He's MY guy

[Gabe]

Relationships in recovery. I think this post qualifies. Since my relationship in recovery started right here on this board. And one issue I’ve had in that relationship is other females thinking that my guy is fair game. I am not possessive by nature, but that brings out the “back off bitch” in me time and time again. My sensible friends always talk me down when this comes up. They tell me that recovery boards are full of lonely people who are going to misinterpret any “friendly” attention they get from a member of the opposite sex. And while the sensible part of me knows that is true, it still yanks my chain every time it happens. So I guess I have some “acceptance” issues to deal with. I suppose I have to stop gritting my teeth while I do that, yeah?

[splendra]

(((Gabe))))

All I know is he better be good to you!!! I can understand the feeling totally.

There will be no flirting allowed with Dan:nono: got that girls...

[cwohio]

not me, nope. gabe carries a shoe with pointy, spiked heels!

[susane1408]

Did I miss something? Do you mean THE Dan Gabe? Dangerous Dan?

[Hopefloats]

It is good to be honest about how you are feeling.
Without too many details I once had to deal with this sort of thing with Mr. Hope. There was a gal in particular that refused to get it. I am not jealous by nature, but I do get perturbed with inappropriate behaviors. But that is MY story and I don't want to hijack your thread.

When someone tells me something, I have a choice. I can listen or choose not to listen. Listening has a wonderful way of working out for me

When we find love, I think we should not only feel happy, but it IS natural to want to share that wonderful blessing with others. I know I am proud of my love, and I like sharing all the goodness that I am so blessed to have.

Many blessings, love, light and laughter coming BOTH of your way. May the light of love burn for all eternity
Hope

[equus]

You know what? I'm as thick as a bloody plank!

I hardly ever come in here it was only the MY in caps that caught my eye!!

YAYAY!!!! Happy New Year to you both, from one cheeky **** who is NOT a strumpet!! We can still joke around though??? *Sniffs* pweese....

[Jazzman]

I'll back off

[Evanna]

I always thought Dan was gay. Just shows how wrong one can be!


Happy New Year to you both.

[Hopefloats]

Crash into a book marker Doug?? How funny is that!

My belief is we teach our children that some of their toys are "share toys" and some are not.
The same applies in adult life. Not everything is to be shared. Yes?

NO I am not calling Dan a toy! I don't wanna be misquoted! Goodness, that is all I need today! LOL LOL
Hope

[Dan]

Originally Posted by Doug

*whew*....that was close.

You ungrateful, wrench pulling macho car jock.

[Jazzman]

Originally Posted by Dan

You ungrateful, wrench pulling macho car jock.

Wow... talk about speedreading, I had to read that one sloooow

[FaeryQueen]

You mean two of my favorite people on SR have HOOKED UP?

Holy Shiite...where have I been!!!?@#

This gives me the warm fuzzies.


:bbb:

[Gabe]

"We were ring-around-the-rosy children
They were circles around the sun
Never give up, never slow down
Never grow old, never ever die young

Synchronized with the rising moon
Even with the evening star
They were true love written in stone
They were never alone, they were never that far apart

And we who couldn't bear to believe they might make it
We got to close our eyes
Cut up our losses into doable doses
Ration our tears and sighs

You could see them on the street on a Saturday night
Everyone used to run them down
They're a little too sweet, they're a little too tight
Not enough tough for this town

We couldn't touch them with a ten-foot pole
No, it didn't seem to rattle at all
They were glued together body and soul
That much more with their backs up against the wall

Oh, hold them up, hold them up
Never do let them fall
Prey to the dust and the rust and the ruin
That names us and claims us and shames us all

I guess it had to happen someday soon
wasn't nothing to hold them down
They would rise from among us like a big baloon
Take the sky, forsake the ground

Oh, yes, other hearts were broken
Yeah, other dreams ran dry
But our golden ones sail on, sail on
To another land beneath another sky."
~James Taylor

[Hopefloats]

Now you know that James Taylor is stuck in this mind of mine today A good thing...a very good thing....
Blessings to you both
Hopefloats

[Gabe]

Oh, James is stuck in your mind Hope?
Try this.
It's a keeper.
The Water Is Wide - Listen

[BigSis]

Gabe -

We had a speaker meeting a few weeks ago and the woman touched some things in me...

I know I have always been attracted to emotionally unvailable men. Alcoholic men fit that profile pretty well... as well as married men. So an alcoholic married man!!! Hell, prime sh*t, if you get my drift. So during my active addiction, I actively pursued YOUR men!!

Then I got sober. And married. And occassionally attracted to some men. Sigh. To protect ME, I stayed away from these temptations.... but listening to that woman the other night, I finally "got" why some men were SOOO much more a magnet than others. Understanding that has helped me to back off on "innocent flirtation". There ain't no such beast.

Now, having some warrior babe going after Mr. Big? I guess I've left that battle up to him, and he has been pretty good at fighting them himself. And if I see something coming in under his radar (sneaky little bi*ches, sometimes); why I might "slip" and spill a bit of orange kool-aid on her itty bitty bosom. Not intentionally, mind you.



PS - I am thick, too... sometimes the obvious is just too subtle (like the little gif in your original post - totally missed it).

So Gabe, if Dan is getting off his leash, try a choke chain - some men like it that way.

And if the problem is in perception, then maybe understanding women like me will help understand why there is competition... see the first part of my post.

[equus]

I never heard James Taylor before! Wow!!

Sometimes with me and D it's been a little like that first song describes, but with time it's always changed. Now at SR it feels like the exact opposite with so many people here I can almost feel mine and D's partnership lifted up. The change makes me know through and through that there was never any malice or ill intent, just people worried or not knowing enough about us as people.

I'm SO glad you spelt it out for thickies like me - I hope you get to feel it treasured here too, it should be. It's a big splash of the colour purple!!

[Hopefloats]

"Build me a boat
That can carry two..
And both shall row..
My love and I..
And both shall row..
My love and I

NOW I have another Ms. Gabe
Pssssssst..I am not complaining....
What a beautiful sentiment

OH I just LOVE....love..
Hope

[Hopefloats]

Can I just tell this "little" story. My mom was oh so crazy about my daddy from the first time she laid eyes on him. She caught him at the "Dance Hall" way back when dancing with another woman.She (mom) was still in HOT pursuit mode

Anyway, all she could think to do was to go up to daddy and say "Your wife and 6 kids are at home waiting for you". Well, back then you can imagine the horror of daddy's dance partner. She flew out of there in a mad rush and dear mommy moved in for the kill! lol They were married 2 months shy of 50 years when daddy passed. She WAS such a ticket.

May everyone get to experience that kind of love...
Hope

[cwohio]

thanks for the clip gabe - i love james taylor too but had not heard that one before - guess i need to start downloading more music.

[Gabe]

Big Sis...hilarious. And then some.
No need for a leash, or a choke chain.
Maybe an invisible fence though.
I hear those things keep the pests away.
And I agree, there is no such thing as "innocent flirtation".
That was my original point.
Oh, and there is no competition either.
Of that, I am very sure.
Did someone miss the gif in the original post?
Happy to post it again.

[cwohio]

here ya go gabe - for those pesky little pests!

[Hopefloats]

WELL Gabe, dare I admit to missing anything?
I am working on it...I am
Invisible fence you say? They DO STING right? lol
Gotta go back and read original post. YOU know what my problem is..just don't tell! Not everything IS for everyone right? (wink)
Hope

[velvet]

Bless your parents, Hope. As for Dan...I won't be sending him any pm...or any posts for that matter. But hey, I'm not even looking. Just here for the help. Anyone else defending their territory that we should know about?

[Hangin' In]

<--------------See avatar.

Excuse me, but WHO changed my words?

Oh no. It can't be. Tell me it ain't so!

Barney just called. Told me it's over between us. He's interested in another.
You know, never in a million years did I suspect Dan.

Gabe, I hope you have some cash left over from Christmas to buy that fence. If Barney's putting the make on Dan, well, all the high heels in the world ain't gonna help.