Bombshell

[ggnewme]

Hello everyone. I'm new. My boyfriend of almost 2 years confessed to me last week that he is an alcoholic and has been for 8 years. He lives at home with his dad (also an A and his mother died of it 5 years ago), and has worked only some of the time the past year. I knew we had problems - but I didn't realize his habit was out of control. On one hand, I'm almost relieved to have a tangible reason for his behavior. I'm also pissed that he's kept this from me (and everyone). I'm still not sure I can stay his girlfriend, but ultimately I want to be there for him and help him in his recovery -

Another unexpected result of this news is that I feel forced to come to terms with my own out-of-control pot smoking habit. I've been a "functioning" stoner for the better part of 10 years. So, today is his day 7 and my day 2. I'm hoping that just having a cleared head will assist me in assisting him.

Anyway, thanks for listening. We are both just taking this one day at a time, and I'm hopeful that we can stay together. Any basic advice? Thanks again - GG

[Gabe]

Hey GG,
Welcome to Sober Recovery.
Taking it one day at a time and being hopeful is an excellent way to go.
Glad you found us.
Stick around.
Gabe

[Paulie]

Hi and welcome from me too.

Yep what Gabe said. And just to add, that taking care of ourselves is the best way to help the ones we love.