My cousin went back out -- flushed 14 years clean and sober
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Little texting with cousin Don last night. He bailed himself out of jail and was back living under a bridge in the river bottom. It's been wet and cold here.
So I mentioned to Don yesterday that a sixty three year old one needs to be tough so as to live out like that. He texted back that he was not tough and that it was killing him. He did mention that he was ready to go take a look at the Rescue Mission (one year impatient program). I'm not driving him down there so he can take a look. When he has hit his bottom he will be begging to go there.
If they go too soon it all may be a waste of time.
M-Bob
So I mentioned to Don yesterday that a sixty three year old one needs to be tough so as to live out like that. He texted back that he was not tough and that it was killing him. He did mention that he was ready to go take a look at the Rescue Mission (one year impatient program). I'm not driving him down there so he can take a look. When he has hit his bottom he will be begging to go there.
If they go too soon it all may be a waste of time.
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We are getting real rain here for a change. My cousins mom called me yesterday and said she had a few hundred dollars so as to get cos a cheap hotel room to hold him over until I take him to the Rescue Mission next Monday. Yes, it appears cos has hit his bottom?
I told his mom that I think it's best that we leave him under the bridge for now. Reason -- when my cousin stays in those cheap hotels he usually seeks out drugs and prostitutes. Don't think he needs any more of that right now.
Claims he's 4 days sober?
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I told his mom that I think it's best that we leave him under the bridge for now. Reason -- when my cousin stays in those cheap hotels he usually seeks out drugs and prostitutes. Don't think he needs any more of that right now.
Claims he's 4 days sober?
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The drama goes on and on and my cousin is killing his old ageing parents.
So they all went to court yesterday so as to make the restraining order permanent.
Since my aunt didn't want to say anything bad about my cousin.
The judge dismissed the restraining order and cos went back home.
Believe it or not my cousin made out papers at the court house
and had his brother served with a temporary restraining order.
His brother ( dysfunctional family) also still lives at home.
I don't think that now that he's done that, that this family will ever recover?
My cousin keeps throwing out the old, I'm going to rehab thing.
Although he is not going at this time.
Yesterday, he told me that if he goes to rehab he needs someone to
make minimum payments plus 25 dollars a month on his credit cards.
Are you kidding me -- I didn't even reply to that one.
As far as I'm concerned
the guy doesn't work and doesn't need credit cards.
His poor mother has been calling me often lately.
I told her that, "my cousin seems to have lost his senses."
For those of us that are clean and sober today.
We need to realize -- that could also happen to us.
M-Bob
So they all went to court yesterday so as to make the restraining order permanent.
Since my aunt didn't want to say anything bad about my cousin.
The judge dismissed the restraining order and cos went back home.
Believe it or not my cousin made out papers at the court house
and had his brother served with a temporary restraining order.
His brother ( dysfunctional family) also still lives at home.
I don't think that now that he's done that, that this family will ever recover?
My cousin keeps throwing out the old, I'm going to rehab thing.
Although he is not going at this time.
Yesterday, he told me that if he goes to rehab he needs someone to
make minimum payments plus 25 dollars a month on his credit cards.
Are you kidding me -- I didn't even reply to that one.
As far as I'm concerned
the guy doesn't work and doesn't need credit cards.
His poor mother has been calling me often lately.
I told her that, "my cousin seems to have lost his senses."
For those of us that are clean and sober today.
We need to realize -- that could also happen to us.
M-Bob
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Wow, I feel for you MB. Family disease, alright.
Thankfully no one tried to help me when I was 'out there'. I hit bottom faster that way. And it helped that I was in another state w/o much communication w/ family.
Only after being sober awhile and then coming home for a visit did I find out that my mother had been fervently praying for me.
My bottom effected work; I could have been thrown out of the Army. My boss was either lazy with paperwork or believed in me--I was given a chance to redeem myself.
I have been paying back that gift ever since--Oct 1986.
Thankfully no one tried to help me when I was 'out there'. I hit bottom faster that way. And it helped that I was in another state w/o much communication w/ family.
Only after being sober awhile and then coming home for a visit did I find out that my mother had been fervently praying for me.
My bottom effected work; I could have been thrown out of the Army. My boss was either lazy with paperwork or believed in me--I was given a chance to redeem myself.
I have been paying back that gift ever since--Oct 1986.
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Originally Posted by Ringo123 
I was given a chance to redeem myself.
I have been paying back that gift ever since--Oct 1986.
I kind of feel the same way after being a drunk for so many years.
Now, a chance to redeem myself.
Some poor souls will never get the chance.
Or pay no attention as it passes by.
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Sending my hugs and prayers for MM Bob and your cousins family. Addiction is the most evil thing that pervades our family's dynamics. Your pour Aunt needs some support, maybe suggest coming to a meeting with you MM Bob so she can see that her situation is in no way unique?
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Well, I have hit the point in time where I'm very tired of my cousin and all of the pain that he has caused his mom and dad. He actually the other day had the guts to serve his brother with a restraining order. That makes two restraining orders served on him and then the one that he had served on his brother (who is the one who takes care of his mom and dad.) They have him out of the house for now and thanks to his prolonged bad behavior, I don't think that they ever want to live with him again, even if he does get sober someday,
He keeps teasing us and stating that he is going to rehab -- yes, we have heard that story before.
It seems that the only one that my aunt can trust and talk to is me. She loves her son but, is hopeless over his condition.
I wish that he would now just go away from us all. If and when down the road he get's sober, maybe a little contact then?
M-Bob
He keeps teasing us and stating that he is going to rehab -- yes, we have heard that story before.
It seems that the only one that my aunt can trust and talk to is me. She loves her son but, is hopeless over his condition.
I wish that he would now just go away from us all. If and when down the road he get's sober, maybe a little contact then?
M-Bob
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Originally Posted by saoutchik
I have just read through this thread, I'm so sorry for all the heartache your cousin is causing, including to himself.
He's been teasing our family with the old, "I'm getting into rehab real soon", BS.
I'm keeping some distance.
Seems that for now he has found some lady to stay with and probably use?
I hate that.
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I'm sorry that Happendebut just goes too show we adre all just human. I've conqureed heroin nd method but finding pills the hardest but only Cause they are within arms reach don't drsag him down more by belittling him.let him know he has to sweep it under the rug and start over.remind himhow 14 h
Years is dome to be proud of. He can do it again
UOTE=Mountainmanbob;6143359]So hard to believe that my cousin who had 14 years clean and was the leader of a 12 Step Program for the last 12 years or so and was very involved in his church went back to his drug of choice.
Last that I heard from him, he was helping homeless ones who live in the river bottom to sober up. What the heck happened ? So what, he decided to join them ???
I will tell you (us) (me) what folks -- we had better not take this clean and sober life for granted for it all can be gone in the blink of an eye -- if we don't keep an eye on the one in the mirror.
Although he would not answer his phone he did send me a text message stating that, "now that he is using again, it has to run it's course." The course for him usually has a prison sentence attached.
Guess that all I can do now is pray for him.
M-Bob[/QUOTE]
Years is dome to be proud of. He can do it again
UOTE=Mountainmanbob;6143359]So hard to believe that my cousin who had 14 years clean and was the leader of a 12 Step Program for the last 12 years or so and was very involved in his church went back to his drug of choice.
Last that I heard from him, he was helping homeless ones who live in the river bottom to sober up. What the heck happened ? So what, he decided to join them ???
I will tell you (us) (me) what folks -- we had better not take this clean and sober life for granted for it all can be gone in the blink of an eye -- if we don't keep an eye on the one in the mirror.
Although he would not answer his phone he did send me a text message stating that, "now that he is using again, it has to run it's course." The course for him usually has a prison sentence attached.
Guess that all I can do now is pray for him.
M-Bob[/QUOTE]
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