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Originally Posted by JamesfrmEngland 
Yes I am trying to top and have almost stopped I have only had 4 cans today, last night I drank drove after vodka, cider, and Guinness around with my friends and could easily have killed someone or been pulled over, luckily I wasn't. And I was a person who said I'd never drink and drive, the only reasons I hadn't before was probably because I only just got a car. I went to rehab today and my mate said I absolutely reek of booze and I admitted in group that I cannot safely drink and my drinking days are behind me. I was hallucinating in the AA meeting tonight and had a Guinness down my side drawer when my passengers left I necked it and drove home.
About your thoughts involving science....I caught myself overthinking as a way of avoidance. Is it possible that you could be doing this, too? Another term for what I did is intellectualizing. I mention this with respect for where you are right now and out of a sincere desire to help.
Once I finally admitted that I simply cannot drink normally.....as the previous post said something about 24 hours later we end up drunk on the couch....once I accepted this simple FACT that I'd proven to myself many times, I gave in and stopped overthinking.
It turned out to be a relief to give in.
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Well I have been drinking and I totally crashed my car on Wednesday. Vehicle had to be taken away. It has given me impetus to stop (for now) and when I woke up after the crash I had no thoughts of drinking, my dad obviously went berserk and knew I'd been drinking he thought the police would come and say I was dead.
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Originally Posted by JamesfrmEngland
Well I have been drinking and I totally crashed my car on Wednesday. Vehicle had to be taken away. It has given me impetus to stop (for now) and when I woke up after the crash I had no thoughts of drinking, my dad obviously went berserk and knew I'd been drinking he thought the police would come and say I was dead.
You say, "...this has given me the impetus to stop (for now) and..." - seriously, what does that 'for now' mean? If you still haven't come to terms with how serious this behaviour is then I don't know what will. Forget how your Dad reacted - you could have killed someone.
Grow a pair and take responsibility for yourself. I have no time for drink drivers.
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Hey James that sounds horrible glad you're okay and true you are very lucky to not have seriously hurt yourself or anyone else.
Can you think of any reasons beyond just this car crash to work towards long-term sobriety?
Can you think of any reasons beyond just this car crash to work towards long-term sobriety?
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Originally Posted by JamesfrmEngland
Well I have been drinking and I totally crashed my car on Wednesday. Vehicle had to be taken away. It has given me impetus to stop (for now)
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I second Plure's recommedation of the book "Healing the Addicted Brain". It is an excellent read which addresses the science behind addiction.
In terms of moderation, there is a very important element that many people seem to overlook in their research which is this: Moderation is only effective very early in one's potential drinking career - BEFORE drinking patterns develop. Even moderation advocates agree with this. So basically, by the time most of us realize we have a problem, the moderation ship has sailed. Unfortunately, most of us test the theory before we realize that for us, moderation is simply a myth.
In terms of moderation, there is a very important element that many people seem to overlook in their research which is this: Moderation is only effective very early in one's potential drinking career - BEFORE drinking patterns develop. Even moderation advocates agree with this. So basically, by the time most of us realize we have a problem, the moderation ship has sailed. Unfortunately, most of us test the theory before we realize that for us, moderation is simply a myth.
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Not sure I'm one day sober now, hopefully can continue. Gonna go to AA meetings, use the gym more and not take the first drink, would like to become a gym instructor so maybe that can focus my attentions. I need to speak to people if I feel I need a drink (eg my sponsor which I am very shy to do). Drink just gives me more negatives than positives I know that (with car crashes, finances, health, sweating, insomnia etch. And yet my mind told me it was a good idea to get drunk tonight! However, at my last stint at sobriety the beginning was tough and I nearly drank the day I got out of detox! I am going to try staying sober one day at a time.
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Originally Posted by FormerWineGirl
I second Plure's recommedation of the book "Healing the Addicted Brain". It is an excellent read which addresses the science behind addiction.
In terms of moderation, there is a very important element that many people seem to overlook in their research which is this: Moderation is only effective very early in one's potential drinking career - BEFORE drinking patterns develop. Even moderation advocates agree with this. So basically, by the time most of us realize we have a problem, the moderation ship has sailed. Unfortunately, most of us test the theory before we realize that for us, moderation is simply a myth.
In terms of moderation, there is a very important element that many people seem to overlook in their research which is this: Moderation is only effective very early in one's potential drinking career - BEFORE drinking patterns develop. Even moderation advocates agree with this. So basically, by the time most of us realize we have a problem, the moderation ship has sailed. Unfortunately, most of us test the theory before we realize that for us, moderation is simply a myth.
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