Backstory and quick question
CONGRATS NERO!!
We got married in October with family and friends by our side, and her son gave her away. It was magical. I thought i was happy in the past, but it all dims to what I feel now. And I married into a large family, 10 siblings and everyone loves one another and visits as often as possible. Very different than my ex's dysfunctional mess. We couldn't be happier!
I left 2 years ago day. 2 years and 1500 miles later, I’m across the nation and living happy! I think about my journey just about every week, and it still hurts to a certain extent. But I try to look to the future and live in the moment!
....and she passed away early this morning. Complications from several bouts of sepsis. I haven’t seen her in 4 years.
Best I can do is help her son with the house and contents, and be there for him. She had zero quality of life, and it’s a huge burden off his shoulders, as sad as it sounds.
I guess that’s the end of my story here. Thanks for helping me through the hard times.
Best I can do is help her son with the house and contents, and be there for him. She had zero quality of life, and it’s a huge burden off his shoulders, as sad as it sounds.
I guess that’s the end of my story here. Thanks for helping me through the hard times.
Nero, I'm sorry it ended this way but am very glad you managed to get out and have found happiness.
Thank you for updating your story. I think understanding what the long-term prognosis of living with an addict can entail is really helpful for those people who are currently living with an active addict.
We all want for our addicts to get well, we don't want to "give up" on them, but hope is not a plan, and while you are dealing with crisis and relapse after relapse, life is slipping away.
You did everything you could to help her, and I hope now she is at peace.
Thank you for updating your story. I think understanding what the long-term prognosis of living with an addict can entail is really helpful for those people who are currently living with an active addict.
We all want for our addicts to get well, we don't want to "give up" on them, but hope is not a plan, and while you are dealing with crisis and relapse after relapse, life is slipping away.
You did everything you could to help her, and I hope now she is at peace.
I'm sorry to read about your ex's passing, Nero. Not particularly surprised, necessarily, but it is sad.
Thank you for taking the time to let us know. She and all who care about her will be in my prayers.
Take good care of yourself and enjoy every moment of the new life you have made for yourself!
Thank you for taking the time to let us know. She and all who care about her will be in my prayers.
Take good care of yourself and enjoy every moment of the new life you have made for yourself!
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Wow Nero. I am so sorry. This is so sad for your stepson although her death was probably not as hard as watching his mom's descent into alcoholism.
I had to go back and read a bit of your story including my own comments. Since you first posted I have quit drinking myself. It is stories like this that made me decide I didn't want to see how long I could drink normally. I quit 1.5 years ago. It hasn't really changed my life but I'm pretty sure it changed my future.
Big hug. Take care of yourself.
I had to go back and read a bit of your story including my own comments. Since you first posted I have quit drinking myself. It is stories like this that made me decide I didn't want to see how long I could drink normally. I quit 1.5 years ago. It hasn't really changed my life but I'm pretty sure it changed my future.
Big hug. Take care of yourself.
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