Death of loved ones

[lefthandedamino]

I am scared of loosing loved ones, children, mother, twin brother, others. I have always suffered with this anxiety.........I will miss them so.....any thoughts?

My father passed one year ago....this is difficult and sometimes too much to bear......I feel I should be more enlightened to the fact we all must go.....

any thoughts?

[best]

As a Christian, I live with the hope that we will join together in heaven.
As others leave, it isn't good bye...It is a matter of... I will see you later.
Still sad because we miss others in our daily lives but I have the joy of knowing we will be together later.

[indigo]

Have you any anxiety help centres near you. Learning how to breathe the right way and relaxation lessons helped me through some of my anxieties.

(((indie)))

[rusty443]

i lost my father seven years ago, he was an alcoholic and gave up for five years before he died. i was coming to terms with the grief when my fiancee also died suddenly. three years on and i'm still confused over the shock and grief i feel. i turned to drink when my father died and it got worse when my fiancee died. i reached rock bottom and had to find a way back because of my two children. i've been sober for two and a half years now, its a struggle but its worth it. one day i'll find out if my dad and my fiancee are up in heaven but not yet. a friend of mine is in hospital at the moment with cronic liver disease from drinking. he gave up a week before he was admitted but it may be too late. i hope there is a heaven for him too and for me one day, but not yet! i'll continue to stay sober and look for all the good things that life can offer me. i don't want reach rock bottom again, its a horrible place to be.

[Rusty Zipper]

lefty... take a gander at this... i wrote it awhile back... and it stil holds true... maybe it will help...

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-listened.html

ohoh, rusty, nice name...

alll good wishes lefty...

xxoo, bless... rz

[Fluttering]

It truly is real tough one to lose loved ones. ben through it too many times already and more facing me. Be comforted if you can with the knowledge they are playing in God's garden. Loss leaves a hurt no one, no medicine ca heal and yet they leave loving memories that no one can steal becasue they are in our hearts and in our minds

Be at peace knowing HP is in control and He has a plan. We may not always understand it--I know I don't--It is another lesson in faith--trustin that whatever you believe in as being a Power greater than you does have a manjor plan in place. Maybe it is a plan for you maybe it is so you can help others grieving--I don't know I haven't figured that one out for myself--I am trust trying to do what a spiritual mentor told me and it is helping. What i have started to do is small little things to keep their memories alive....plant a tree, place a stone memorial in the garden, put up a butterfly house, many little things I can do that helps to ease the pain of the loss--it doesn't take it away but when the pan is great the one thing I do is to curl up in my Higher Power [whom I chose to call God, my Creator, Great Spirit of the Universe] I curl up in His lap and request comfort and guidance that others may ne helped through me. usually He wil tell me to rest a little while and that He has everything covered i do not need to worry or fret. And He holds me for a while and the pain is once again eased and I am at peace.
Loss is not something we can get through in a week or a month---I found I must walk through all the stages of grief and that I facillate between the stages many times before i get into acceptance

I hope this may help you but you do need to find your path. This has only been my own experience strength and hope that I share with you. From a loving heart that understands your pain becasue I have been there but for each person grief is a private and persoanl matter which is why yuou need to find your path to get to the point of acceptance.