A good story...

[Msguy]

Hello all-

I am dating an addict. When we got serious in our relationship, she revealed her addiction to me. I could have walked, but decided to stick it out to see what happened. I am really glad I did. She is clean, and intends to stay that way. So I don't have the problem of her using to contend with (at least not now).

I wanted to share a good thing. Since we have been dating, I have watched her grow stronger, and happier. She says that she doesn't feel any urges to use when we are together.

Why are some people drawn to addicts? I think it's because they tend to be very intelligent and interesting people. I know mine is. At first, I started to worry that she would relapse and it would be my responsibility. Now I know that is something I cannot control. I hope it never happens, but if it does, it is not my fault.

Another thing. This person has hit rock bottom (which is, as you know, where they need to be before they will truly try to recover). That gives her a sense of gratitude about life that you rarely see in people. And that's a wonderful gift.

This is rambling, I know. But I wanted to share some thoughts about getting romantically involved with an addict. It's not all sadness and pain. Is it worth it? For me it is-absolutely and without a doubt. I have found the love of my life, and could not be happier.

[unsure of]

is it worth it? that is a good question and only you can answer that for yourself. i pray that your agf makes a full recovery.

but i have to say that the addict in life is a man that i am so in love with but i know we can't be together until he is in recovery and understands and loves himself enough to love me they way i need to be loved.

he is wonderful full of life, funny, sweet, smart, interesting, i think the world of him. but his addiction was hurting me to the point i had to leave. it was worth it for me to leave because he has hit his rock buttom and is working on his self and he is not depending on me for his recovery. in time i feel we will be together, it is a come goal.

love is a wonderful thing, hold on to it, many of us do. addicts deserve love just like everyone else.

best wishes for you and your girlfirend

peace, hugs and support

Polly Anna

[escape artist]

Originally Posted by Msguy

Hello all-

I am dating an addict. She says that she doesn't feel any urges to use when we are together.

that my friend is a red flag. if you are familiar with codependence you know that she must be able to cope even without you.