Soberwolf

Thinking of you Clownbaby I too was like this I couldn't hold a sheet of paper even light objects the shaking was really horrible & scary

I don't shake today unless I'm panicking & my short term memory came back I remember my brother saying to me you know nearly every song in the world as I couldn't remember easy tunes to name

I relate a lot sending continued prayers

BunnyNest

We found that the hospital social workers were very helpful when we were in a similar situation with end stage liver disease. They helped us navigate financial assistance for him, free clinics, Medicaid and disability. We also set up a power of attorney and healthcare power of attorney.

There is a lot of assistance out there and we , as family members, were so appreciative for what was available.

It took a lot of time, especially since he was unable to help us due to his similar cognitive ability at that point. A lot of time.

Please take care of yourself first. I know it is hard to do so.

I'm so sorry. Hugs.

Clownbaby

Thank you! I'm falling a part. I'm really glad you are here for me!

"A healthy attitude is contagious but don't wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier."~Tom Stoppard

Soberwolf

Were here for you CB XO

honeypig

Clownbaby, how are you doing? My thoughts are with you.

Clownbaby

I'm alive.... Trying to hold it together. Visiting my brother every chance I get. Haven't started emptying out his house yet...just collecting boxes. He will be moved to a nursing home Monday probably. I'm kinda ticked my father decided on one closer to the family members that haven't even visited him in the hospital! I feel like I've been stuck in a perpetual state of terror. Like over and over again I get that sinking feeling and my heart races. I have a lot of good people picking up my pieces right now and I am eternally grateful for that. Thank you for caring!

"A healthy attitude is contagious but don't wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier."~Tom Stoppard

Hawkeye13

Sending you positive wishes during this difficult time.
Sometimes you have to be clear with less-participating family about
expectations and the help you need--don't just do it all and wait for them to offer
or you may never get any help with either visits or packing.

Maybe your father and you need to organize a family meeting with other members
to discuss these kinds of issues, set up a visiting schedule, arrange for some help with packing.

BunnyNest

I'm so glad your brother will have a safe place where he is going to get the care he needs.

Can you get to AlAnon or a therapist? That can help you to pause and breath.

Clownbaby

I've been referred to alnon so many times I just haven't made the time for it quite yet. SR is my outlet I use semi frequently. I really appreciate the advice and comfort you all bring to the table. For real, I can't thank you enough for just being here and talking me through this. I have been procrastinating talking to the family about the house. Most don't want anything to do with it. Since it's my parents' old house it is chock full of memories and things I need to go through. Much love

"A healthy attitude is contagious but don't wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier."~Tom Stoppard

Dropsie

I am thinking of you and your brother.

Clownbaby

Thanks Dropsie

"A healthy attitude is contagious but don't wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier."~Tom Stoppard

Soberwolf

Sending continued prayers Clownbaby

AlG330

You and your brother are in my prayers. Hugs

DoubleDragons

I am sorry for this ordeal for you, Clownbaby. I think it is the scenario every one of us who loves an unrecovered alcoholic, anticipates and dreads. You have my prayers.