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Use the anger to help you make a change in your life. You don't need to allow people to take advantage of you. Learning how to say 'No' is something that I had to do and it made a big difference in my life.
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This is normal. It's why there is such a massive focus on resentments in AA (and probably in other recovery programmes).
I found some of the speaker tapes helped me out ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bHxIwDlyUIU
I found some of the speaker tapes helped me out ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bHxIwDlyUIU
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I just wanted to say I totally relate to your anger & I'm going thru the same thing. I too am early in sobriety. The first time I got sober in 2008 I had a huge anger problem that lasted a while. I actually put myself into anger management classes!
Anyway, by 12-18 months the anger was complete gone. Oh! I also worked the 12 steps of AA & that helped immensely!
Unfortunately I relapsed last year & am a newbie again but that's ok. I can learn from my mistakes. Your anger will go away eventually if you work the steps and/or serious therapy...and of course sobriety! :-)
Anyway, by 12-18 months the anger was complete gone. Oh! I also worked the 12 steps of AA & that helped immensely!
Unfortunately I relapsed last year & am a newbie again but that's ok. I can learn from my mistakes. Your anger will go away eventually if you work the steps and/or serious therapy...and of course sobriety! :-)
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Originally Posted by Beccybean 
This is normal. It's why there is such a massive focus on resentments in AA (and probably in other recovery programmes).
I found some of the speaker tapes helped me out ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bHxIwDlyUIU
I found some of the speaker tapes helped me out ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bHxIwDlyUIU
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i get it i wondered my house with gritted teeth and clenched fists for months and months after I sobered up. I was always frustrated and angry. It started to ease up when i become more accepting of things.
Sometimes you have to accept the fact that someones simply and A&&hole
Ya know oh well that ones an A&&hole so why should i expect any different out of them wala I'd feel better.
Accepting various situations and circumstances is the same. My car broke down because its a piece of garbage I shouldnt expect any different out of this car oh well.
I had to learn to throw my hands in the air and say oh well. when there was nothing i could do.
But yeah anger was pretty much part of my regular state of being for a while.
Sometimes you have to accept the fact that someones simply and A&&hole
Ya know oh well that ones an A&&hole so why should i expect any different out of them
wala I'd feel better. Accepting various situations and circumstances is the same. My car broke down because its a piece of garbage I shouldnt expect any different out of this car oh well.
I had to learn to throw my hands in the air and say oh well. when there was nothing i could do.
But yeah anger was pretty much part of my regular state of being for a while.
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Originally Posted by Debbie329
Don't let people take advantage of you ....it breeds resentment which triggers drinking. Dump those people, you don't need them.
I like your other suggestion about letting people know ahead of time. I try to do that myself I'll tell people I"m in a funk dont expect to hear anything good out of me right now till i get over myself etc..
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Day 5 is very early in the journey. I believe you are going to feel a lot of things you would not feel while drinking or drunk. I wouldn't put too much stock into any of them at this point. They are what they are. Just stay the course. Oh, and one more thing.....don't drink. Good job Sweetbaby.
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Anger has been a big one for me too. I kept reading posts on this site about how people were waking up happy and ready for the day...... for at least two months I was waking up in a rage at everything, memories, my current problems, other people.......... you name it. I found it hard to appreciate the other benefits of being sober for the first time in forever.
BUT, 3 months in and its easing off ...... like it's worn itself out.
As somebody has already mentioned, early days are complex, we are not just detoxing, we are making huge changes.
Good luck, be well.
xx
BUT, 3 months in and its easing off ...... like it's worn itself out.
As somebody has already mentioned, early days are complex, we are not just detoxing, we are making huge changes.
Good luck, be well.
xx
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