Don't know what to do...please, any advice

Old 01-29-2015, 01:27 PM
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Another broken picker right here. I know where you're coming from. Maybe I'll save my pennies and hire the Millionaire Matchmaker to pick my next one. I've got 23 cents so far. By the time I have enough money I might actually be ready for another relationship, ha ha.
How are you today SiT? Good to "see" you again.
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Old 01-29-2015, 01:36 PM
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I've dated 3 drug dealers and was in an LTR with an abusive alcoholic (who dabbled in coke as well) - so yah...*raises hand for broken picker*

I married an amazing NORMAL guy, who swept me away to Europe where I could have had an incredible life...and what do you think I did with that?
Drank it away and ruined it within 4 yrs, sending me back to Canada a mess.
a HOT mess.
I didn't know what to do with normal.
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Old 01-29-2015, 02:08 PM
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Ladyscribbler: (I still can't figure out how to quote in my message..) I am doing okay. AH was much better last night, but I was still on guard...waiting for something to happen. Nothing did, thank God...but I am still trying to make a plan B just in case...my kids go to their dad's house tonight and this weekend so I will have time to focus on what to do...thanks so much for asking...
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Old 01-29-2015, 02:10 PM
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sad - see the QUOTE butting on the bottom right hand screen shot?
If you click on that, it puts the post quoted for you. You can delete parts if there is just one part you want quoted - make sure you leave the [ ] around them though
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Old 01-29-2015, 02:11 PM
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Jupiters: What is an LTR? I should have known better than to marry him so quickly, but it seemed so right,,,like we were meant for each other....
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Jupiters: What is an LTR? I should have known better than to marry him so quickly, but it seemed so right,,,like we were meant for each other....
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Old 01-29-2015, 02:15 PM
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"LTR" is "Long Term Relationship."

Glad you came back today, Sad!
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Old 01-29-2015, 02:18 PM
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Are the kids better off with the Ex or You and your Violent Drunk?

Dunno? Just how bad is the Ex?
My ex has been diagnosed with personality disorders : Narsasstic, Borderline and Anti-social...compulsive gambler and drinks too much...so yes, he is not so great...I truly should not be in charge of picking the right man for myself...
hmmmm. mkay.

Let me go a little "Eastern" on this?

Have you heard this proverb?

Between two Goods, Choose Both.
Between two Evils, Choose Neither.

Sounds as if you are between two Evils. Mr. Ex and Mr. Violent Drunk.

The Wise Course may be to choose Neither.
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Old 01-29-2015, 02:24 PM
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I like that proverb...makes sense...my ex is married and his wife just had a baby so his hands are full right now...he hates my husband and would probably be happy if I left him...just don't want him to use that against me and try to take me to court for our boys...I guess I just have to pray to my HP and know that He will take care of me...I have to do what is right for my boys...my youngest son last night asked me about our apartment (we lived in an apartment for a few months while the custody case took place). He said he loves his step brothers and his step dad but he really liked the apartment because it was nice...wow, I started to cry...
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Okay, I am leaving work now...pray that I have a good night. I will chat with you all tomorrow...thanks for the support,,,
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Honey, I am not trying to hurt you by saying this, but your X could much more easily use you staying in an addictive and abusive relationship much more so than if you divorce. Just my .02

I hope you get some much deserved rest and peace in your life.

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Old 01-29-2015, 09:33 PM
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Originally Posted by SadInTX View Post
I just have to pray to my HP and know that He will take care of me...
You are quite correct. THAT is what you just have to do. Not much more, but certainly not less.


I have to do what is right for my boys...
Amen. Can't go wrong when you are doing that which is right.
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Old 01-29-2015, 11:19 PM
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Hi, SadInTX. Your OP (original post) sounds so very familiar. Please be careful as you plan. If you're not sure if you want to contact the Domestic Violence Hotline, please know that they won't make you do anything. They'll give you information, listen to you, help direct you to local resources/services, but they won't tell you that you have to do anything.

Wishing you peace and continued strength.
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