"The Soloist"-a great example of recovery work

[evmdimples]

Has anyone seen this movie? It makes me wonder if this was written by someone in recovery. It's a good example of recovery work, someone trying very hard to do good for someone, but becoming too attached to the outcome he wants . There's also a great representation of what happens when, with good intentions, someone brings out the God concept. There's a great scene around this theme, the visuals made me want to run for the hills, but it's very effective, lol! Lots of other ideas presented, about over medicating, over diagnosing, etc.

My favorite line in the movie: "you can't cure him. Just show up for him."

The concept of becoming over attached to outcome is giving me clarity about a current situation in my life. I have been so attached to how I want things to be, rather than allowing them to be what they need to be. Sure would make my life simpler! Releasing attachment to outcome. Off to continue work on self-care.

peace,
elena

[ananda]

Absolutely...i am stuck trying to achieve an outcome...fortunately... I think i've hit my head against this particular stone wall enough to be ready to let go of that....

you can't cure him. Just show up for him

wow that is exactly where i want to be in all my relationships! Knowing it is true intelictually and actually living by it seem to be two different things.

I think i'll try to live by that today

Thanks so much

[NoelleR]

I've been meaning to reply to this thread, but I keep forgetting. In regards to who 'wrote' (?) it....it's not from a novel or even a short story.............:

The Soloist is based on a true story of Nathaniel Ayers, a musician who becomes schizophrenic and homeless. Nathaniel Ayers is considered a cello prodigy, and Steve Lopez is a Los Angeles Times columnist who discovers Ayers and writes a number of articles about him in the newspaper. These artivles were the basis for the story portrayed in the movie.

[evmdimples]

Yes, its's a very touching true story. Lopez wrote the book The Soloist based on his experience with Mr. Ayers; there's a quick reference to HP in the movie which leads me to believe there are more details about the story which were not included in the movie and so now I must get the book.

My current situation is dealing with someone who is musically gifted, a child prodigy, and like Mr Ayers was accepted into juilliard, and also like Mr. Ayers suffers with mental illness. It's difficult and very sad and hard to deal with. And why this movie and this story is so important to me. It smacks me in the face with the reality that: there's nothing I can do. Except show up. Its one of the hardest tests for a recovering codependent.

Thanks for the chance to share some more about this. Obviously there was more inside that needed to come out.