Class of April 2015 Part 2
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Is anyone getting the "it's a shame you can't be normal and just have a social drink like everybody else" stuff from their partner?
I'm finding it really difficult. I say I wish she could try to be more supportive and she says that she "did" supportive all last summer and I just came off the wagon anyway. I guess drinking just wears everybody down... Guess I'm lucky to still have her despite it all. I'll need to win back a lot of points :-/
I'm finding it really difficult. I say I wish she could try to be more supportive and she says that she "did" supportive all last summer and I just came off the wagon anyway. I guess drinking just wears everybody down... Guess I'm lucky to still have her despite it all. I'll need to win back a lot of points :-/
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Good morning. A bit of a headache and a poor night's sleep, but at least it is part of the healing process. I think what I hate most about getting sober is that vague sense of doom that follows me around. It's as if I really ****** up bad, I can't remember what, but it is just about to catch up to me. I guess it is a feeling I am just going to have to work my way through.
Yesterday after work, I challenged my beast to move my fingers. It couldn't. It is entirely dependent upon me to carry out any actions. I stayed sober and acted like a dad. It was a good day.
Yesterday after work, I challenged my beast to move my fingers. It couldn't. It is entirely dependent upon me to carry out any actions. I stayed sober and acted like a dad. It was a good day.
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Originally Posted by amp123 
Is anyone getting the "it's a shame you can't be normal and just have a social drink like everybody else" stuff from their partner?
...I guess drinking just wears everybody down... Guess I'm lucky to still have her despite it all.
...I guess drinking just wears everybody down... Guess I'm lucky to still have her despite it all.
Our alcoholic antics do wear them down. We our unreliable, unstable, and very demanding. Our alcoholic life tends to dominate everything and slowly everyone involved becomes sucked in. I think most partners either become shattered shells of their former selves, or they become fed-up and move on to a normal life they deserve.
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Originally Posted by SwimKim12
Today I told my mom that I quit drinking for good. I knew that I needed a plan for this weekend, because every weekend for the last four months I've caved to the AV. Having someone that can help hold me accountable is what I need. She's been asking me to quit/drink less for a long time - my Dad is an alcoholic and has been sober for 15+ years. I knew I needed to reach out to her but it felt kind of weird, like I didn't want her to think I'm quitting for her (because she's been nagging me about it for so long). I am absolutely quitting for me. Has anyone else experienced weird feelings like that when you tell a significant other/family member who has been asking you to quit for a long time? Regardless, I am very happy I made a plan for the weekend and will be in a safe place. Onward and upward!
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I love this part amp!
"sobriety is like doing the dishes. if you wait until you have all of dirty dishes collected in one place, plates scraped, silverware soaking — before you can begin, then youll want to wait until your perfect life is perfect until you attempt sobriety (doesn€™t happen)."
"sobriety is like doing the dishes. if you wait until you have all of dirty dishes collected in one place, plates scraped, silverware soaking — before you can begin, then youll want to wait until your perfect life is perfect until you attempt sobriety (doesn€™t happen)."
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Originally Posted by SilentCinemaFan
Hey all, it's been since July 2014 since I last came on here. I had hit the 6 month mark last year and decided I was okay again. That slip up pretty much generated an up and down roller coaster the next several months leading up to the early part of this year. I am pretty sick of doing this to myself over and over again. This is a pretty random day to start my sobriety but I'm sick of this. Anyway, I stayed sober last time for like 6 months due to the support of this forum and I believe if I start posting again, I'll get back to a long sobriety again. Thank you for reading. 
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Get to see a counselor today.
The last time I saw one was two years ago when I came off oxi's. Since then, I became divorced, lost my job, and started drinking like a fish all day long. This should be an interesting visit. I'm going to the same facility.
I'm really hoping the same counselor I had before isn't there. I had overcome addiction to smokeless tobacco and oxi cottons when I stopped going. Now I'm worse than before. If I do see the same person, at least I know that will be better for me. Sure...I'll be ashamed of the direction I've gone, but she'll better understand my M.O.
Big day. Taking a step.
One of my issues is taking those small steps to achieve goals that seem impossible. I have many pressing issues that I let get unmanageable because I didn't act.
The last time I saw one was two years ago when I came off oxi's. Since then, I became divorced, lost my job, and started drinking like a fish all day long. This should be an interesting visit. I'm going to the same facility.
I'm really hoping the same counselor I had before isn't there. I had overcome addiction to smokeless tobacco and oxi cottons when I stopped going. Now I'm worse than before. If I do see the same person, at least I know that will be better for me. Sure...I'll be ashamed of the direction I've gone, but she'll better understand my M.O.
Big day. Taking a step.
One of my issues is taking those small steps to achieve goals that seem impossible. I have many pressing issues that I let get unmanageable because I didn't act.
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Originally Posted by Incontrol15
One of my issues is taking those small steps to achieve goals that seem impossible. I have many pressing issues that I let get unmanageable because I didn't act.
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