Help Secular People!

[doorknob]

Yeah, man. I've gone home from a few AA meetings crying. I can remember (actually, I can't forget) going to one after getting out of a 21 day inpatient treatment program in that town that was based on Choice Theory. Well, as part of my introduction to the group I talked about it, as well as the LifeRing online meetings I was doing. Well, next an oldtimer shared about how Choice Theory was crap, blah, blah and I tried to defend myself the best I could (with about 60 days of sobriety that I was hanging on to by a thread). A couple of other people jumped in and they were about to hold a group conscience to kick me out, but I left and then broke down. I went home and wrote a rap that was like Emimem meets The Orange Papers. I relapsed a couple of days later and posted an email to the LifeRing Email List (the one the 'Keepers' are from) entitled something like "Blowing Chunks and Still Hating AA." It was pretty pathetic and wasn't one of my better moments. I used to not care what people believed in.. now I have fish parodies all over my car. I guess that's something I'm going to have to get over someday. Anyway, there's a little bit about me for ya!

[windysan]

People are in meetings and where there's people there's drama and where there's drama there's danger. For me, anyways.

[Bamboozle]

Windy, I hear ya...


Wow...DK...I don't know what to say...except that's why I don't do groups. I admit, I've never been to AA, but knowing how I am and hearing the horror stories from other secular people, I don't even want to risk putting myself in a potentially dangerous situation like that. If I had been in your shoes, I would have relapsed immediately after I'd left. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

[ananda]

I don't believe in god, but I go to AA and it has been a postivie for me most of the time. Wasn't always that way...somewhat dependent on time and place and people...and people change including me.

Alot of other ways to get sober secular exsist and i think thats great and use any ways of staying sober that i find and that work for me.

Not wanting to horn in on a thread, but just thought it might be a good idea to mention that my time in AA as a non-god person has been overall positive this time.

[doorknob]

Bamboozle, do you live anywhere near Morgantown?

[Bamboozle]

Close enough DK...I won't say where I am now...but pretty good guess. I used to live in Morgantown for quite a while, but no longer.

[Bamboozle]

Originally Posted by ananda

Not wanting to horn in on a thread, but just thought it might be a good idea to mention that my time in AA as a non-god person has been overall positive this time.

Nah, you're not horning in on a thread...you are part of the discussion.


Thank you, ananda. Yeah, some people have had quite positive experiences, but I can be a bit of a firecracker, so I'm not going to risk it.

[doorknob]

Well, you're a lucky SOB!

Morgantown Wednesday
7:00 PM Unitarian Universalist Church 3 109
............................................... Address: 429 Warrick St.
.................................................. Focus: How was your week?
.................................................. .. Note: Alternate contact phone: 304-685-2133
.................................................. ... Map:
Yahoo! Maps, Driving Directions, and Traffic
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Robert Bradley Phone:
304-291-8033 Email: itchyb@prodigy.net
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Morgantown Wednesday
7:00 PM Unitarian Universalist Church 3 109
............................................... Address: 429 Warrick St.
.................................................. Focus: How was your week?
.................................................. .. Note: Alternate contact phone: 304-685-2133
.................................................. ... Map:
Yahoo! Maps, Driving Directions, and Traffic
................................................. Contact:
Robert Bradley Phone:
304-291-8033 Email: itchyb@prodigy.net

General Information About LifeRing Meetings

Robert Bradley is really cool. He'll remember me from the LifeRing Email list I think.

[doorknob]

I'm not sure why they have Wednesday listed twice.. just realized that.

[Bamboozle]

Thanks for the info. Are these meetings weekly throughout the year? As soon as I get a car it'll be an option.

[doorknob]

I posted about LifeRing today:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post1887526 (Messing with my head)

[doorknob]

Originally Posted by Bamboozle

Thanks for the info. Are these meetings weekly throughout the year? As soon as I get a car it'll be an option.

Yeah man, give Itchy (Robert) a call. He might even be able to find you a ride.

[Bamboozle]

I might live a little TOO far away for him to find me a ride (about 1.5 hours--I'm willing to do it myself whenever I get mobile--probably sometime next year). I'll check out the website in the mean time. Thanks, DK!

[doorknob]

You bet! I'm off to karaoke and my gf is meeting some members of a band for a possible singing job. I'll catch y'all later!

[Bamboozle]

Have fun!

[tesquizito]

Originally Posted by doorknob

I posted about LifeRing today:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post1887526 (Messing with my head)

Haha, hey I started that thread...like 4 months ago. I hardly ever post.

Thanks, guess I'll go and post and follow up in it.

[Bamboozle]

*SMACK*

I just hit myself in the forehead...


This time the thread wasn't about an HP...but it was, in my opinion, a baited thread (about AA). I did not post there. Yea for me! I still felt it was necessary to smack myself, though...

I found it interesting to read that thread...and I found myself getting upset for one of the SR members...but no worries. I'm okay now. I hope you are okay, too.

I remembered this thread and I vow to post here instead of posting at any baited thread I may encounter in the future. Big hugs to everyone.

[SelfSeeking]

Look at bamboozle, leading by example!

[Bamboozle]

Thanks, SelfSeeking...


I'm trying to control my anger. I have issues, and this one touches too closely. Three years ago I would have posted something nasty enough to get banned. I have to tell myself that there are people who enjoy nothing more than getting a negative reaction. It's hard for me to resist saying something...that's why I come here when I need to. I find peace at this place. Thank you, everyone.

[doorknob]

I've been though this a few times here at SR (and in real life) and I dealt with it so much better (emotionally) this time. It really helps knowing that I'm not alone. Thanks for being here!

[SelfSeeking]

I almost posted to that thread again but I didn't!

[ananda]

I think I've done well at not posting more than one comment in threads like that...but today I broke my rule....I actually feel ok about that. If I did it all the time, I'll have to rethink...but today it just made me feel good to stay in it a while and express myself.

Unfortunately while I was busy getting wrapped into this crazy thread.....i found out a newcomer came to the site, posted, adn had almost no responses...and left.

That made me sad for all of us

[doorknob]

Originally Posted by ananda

Unfortunately while I was busy getting wrapped into this crazy thread.....i found out a newcomer came to the site, posted, adn had almost no responses...and left.

That made me sad for all of us

Who was it? I hope they returned...