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2stop · 03-28-2006, 12:21 PM

Oh man...I have been too sad to even talk about my brother. I am also very angry with him. He won't get help with his drinking problem...hell, the cops here won't even do their job! He was pulled over driving drunk last week..the officer let him drive hom! Happens al the time here....he is on probation...had adirty ua for marijuana.....went to AA for two weeks to impress his boss....drinking and drugging up a storm again...he calls me on the weeeknd on my nextel..it has a two way feature...saying he wants to put a tire around him, set himself on fire and die a "awesomely miserable death" calls in the middle of the nite asking me if I am having dreams of dead bodies burning..I said NO! He says okay..I'm not worried then....he is smoking some 'legal' weed an atypical psychedalic can't pronounce......he says he talks to God when he smokes it, and goes into a 'bubble'..he takes the dog with him sometimes.....he refuses to do anything for his son..says it's not his..it's mothers....his son don't need him! He can come around when a teen..he treats women badly......a woman from his AA group jumped from a bridge in town a few weeks ago and he was laughing saying she was just white trash! I almost assaulted him!! Oh that made me mad!! I am so sickened by his behaviour.............my kids are saddened and scared of him...several years ago in TX he almost shot a girl in my home with a sawed off shotgun!! had to take it apart and hide it under the house!

I don't know him anymore..it feels like he has finally died,,,,,,,his only death left is the physical one and he is headed straight for it.

Sorry, ya all I juts had to gte that out......I can't even cry anymore about it.....but I know one day, probably son he will definitely be either dead..or doing hard prison time. I pray for him, encourage the AA meetings, tell him I have faith in him..but I am almost about to just stop speaking to him..my kids get too scared and upset....I feel guilty..but my kids don't deserve to see and hear his crap!.and he doesn't want me telling him he can make it.....there;s nothing else to do but let him do his thing..and I'll do mine.

lulu70 · 04-01-2006, 06:37 AM

((((((((((((((2stop))))))))))))))))) Thinking of you and your brother!

dane5679 · 04-02-2006, 09:22 PM

Tammie-

Sorry your going through this. I wish i could tell you something to do to make it all better, but we all know that's not possible. My question is have you discussed his behavior with the rest of your family (mother, father, brothers, sisters)? Also, has he said any of these "self injury" types of things to anyone else? If is possible to have someone 302'd into a mental institution. If your afraid that he will harm himself they will admit him unwillingly. And with the drug problem maybe a treatment could ensue... I'm not sure if this is a possibility but.. good luck and my prayers are with you. Hugs!

Luv Dayna

2stop · 04-03-2006, 05:17 AM

Oh yes the family knows..we have tried everything....even the few times he has been taken into a mental health facility he has charmed his way out! Imagine! I don't know what to do............I don't think he is going to live much longer though..........his mind is about gone...his body is gonna follow....For the past year or so I have had dreams and an awful sense that he will kill himself.................maybe it's just the codie in me..I don't know.I would commit him long term if I could.......but saadly until he really wants help..it is all pointless..............HE used to be soo handsome..looked like a guy from one of the soap operas............tall, dark hair, charming....longer darker eyelashes than me! a real charmer..............but he is falling apart.and you know what is so sad? His story is so many others' story....

My kids are scared of him when he drinks and uses drugs........he is on probation for a DWI.has no remorse..........still drives drunk...and when I get a hold of the %^&%^%&* cop that let him drive home drunk....well..it's on.I am going to se that the newspapers write about it.....every media outlet I know, state reps..............letting them drive away is hurting THEM and OTHERS!! half the cops are alcoholic here thouhg.they just rearrested an officer for his SECOND DWI!!! You let peoplem get away with that.well I am sure you have seen the stats from deaths from drunk driving..........If I see my brother driving intoxicated thisa summer in the water truck....I am calling the cops......and I am going to wait where I can see that they don't let him drive off..........he is definitely going to kill himself or someone else............

last year I was real sick and in the ER.he drives his water truck to the hospital.drunker an cooter brown...somehow parks it between some cars...comes inside.....gets to my room.stands ther with his hands on my head asking the /spirits. to heal me!! chanting some weird crap!! I wanted to crawl through the floor. His gf got him to leave....he needs help badly..but he doesn't want it........even the cops let it slide....he charms his way through mental health hospital stays......

I don'y know.I am very sad just writing this.I have been stuffing it..I am a recovering addict so I have great sympathy for him..but I cannot just stand by while he endangers himself and OTHERS!

Thanks for the kind words............(((((((((Huge HUgs))))))))

Justme57 · 04-03-2006, 05:49 AM

Oh! Dear (((((((((Tammie))))))) how dreadful for you to have to cope with this ! I guess, my friend, all you can really do is pray for him, and give him up to your HP , God of your understanding. There IS a plan for his life, and it may not be the one you see for him, but it will be timely, and right in gods planning.

I think it might be that you have to cut off contact with him just now, for your childrens sake, and for your peace of mind. let God do His work, and you keep praying my dear mate.

I will keep you , your family, and your bro in my prayers

HUGE HUGX

Lee

2stop · 04-03-2006, 05:56 AM

thank you, Lee........I just want to save him....but I know I can;t. You're right God has a plan.and I have to let him do his work. Thanks again my friend. ((((((((((((((Lee)))))))))))))))

03-28-2006, 12:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	my brother... Oh man...I have been too sad to even talk about my brother. I am also very angry with him. He won't get help with his drinking problem...hell, the cops here won't even do their job! He was pulled over driving drunk last week..the officer let him drive hom! Happens al the time here....he is on probation...had adirty ua for marijuana.....went to AA for two weeks to impress his boss....drinking and drugging up a storm again...he calls me on the weeeknd on my nextel..it has a two way feature...saying he wants to put a tire around him, set himself on fire and die a "awesomely miserable death" calls in the middle of the nite asking me if I am having dreams of dead bodies burning..I said NO! He says okay..I'm not worried then....he is smoking some 'legal' weed an atypical psychedalic can't pronounce......he says he talks to God when he smokes it, and goes into a 'bubble'..he takes the dog with him sometimes.....he refuses to do anything for his son..says it's not his..it's mothers....his son don't need him! He can come around when a teen..he treats women badly......a woman from his AA group jumped from a bridge in town a few weeks ago and he was laughing saying she was just white trash! I almost assaulted him!! Oh that made me mad!! I am so sickened by his behaviour.............my kids are saddened and scared of him...several years ago in TX he almost shot a girl in my home with a sawed off shotgun!! had to take it apart and hide it under the house! I don't know him anymore..it feels like he has finally died,,,,,,,his only death left is the physical one and he is headed straight for it. Sorry, ya all I juts had to gte that out......I can't even cry anymore about it.....but I know one day, probably son he will definitely be either dead..or doing hard prison time. I pray for him, encourage the AA meetings, tell him I have faith in him..but I am almost about to just stop speaking to him..my kids get too scared and upset....I feel guilty..but my kids don't deserve to see and hear his crap!.and he doesn't want me telling him he can make it.....there;s nothing else to do but let him do his thing..and I'll do mine. __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

04-01-2006, 06:37 AM	#2 (permalink)
lulu70 We all need each other. Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: The road of happy destiny. Posts: 2,223	((((((((((((((2stop))))))))))))))))) Thinking of you and your brother! __________________ "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.....do the thing you think you cannot do." ~Eleanor Roosevelt

04-02-2006, 09:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
dane5679 Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: sw, pa Posts: 13	Tammie- Sorry your going through this. I wish i could tell you something to do to make it all better, but we all know that's not possible. My question is have you discussed his behavior with the rest of your family (mother, father, brothers, sisters)? Also, has he said any of these "self injury" types of things to anyone else? If is possible to have someone 302'd into a mental institution. If your afraid that he will harm himself they will admit him unwillingly. And with the drug problem maybe a treatment could ensue... I'm not sure if this is a possibility but.. good luck and my prayers are with you. Hugs! Luv Dayna __________________

04-03-2006, 05:17 AM	#4 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	Oh yes the family knows..we have tried everything....even the few times he has been taken into a mental health facility he has charmed his way out! Imagine! I don't know what to do............I don't think he is going to live much longer though..........his mind is about gone...his body is gonna follow....For the past year or so I have had dreams and an awful sense that he will kill himself.................maybe it's just the codie in me..I don't know.I would commit him long term if I could.......but saadly until he really wants help..it is all pointless..............HE used to be soo handsome..looked like a guy from one of the soap operas............tall, dark hair, charming....longer darker eyelashes than me! a real charmer..............but he is falling apart.and you know what is so sad? His story is so many others' story.... My kids are scared of him when he drinks and uses drugs........he is on probation for a DWI.has no remorse..........still drives drunk...and when I get a hold of the %^&%^%&* cop that let him drive home drunk....well..it's on.I am going to se that the newspapers write about it.....every media outlet I know, state reps..............letting them drive away is hurting THEM and OTHERS!! half the cops are alcoholic here thouhg.they just rearrested an officer for his SECOND DWI!!! You let peoplem get away with that.well I am sure you have seen the stats from deaths from drunk driving..........If I see my brother driving intoxicated thisa summer in the water truck....I am calling the cops......and I am going to wait where I can see that they don't let him drive off..........he is definitely going to kill himself or someone else............ last year I was real sick and in the ER.he drives his water truck to the hospital.drunker an cooter brown...somehow parks it between some cars...comes inside.....gets to my room.stands ther with his hands on my head asking the /spirits. to heal me!! chanting some weird crap!! I wanted to crawl through the floor. His gf got him to leave....he needs help badly..but he doesn't want it........even the cops let it slide....he charms his way through mental health hospital stays...... I don'y know.I am very sad just writing this.I have been stuffing it..I am a recovering addict so I have great sympathy for him..but I cannot just stand by while he endangers himself and OTHERS! Thanks for the kind words............(((((((((Huge HUgs)))))))) __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

04-03-2006, 05:49 AM	#5 (permalink)
Justme57 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Melbourne victoria Posts: 1,980 Blog Entries: 7	Oh! Dear (((((((((Tammie))))))) how dreadful for you to have to cope with this ! I guess, my friend, all you can really do is pray for him, and give him up to your HP , God of your understanding. There IS a plan for his life, and it may not be the one you see for him, but it will be timely, and right in gods planning. I think it might be that you have to cut off contact with him just now, for your childrens sake, and for your peace of mind. let God do His work, and you keep praying my dear mate. I will keep you , your family, and your bro in my prayers HUGE HUGX Lee __________________

04-03-2006, 05:56 AM	#6 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	thank you, Lee........I just want to save him....but I know I can;t. You're right God has a plan.and I have to let him do his work. Thanks again my friend. ((((((((((((((Lee))))))))))))))) __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

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