My Love is an Addict and I'm hanging by a string.

[yvonner]

I know I am not alone when it come to dealing and living with the addiction problem my boyfriend has. Just earlier this week my honey and I where making plans to go camping this weekend to celebrate his birthday which happens to be today. Well unfortunetly yesterday he decided he needed a couple of drinks and of course drinking leads to drugs. I don't want our love to come to an end because I know even if I am far from him I am going to worry about him and hope that he is ok. I don't know what to do to help him. I have tried looking for a place for him to go to but he sais he does not want to stop having "fun". The other day he popped about 9 pills of X and got very crazy. I am so heartbroken and worried for his safety and health. He is a wonderful man when he is sober but he can't manage to go more than 1 week and a half without doing something. I need help. We need help. This morning I got pushed to the limit and I told him if he wanted to be part of my children and my life he was going to need to look for help. He said he would at first but then after a while he said "forget it!" I don't want help...not right now!". I am now at work any worried sick for him. I think he is out getting high and drinking right now. He keeps text messaging me saying "God, why am I so fine?" and things like that to get to me. Please Help..Anyone!

[Gabe]

Unfortunately, there isn't anything you can do to make him see that he has a problem or that he needs help. Those are things that only he can see, when he's ready to see them. And I know it sounds trite, but worrying about him isn't going to get you anywhere. It isn't going to change what he does, it's just going to make you sick.
Try to focus on how this is affecting you.
Have you thought about going to a Naranon meeting?
That way, you can meet other people who are going through things similar to what you're going through.
There are lots of people here who understand how you feel.
Stick around.

[Kahlia]

I am sooo sorry that you are going through this right now. You cannot help him-he has told you he does not want help.....that says it all. I agree with Gabe-you need to get to a naranon meeting and get some folks on your side that have been through this. I wish you all the best, do not involve your children in his issues....they are just LITTLE people that cannot speak for themselves....Kahlia