being able to let go of outgrown attitudes, stifling opinions, no matter how good and right they were at one time. Our egos often get too attached to some of our opinions, and new ideas can't filter in. Some will try to get our attention today. We are ready for new growth. The choice not to hamper it is ours to make.

The opinions we held certain yesterday may not be adequate to the problems of today. They need not be. They served us well. They are not for naught.

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Today's issues need today's fresh responses. I will be unafraid. Today flows from yesterday, the day before, and the day before that. Tomorrow follows suit.

[Rusty Zipper]

heres the rhythm of time again!

[citychick]

Monday, June 16, 2008

Whether it's the pain of separation from a loved one or the pain of someone you love hurting themselves, it all contributes to the lessons in growing stronger as an individual..if that makes sense.

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning

The pain of love is the pain of being alive. It's a perpetual wound.
--Maureen Duffy

We live in one another's company. We grow to yearn for one another's company at a deeper level. The yearning reciprocated, opens the way to a love relationship, a relationship both blessed and torn by intimacies.

It's human to long for love, to want to shower it and receive it. But the pain of waiting for it doesn't match the pain that accompanies its arrival. Love heightens our sensitivities. Any separations, any discrepancies, physical or emotional, wound the partners in love. The pain that accompanies never having something is less than the pain of projected loss after its arrival.

Love should bring only happiness, we mistakenly think. But love, giving it and receiving it, beckons us to bare our souls, to expose our hidden selves. The fear of rejection, the anxiety that we'll be rejected "when they know the real me" is large and looms over our shoulders.

How lucky we are to have this program, these Steps, which if practiced in all our affairs will prepare us for love and loving. They will help us to live with the pain of love, knowing that it increases our humanity - that it deepens our awarenesses and thus, heightens our appreciation of all of life.

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The pain of love increases my rapture.

[citychick]

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning

Wisdom never kicks at the iron walls it can't bring down.

Olive Schreiner

God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change. Many times - yesterday, last week, today, and even tomorrow - we'll come face-to-face with a seemingly intolerable situation. The compulsion to change the situation, to demand that another person change the situation, is great. What a hard lesson it is, to learn we can change only ourselves! The hidden gift in this lesson is that as our activities change, often the intolerable situations do, too.

Acceptance, after a time, smoothes all the ripples that discourage us. And it softens us. It nurtures wisdom. It attracts joy and love from others. Ironically, we often try to force changes that we think will "loosen" love and lessen struggle. Acceptance can do what our willpower could never accomplish.

As we grow in wisdom, as we grow in understanding, as we realize the promises of this program, we'll stand ready, as women, to weather all our personal storms. Like the willow in the wind, we'll bend rather than break. And we'll be able to help our sisters become wise through our example.

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My lessons are not easy. But they will ease my way. Better days begin, today.

[Fluttering]

"My lessons are not easy. But they will ease my way. Better days begin, today. "

And the tough lessons help me to continue to grow..
It kind of goes with the reading from today's Daily Motivator :

Decisions
Small decisions are vitally important. Because they're the ones that keep you on track.
The big, momentous decisions set the direction for your life. And the small, everyday decisions are what enable you to maintain that direction.

Small decisions are easy to make. Unfortunately, they are just as easy to ignore.

Pay attention and take active, intentional control of the small decisions. You'll quickly experience great power in their cumulative influence.

The big decisions are expressions of your commitments. The small, moment-by-moment decisions give life and substance to those commitments.

Give careful thought and consideration to the big decisions. Then use the hundreds of small decisions you make each day to bring those big decisions to life.

-- Ralph Marston----

Even after careful concideration..I may make the wrong decsion..I may ask others for their input or advice..I may make them unhappy when I do no take their advice..However I no longer have to please others.. I can stand for the courage of my own convictions and principles and make my own decisons..If wrong I have tools to correct..Important thing is..I learn from my wrong choices or decisions and no longer loose parts of myself by allowing others to make choices and decisons for me.

[citychick]

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning

. . . we could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world.

Helen Keller

We chase after joy, like a child after a firefly, being certain that in joy all problems are solved, all questions are answered. Joy has its rewards, and we deserve them. But life has more to teach us.

We need to learn patience; through patience we come to respect time and its passage, and we are mellowed. We need to learn tolerance; through tolerance our appreciation of another's individuality is nurtured. We need to learn self-respect; self-respect prepares us to contribute more freely to our experiences, and we find wholeness.

Life's travails are our opportunities for lasting, enriching joy. The rough spots deepen our understandings. And these help us to bring joy to the lives of the friends near and dear.

I need not turn my back on joy. But I will be glad for all life's experiences. The panorama will sustain me more fully.

[citychick]

Thanks Fluttering.

[Ann]

We need to learn patience; through patience we come to respect time and its passage, and we are mellowed. We need to learn tolerance; through tolerance our appreciation of another's individuality is nurtured. We need to learn self-respect; self-respect prepares us to contribute more freely to our experiences, and we find wholeness.

Patience was (and is) my most difficult lesson to learn. This may sound strange, but often in my frustrated prayers I actually hear God say to me, quite loudly and clearly, "Patience, My child!"

Through patience, I have learned that things happen for a reason, that life unfolds exactly as it should exactly when it should, and that there is often a gift in the lesson.

The more difficult the lesson, the greater the gift...this is what I have found.

Just for today, I will practice patience with all things.

Thanks, CC, I needed to revisit that lesson.

Hugs

[citychick]

This may sound strange

not strange at all Ann

[HIPPYCHIC]

Great thread...thanks. That is sortta the same as fake it till you make it,right ????