If it is possible to control...
I tried that for many years, didn't work. Got sober, made it 5 days and went to AA, things got worse for me, found a sponsor on day 12 and life made a complete change for the better. That is my experience. AA isn't for everyone nor is it the only way!
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Hi.
I suppose there is a possibility to control drinking but not by me as I proved for too long I had lost control.
It used to be said at meetings that if we need to control something we’ve already lost control. Control drinking was also said to be akin to controlling diarrhea.
Not pleasant but neither is the results of drinking.
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I suppose there is a possibility to control drinking but not by me as I proved for too long I had lost control.
It used to be said at meetings that if we need to control something we’ve already lost control. Control drinking was also said to be akin to controlling diarrhea.
Not pleasant but neither is the results of drinking.
BE WELL
Oh, except I would forget to put down a new match after about 6 ounces. Then I would just pour right into the glass without the shot-measure.
When I controlled my drinking I didn't enjoy it (if you can call that 'enjoyment') and when I enjoyed my drinking I couldn't control it. It was so much easier to just stop completely.
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I would be two days removed from shaking, sweating, vomiting uncontrollably, and bad-ridden for days on end and would convince myself that if I only bought a pint, and set up a timer for my shots, that I could drink like a normal person! I was too far gone at the time to see how crazy those measures were, and even if they worked for a short time, it was just a countdown to a full-blown binge.
Yup. Having just 2 beers is agony. It's annoying. It's a tease. Why bother.
Ever see Family Guy, when Stewie keeps trying to get Lois's attention? "Mom. Mom. Mom. Mom. Mama. Mama. Mom. Mom...."
It's like that with the lizard part of the addicted brain. "Hey. Hey. Hey. Hey. Finish that beer now. Now. Do it. Now. You're not even paying. Hey. Hey. Hurry up. Finish it. Get another. Who cares if it's $6 a pint? Drink it in 5 minutes. Now. Hurry. It's 1am, bar is closing in 45 minutes. Hurry. Hey. Hey. Are you finished yet?"
And on and on and on.
Ever see Family Guy, when Stewie keeps trying to get Lois's attention? "Mom. Mom. Mom. Mom. Mama. Mama. Mom. Mom...."
It's like that with the lizard part of the addicted brain. "Hey. Hey. Hey. Hey. Finish that beer now. Now. Do it. Now. You're not even paying. Hey. Hey. Hurry up. Finish it. Get another. Who cares if it's $6 a pint? Drink it in 5 minutes. Now. Hurry. It's 1am, bar is closing in 45 minutes. Hurry. Hey. Hey. Are you finished yet?"
And on and on and on.
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Actually, in my experience they are very similar. As I look back, all of my failed attempts at not drinking (abstinence) were simply another way of trying to control my drinking. I was trying to control it by not drinking at all.
And it met with the same disastrous results as my many failed attempts at moderation. I see them as different degrees of the same thing. Abstinence proved equally as impossible for me as moderation.
And it met with the same disastrous results as my many failed attempts at moderation. I see them as different degrees of the same thing. Abstinence proved equally as impossible for me as moderation.
Nope. Moderation did not work for me.
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Good sober friend of mine put it best. Moderation was just Russian roulette. The bullet might not be in the chamber this time (and idiot av would take that to mean that bullet was never there), but there is no doubt that any drinking would lead to the worst at some point. And each relapse only proves that point again, inevitably, inexorably.
The sad thing is that even knowing this, the alcoholic mind wants to ignore it.
The sad thing is that even knowing this, the alcoholic mind wants to ignore it.
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