The Warning Signs

[utopia]

Hi, I'd like to hear people share on some of the warning signs they've learnt to be aware of when opening up to new relationships.

I feel red flags when I'm attracted to the type of confident-meets-arrogant way of speaking, the complacencymeets careless, the dark and mysterious, the uncannily familiar, when I'm talking childhood trauma and past relationships in day one.

In myself I try to not be so so so defensive and on the look out for whats wrong but I also believe I have to be aware to not just let anyone who comes knocking into my heart of hearts and walk on in. I'm learning to trust in recovery, to trust God, myself and in the power and miracle of love. Yet I'm also gaining awareness and with that I feel comes respoonsibility of a kind.

What are some things to raise the red flags? What are some things I should give more time to feel out? ???

[minnie]

Hi Utopia.

Did you see this thread? Red Flags

[splendra]

I see red flags when I feel like I "know" someone that I just met...which usually means that they have some kind of behavior that I grew up with...