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doorknob · 08-20-2008, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by windysan

Hang in there DK. My regards to Bubba and Poonie over at the trailer park. Don't you go groundhoggin !

Dude, livin in this town is like living in a fishbowl, and this trailer park is like a fishbowl inside a fishbowl. Everybody is constantly backstabbin everybody, the landlord approached me the other day telling me about something someone overheard me talking about on the phone. It's freakin ridiculous...

ananda · 08-20-2008, 05:12 PM

you can dk

we can!!!!!!

doorknob · 08-20-2008, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by bugsworth

Re read it if you can. There is a site that has a great explanation, really down to earth and no nonsense...I'll pm it to you if you want.

Send away. What's a Kwim?

bugsworth · 08-20-2008, 05:26 PM

LOL It means....Know What I Mean.... KWIM.

doorknob · 08-22-2008, 08:28 AM

Wut up homies? I'm kickin' off day 3. Gettin' ready to take my dog Shady into Airway Heights to get him fixed. I feel kinda guilty, but I don't want to have to worry about him runnin' off looking for a little sumpin sumpin... Thanks for all the support and encouragement. Sho do appreciate it! Peace, DK

ananda · 08-22-2008, 09:18 AM

Hey DK....I got my dog fixed after I got sober....seems like it was the responsible thing to do for her sake. And I'm getting fixed in 4 weeks....looking forward to it myself...so don't feel guilty, it is a loving gift to your dog!

doorknob · 08-22-2008, 08:24 PM

Well, the deeds done and he doesn't seem to know the difference. But I still feel bad leaving the poor guy with nothing but an empty sack.

ananda · 08-22-2008, 08:34 PM

Must be a man thing....

doorknob · 08-22-2008, 08:49 PM

Imagine breasts with no nipples...

SelfSeeking · 08-22-2008, 08:53 PM

Whenever my male cat misbehaves, I say the vet must have left a *sliver* of ball behind.

ananda · 08-22-2008, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by doorknob

Imagine breasts with no nipples...

Not even gonna go there with you DK!!!!!!!

zencat · 08-22-2008, 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Dee74

Bugs is right - the only way I got through stuff was by finally determining the voice I was hearing wasn't mine, the thoughts I was having weren't really mine....but the body it used and abused was. I cut off access

I never seen anyone who doesn't given up not make it yet DK

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I have learned to challenge the AV. When my AV starts to talking I first label it as my addiction talking. That helps me to recognize crappy thinking is starting. Sometimes it enough to just recognize whats happening to make it go away. Then I dispel all the crap my AV is telling me. A common AV for me is: F-it I deserve a little drinkie. Ive got his recovery deal down. One night of party wont hurt, I'll sober up again, I've done it so many times before.

Sure, I've sobered up plenty of times but is this honoring my Buddhist path and my aim to become healthy? No. Drugging and drinking, even for one night is harmful to my body, mind and spirit. There too is no assurance it will be for one night only. I could kick start the cravings again. Then there is my self-esteem. I will feel crappy about my commitment to seek a sober life. I know there is no shame in relapsing but, I don't want to relive the disappointment I feel when I do.

Anywho, Its all about practicing sobriety more than not and with practice comes accomplishment 'one day at a time'.

doorknob · 08-22-2008, 09:22 PM

On a more serious note.. tomorrow is day 4 again (third times a charm). And day 1 thu 3 this time have been far less enjoyable, because this time I'm coming off of a what constitutes a binge for me, instead of just having a few beers. I taxed myself pretty good last time around, and it shows in my face and how I feel. I'm looking forward to feeling and looking better again.

ananda · 08-22-2008, 09:49 PM

After a heavy amount of drinking it takes a while to get to feeling better. Hang in there DK....I had to really watch out for that thinking that this being sober sucks....I might as well drink I won't feel any worse....That one got me alot of times.

It helps me alot if I can remember that if I drink, my body really doesn't seem to process alchol well...and if I drink Day 3 or 4 sober might not happen for years! Last night it helped me to read about philosophies that I enjoy viewing my life through. Some people don't like to think too much, but thinking about that kinda stuff sorta gets my mind off drinking and my other pain and into something that I find "entertaining".

Get some sleep DK! Yeah Zencat...I want to be awake to my life today!

Thanks guys for being here!

doorknob · 08-25-2008, 08:07 PM

Just wanted to say that I've almost completed 6 days of no dank and no drank & I can almost thaink straight!

Bamboozle · 08-25-2008, 08:22 PM

SelfSeeking · 08-25-2008, 09:02 PM

Thanks for the reminder that it takes time after a binge to feel like your normal self

JigOvLife · 08-26-2008, 02:35 AM

It's grand you didn't give up and got back on SR...

...MORE POWER TO YA!

**Alera** · 08-26-2008, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by doorknob

Just wanted to say that I've almost completed 6 days of no dank and no drank & I can almost thaink straight!

Now that you can think straight, I recommend you might want to take a look at this link. Its from a PBS series on Ethics and it really is interesting. They are roundtable discussions with many famous people.

This was a website I used to treat myself when I came clean. I needed a clean brain to enjoy the show. It really makes you think about all sorts of issues that those of us working in secular recovery discover in our recovery. For example, right now I'm watching a man talk about how a child has an extreme goal and cheats on his SATs. In this case, it is a student with a goal which is extreme (getting to Harvard). A lot of what the panel discusses are actually similar issues that help me see some of the things I need to fix in my own life.

Resource: Ethics in America

stone · 08-26-2008, 04:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by doorknob

Just wanted to say that I've almost completed 6 days of no dank and no drank & I can almost thaink straight!

Keep going DK.

windysan · 08-26-2008, 08:21 PM

Good job, doe knob. Now let's work on that punctuation. LOL

Jess kiddin, mang, but you should really check the stove and the door locks. he he

Congratulations on the 6 days.

doorknob · 08-26-2008, 08:36 PM

That'll be enuff outa you, Windbag! Nah, thanx fo tha props! I don't think I told any of you guys that I rap a lil' bit.

doorknob · 08-27-2008, 04:25 PM

I have a job interview tomorrow at Family Foods!

I'm pretty sure that I have the job and that this interview is to discuss hours and wages and fill out paperwork. They've already completed a backround check which I don't believe they would have done if they didn't intend on hiring me. And tonight is our karaoke night so I'm in a better mood than I've been in a while. And almost 7 days sober!

ananda · 08-27-2008, 05:13 PM

Way to go DK!!!

08-25-2008, 08:07 PM	#65 (permalink)
doorknob Happy Solstice! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Davenport, WA Posts: 2,263	Just wanted to say that I've almost completed 6 days of no dank and no drank & I can almost thaink straight! __________________

08-25-2008, 08:22 PM	#66 (permalink)
Bamboozle Watch out...it'll fool ya! Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Currently in a butt-support device Posts: 892 Blog Entries: 6	__________________ What I do isn't what I want for myself. I am not my job. I am a hot, steaming, stinky, goopy, bacteria-filled lump of humanity. That is all for now.

08-26-2008, 08:21 PM	#71 (permalink)
windysan Large Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: La Posts: 3,524	Good job, doe knob. Now let's work on that punctuation. LOL Jess kiddin, mang, but you should really check the stove and the door locks. he he Congratulations on the 6 days. __________________ ZigZaggin through Weirdland

08-26-2008, 08:36 PM	#72 (permalink)
doorknob Happy Solstice! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Davenport, WA Posts: 2,263	That'll be enuff outa you, Windbag! Nah, thanx fo tha props! I don't think I told any of you guys that I rap a lil' bit. __________________

08-27-2008, 04:25 PM	#73 (permalink)
doorknob Happy Solstice! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Davenport, WA Posts: 2,263	I have a job interview tomorrow at Family Foods! I'm pretty sure that I have the job and that this interview is to discuss hours and wages and fill out paperwork. They've already completed a backround check which I don't believe they would have done if they didn't intend on hiring me. And tonight is our karaoke night so I'm in a better mood than I've been in a while. And almost 7 days sober! __________________

08-20-2008, 05:12 PM	#52 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 6,236	you can dk we can!!!!!!

08-20-2008, 05:26 PM	#54 (permalink)
bugsworth Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,119	LOL It means....Know What I Mean.... KWIM.

08-22-2008, 08:28 AM	#55 (permalink)
doorknob Happy Solstice! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Davenport, WA Posts: 2,263	Wut up homies? I'm kickin' off day 3. Gettin' ready to take my dog Shady into Airway Heights to get him fixed. I feel kinda guilty, but I don't want to have to worry about him runnin' off looking for a little sumpin sumpin... Thanks for all the support and encouragement. Sho do appreciate it! Peace, DK

08-22-2008, 09:18 AM	#56 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 6,236	Hey DK....I got my dog fixed after I got sober....seems like it was the responsible thing to do for her sake. And I'm getting fixed in 4 weeks....looking forward to it myself...so don't feel guilty, it is a loving gift to your dog!

08-22-2008, 08:24 PM	#57 (permalink)
doorknob Happy Solstice! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Davenport, WA Posts: 2,263	Well, the deeds done and he doesn't seem to know the difference. But I still feel bad leaving the poor guy with nothing but an empty sack.

08-22-2008, 08:34 PM	#58 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 6,236	Must be a man thing....

08-22-2008, 08:49 PM	#59 (permalink)
doorknob Happy Solstice! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Davenport, WA Posts: 2,263	Imagine breasts with no nipples...

08-22-2008, 08:53 PM	#60 (permalink)
SelfSeeking Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Connecticut Posts: 906 Blog Entries: 2	Whenever my male cat misbehaves, I say the vet must have left a sliver of ball behind.

08-22-2008, 09:22 PM	#63 (permalink)
doorknob Happy Solstice! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Davenport, WA Posts: 2,263	On a more serious note.. tomorrow is day 4 again (third times a charm). And day 1 thu 3 this time have been far less enjoyable, because this time I'm coming off of a what constitutes a binge for me, instead of just having a few beers. I taxed myself pretty good last time around, and it shows in my face and how I feel. I'm looking forward to feeling and looking better again.

08-22-2008, 09:49 PM	#64 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 6,236	After a heavy amount of drinking it takes a while to get to feeling better. Hang in there DK....I had to really watch out for that thinking that this being sober sucks....I might as well drink I won't feel any worse....That one got me alot of times. It helps me alot if I can remember that if I drink, my body really doesn't seem to process alchol well...and if I drink Day 3 or 4 sober might not happen for years! Last night it helped me to read about philosophies that I enjoy viewing my life through. Some people don't like to think too much, but thinking about that kinda stuff sorta gets my mind off drinking and my other pain and into something that I find "entertaining". Get some sleep DK! Yeah Zencat...I want to be awake to my life today! Thanks guys for being here!

08-25-2008, 09:02 PM	#67 (permalink)
SelfSeeking Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Connecticut Posts: 906 Blog Entries: 2	Thanks for the reminder that it takes time after a binge to feel like your normal self

08-26-2008, 02:35 AM	#68 (permalink)
JigOvLife refusing to grow up Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Republic of Yorkshire Posts: 366 Blog Entries: 1	It's grand you didn't give up and got back on SR... ...MORE POWER TO YA!

08-27-2008, 05:13 PM	#74 (permalink)
ananda Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 6,236	Way to go DK!!!

08-27-2008, 05:40 PM	#75 (permalink)
Bamboozle Watch out...it'll fool ya! Join Dat