Class of July 2013 Part 17
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Oh Snooz. Your post made me cry. Yeah I knew your son was down, but I didn't realise how far. It's hard to make anyone see reason when they are that far down, honey, so please don't take it personally. I have a similar issue with one of my girls. It's like when she needs me most, she shuts down.
You know, I'm reading this situation, and if the genders were reversed and this was a guy doing this to a woman, it would be very clear domestic violence/ emotional abuse. She sounds like a nut job to boast about such things on facebook as your denied access. And, if her partner is so depressed, hasn't she got better things to do?
I remember my daughter had one quite possessive partner, calling her all the time when we were trying to have some time alone. My daughter was so emotionally blackmailed, she couldn't even see how inappropriate that was. I just had to bide my time....I lost a year on that one. Yep, it's hard to be a parent and do the right thing.....and even bloody know what that is!
Hugs honeybun.xx
You know, I'm reading this situation, and if the genders were reversed and this was a guy doing this to a woman, it would be very clear domestic violence/ emotional abuse. She sounds like a nut job to boast about such things on facebook as your denied access. And, if her partner is so depressed, hasn't she got better things to do?
I remember my daughter had one quite possessive partner, calling her all the time when we were trying to have some time alone. My daughter was so emotionally blackmailed, she couldn't even see how inappropriate that was. I just had to bide my time....I lost a year on that one. Yep, it's hard to be a parent and do the right thing.....and even bloody know what that is!
Hugs honeybun.xx
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Oh Crois , thank you honey. I absolutely needed to read that 
I just had exactly the same conversation with Shaun , not 10 minutes ago saying if the roles were reversed , it would be domestic abuse !
Oh geez ! She sounds like your daughters ex partner , thank god that's done & dusted .
You have given me strength Crois , I'm not alone .
I have to be extremely careful not to send my son over the edge as there would be no coming back from that , if you know what I mean.
I'll just back off & hope things change , but I know they won't. She is absolutely thrilled I'm hurting.
In my letter I appealed to my sons better nature & said the real person getting the most hurt by this is Ryleigh.
Let's put her first and foremost as we ALL want her best interests acknowledged.
Sadly , that bitch of a woman doesn't have a better nature.
Your last sentence was SO POIGNANT !
Yep, it's hard to be a parent and do the right thing......and even bloody know what that is!
Truer words could not be spoken , my friend xxxx
Thank you xxxx
I just had exactly the same conversation with Shaun , not 10 minutes ago saying if the roles were reversed , it would be domestic abuse !
Oh geez ! She sounds like your daughters ex partner , thank god that's done & dusted .
You have given me strength Crois , I'm not alone .
I have to be extremely careful not to send my son over the edge as there would be no coming back from that , if you know what I mean.
I'll just back off & hope things change , but I know they won't. She is absolutely thrilled I'm hurting.
In my letter I appealed to my sons better nature & said the real person getting the most hurt by this is Ryleigh.
Let's put her first and foremost as we ALL want her best interests acknowledged.
Sadly , that bitch of a woman doesn't have a better nature.
Your last sentence was SO POIGNANT !
Yep, it's hard to be a parent and do the right thing......and even bloody know what that is!
Truer words could not be spoken , my friend xxxx
Thank you xxxx
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I'm always here if you need to talk Snooz.
I was thinking if there was something positve you could do to help relieve your pain a little....maybe a little journal for Ryleigh? You could write little snippets when you see something that reminds you of her. You save it, and give it to her when she's really grown up, like a teenager....what a nice gift for her. Write down little things you love that she does or things you've done together.
That way you can still feel proactive and know that one day, when she's old enough, she can see your love in your words and thoughts?
Hugs for you tonight.xx
I was thinking if there was something positve you could do to help relieve your pain a little....maybe a little journal for Ryleigh? You could write little snippets when you see something that reminds you of her. You save it, and give it to her when she's really grown up, like a teenager....what a nice gift for her. Write down little things you love that she does or things you've done together.
That way you can still feel proactive and know that one day, when she's old enough, she can see your love in your words and thoughts?
Hugs for you tonight.xx
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Originally Posted by Croissant 
I'm always here if you need to talk Snooz.
I was thinking if there was something positve you could do to help relieve your pain a little....maybe a little journal for Ryleigh? You could write little snippets when you see something that reminds you of her. You save it, and give it to her when she's really grown up, like a teenager....what a nice gift for her. Write down little things you love that she does or things you've done together.
That way you can still feel proactive and know that one day, when she's old enough, she can see your love in your words and thoughts?
Hugs for you tonight.xx
I was thinking if there was something positve you could do to help relieve your pain a little....maybe a little journal for Ryleigh? You could write little snippets when you see something that reminds you of her. You save it, and give it to her when she's really grown up, like a teenager....what a nice gift for her. Write down little things you love that she does or things you've done together.
That way you can still feel proactive and know that one day, when she's old enough, she can see your love in your words and thoughts?
Hugs for you tonight.xx
Crois I love you , perfect :-)
Journal shall be bought tomorrow . Sometimes it really helps to share your feelings with friends
Xxx
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Snoozy, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I love Croissant's idea of the journal.
Stay strong. I'm sorry your son is suffering from depression, it's very hard.
I hope he is getting appropriate medical help.
Stay strong. I'm sorry your son is suffering from depression, it's very hard.
I hope he is getting appropriate medical help.
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Originally Posted by Croissant
Hi all.
Bob...no more chooks? Are you done, don't want any more?
Bob...no more chooks? Are you done, don't want any more?
Especially in the winter when the water freezes solid. And trudging through Ft. of snow to feed them.
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You are all dearly loved by me . I appreciate each and every one of you for the different perspectives you bring to our July group.
I love that you are all still here and hope you always will be
I need you , we all need each other we ' get ' each other .
Much love , I am off to buy my new journal thank you to you Crois honey.
You saved me from doing something silly & I shall now put down in words lovely thoughts and messages to Ryleigh.
You are one in a million Crois , this one single act of yours through love and caring will one day change a little girls life. I love you for that , darling friend xxx
I love that you are all still here and hope you always will be
I need you , we all need each other we ' get ' each other .
Much love , I am off to buy my new journal thank you to you Crois honey.
You saved me from doing something silly & I shall now put down in words lovely thoughts and messages to Ryleigh.
You are one in a million Crois , this one single act of yours through love and caring will one day change a little girls life. I love you for that , darling friend xxx
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