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bosetech · 06-08-2005, 08:12 AM

My wife and I put our daughter on "house arrest" after her third relapse. She could have no visitors and no phone or car for two weeks. She did have the green light for NA folks, meetings and activities. Also he was to have no contact with her boyfriend, who has been no help to her recovery at all. He was also involved with all of her relapses.

Her two weeks were up 3 days ago and she is still heavily involved with NA. Word among her friends is that the boyfriend is history. WooHoo!!

It's great to see her smiling and happy again. She now has many new friends and it's great to see her personality coming alive again.

We know recovery will always be a work in progress. But now we have have one less stumbling stone to worry about.

pedagogue · 06-08-2005, 08:35 AM

Welcome to SR!

It sounds like a great situation, but please don't put all your eggs in one basket. If she wants to change...she has a shot. If she doesn't want to change....then she won't. I think you both as parents should educate yourself as much as possible with addiction and the role that you will play in your daughter's recovery. There are some excellent forums (including RAPS!) that can provide you with a wealth of information.

-pedagogue

robina · 06-08-2005, 12:38 PM

It's good you have found this forum. I find it very comforting to post here and read the messages. I too have an addicted daughter (22 years old - alcoholic). It was hell for the last five months watching her addiction almost kill her. Now she is one month sober. I suppose you could say she in in recovery but she is not really working a recovery program very hard. She goes to AA a few times a week, and that is about all.

I've been going to Alanon and working my program with a vengeance, however. I accept now that the only person I can control is me.

What everybody says is that when the family dynamic heals, the addict has a chance of getting better, so I'm working really hard to heal me. Changing my own unhealthy patterns is a lot of work, though.

Love and blessings

Robin

06-08-2005, 08:12 AM	#1 (permalink)
bosetech Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Columbia, SC Posts: 5	Turning a corner My wife and I put our daughter on "house arrest" after her third relapse. She could have no visitors and no phone or car for two weeks. She did have the green light for NA folks, meetings and activities. Also he was to have no contact with her boyfriend, who has been no help to her recovery at all. He was also involved with all of her relapses. Her two weeks were up 3 days ago and she is still heavily involved with NA. Word among her friends is that the boyfriend is history. WooHoo!! It's great to see her smiling and happy again. She now has many new friends and it's great to see her personality coming alive again. We know recovery will always be a work in progress. But now we have have one less stumbling stone to worry about.

06-08-2005, 08:35 AM	#2 (permalink)
pedagogue Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Anytown, USA Posts: 1,036	Welcome to SR! It sounds like a great situation, but please don't put all your eggs in one basket. If she wants to change...she has a shot. If she doesn't want to change....then she won't. I think you both as parents should educate yourself as much as possible with addiction and the role that you will play in your daughter's recovery. There are some excellent forums (including RAPS!) that can provide you with a wealth of information. -pedagogue __________________ "If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere." - Frank A. Clark

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06-08-2005, 12:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
robina How Important Is It? Join Date: May 2005 Location: Cyberia Posts: 609	It's good you have found this forum. I find it very comforting to post here and read the messages. I too have an addicted daughter (22 years old - alcoholic). It was hell for the last five months watching her addiction almost kill her. Now she is one month sober. I suppose you could say she in in recovery but she is not really working a recovery program very hard. She goes to AA a few times a week, and that is about all. I've been going to Alanon and working my program with a vengeance, however. I accept now that the only person I can control is me. What everybody says is that when the family dynamic heals, the addict has a chance of getting better, so I'm working really hard to heal me. Changing my own unhealthy patterns is a lot of work, though. Love and blessings Robin

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