New to sobriety... Day 1!
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New to sobriety... Day 1!
Howdy all. I've been trying to sober up for well over a year now but have had many relapses that have led to a lot of damage in my relationship; which is likely over now due to my behavior. I had a child last year and stopped drinking during the pregnancy but shortly after returned to the same old crap. I have drank significantly less frequently but when I do it's always a disaster. I inevitably get angry and act in very destructive and hurtful ways. I've begun counseling to try and get to the root of my issues but have still had difficulty not resorting to drinking as a means of coping, usually when I'm upset about something or just plain bored. I feel a tremendous amount of shame and guilt for drinking around my son and for the hurt and damage I have caused on the relationship with his father. I'm hoping some of you can share with me some coping strategies and I really need people to talk to that understand what I'm going through. This has been a tremendously painful experience and I have little left for self esteem. I really want to get better and I do believe I can do better sober and only have misery to look forward to otherwise.
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Location: California
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Hi Anica,
Sobriety is totally doable when we want to be sober more than we want to drink. I can hear in your words that you are at this point.
I needed daily reminders of why I was stopping so I logged in here and posted every day. I cannot stress the importance of daily support and the people here are awesome.
I did not think I would actually stop. I didn't think it was possible for me but I now do not drink anymore and I like it. It takes some work but it's totally worth it. A life without shame and without hangovers awaits.
Sobriety is totally doable when we want to be sober more than we want to drink. I can hear in your words that you are at this point.
I needed daily reminders of why I was stopping so I logged in here and posted every day. I cannot stress the importance of daily support and the people here are awesome.
I did not think I would actually stop. I didn't think it was possible for me but I now do not drink anymore and I like it. It takes some work but it's totally worth it. A life without shame and without hangovers awaits.
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Originally Posted by MelindaFlowers 
Hi Anica,
Sobriety is totally doable when we want to be sober more than we want to drink. I can hear in your words that you are at this point.
I needed daily reminders of why I was stopping so I logged in here and posted every day. I cannot stress the importance of daily support and the people here are awesome.
I did not think I would actually stop. I didn't think it was possible for me but I now do not drink anymore and I like it. It takes some work but it's totally worth it. A life without shame and without hangovers awaits.
Sobriety is totally doable when we want to be sober more than we want to drink. I can hear in your words that you are at this point.
I needed daily reminders of why I was stopping so I logged in here and posted every day. I cannot stress the importance of daily support and the people here are awesome.
I did not think I would actually stop. I didn't think it was possible for me but I now do not drink anymore and I like it. It takes some work but it's totally worth it. A life without shame and without hangovers awaits.
Welcome to SR, Anica.
You have much to look forward to in the life ahead of you. All of the goodness which awaits you is so much more beautifully and fully experienced and appreciated while sober.
I love sobriety so much I cannot imagine ever going back.
Glad you found SR.
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Hi Anica,
Welcome!
So often, guilt and shame are part of the disease of alcoholism. I hope that you can use these emotions in a positive way to help your recovery. You can change your life and be proud of the person and mother that you are.
Welcome!
So often, guilt and shame are part of the disease of alcoholism. I hope that you can use these emotions in a positive way to help your recovery. You can change your life and be proud of the person and mother that you are.
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