july 4th parties

[anjole]

i'm new ,but feel okay about about asking this question here.i'm seeking help for self&bf .he's got 6 months left on probation.was out of control before,drank more than he worked.but now i'm looking ahead to life without probation.&not positive he will still know what's important,when jail is no longer a consequence if he drinks.cause i've been through the stories with no surprise endings.it starts with "i'll just have one beer" and that will be okay untill it becomes two or four and you all know how that story ends.i just found out this is called controled drinking. with the july4th weekend aproaching i'm concerned about having a heavy schedual of parties to attend day after day.[bf plays bluegrass music w/my uncle at these places.]

[Stamps43]

Sounds like you know what you want but where does he stand? If it's about getting his drinking under control than he has to be committed to it. As for myself, I run a lot, so at 4th of July parties if I've got people around me that won't respond to me saying, "I just don't want to drink" then I tell them I'm training for a race. I use that example to point out that he can pick out an excuse to get people off his back about the subject but if he feels like the pressure is going to be too much and you really don't want him to drink then he will have to walk away. I know these might not be the one size fits all answers for which you're looking but there is no easy answer.

Also, "I'll just have one" is famous last words that have been used by millions. If that statement has to be thought or said then it's not true. A person that can have just one doesn't have to tell themselves that. Anyway, Let him know how you feel and maybe you'll find it's important to him too.