sad: partner not emotionally available

[goffredo]

Dear all

I'm sad today. I am going through a difficult time as my dad passed away this time two years ago because of alcoholism. Xmas is not an easy time for me anyway...

Last night I started to talk about my dad with my recovering partner and she wasn't supportive or sweet or wanting to listen... That has upset me so much as I thought she would be there for me but then I think that maybe I expect too much from a recovering alcoholic/addict (nearly 90 days) who cannot deal with feelings as she is just starting to learn how to deal with hers... However, it hurts because I feel like I can't show her how I feel and have to put a smiling mask on my face. i don't want to become resentful or passive aggressive but I feel angry and sad. I want to let go but right now I can't. Help please? Thanks, Jo

{{HUGS}}

My condolences, Jo. X-mas is a rough time for me too. Come to think of it, all the holidays are tough for me too!! Have you thought about going to any Al-Anon meetings, so you can surround yourself with people who are more receptive?

[goffredo]

Yes, thank God for Alanon! Thank you for your reply too. I'm better today and have been able to let go. I have to learn that one person cannot give me everything I need but different people can give me different things. Today I'm grateful for my recovery, my partner's one and for having great support of my frineds and SR.

Thank you. Easy does it

[Dreamer999]

Way to go goffredo!! You are totally right
Christmas and holidays suck, I hate hipocrisy (sp?)