Burned Out With Family Drama....

[2stop]

Just need to vent a little. maybe it's the holidays that bring out the craziness in families, maybe it's always there but our expectations are higher around holidays are higher so we notice more of what we have always hated. Maybe because it's my first sober Christmas....but the drama and antics of my family are driving me absloutely insane...LOL..to the point of wanting to move thousands and thousands of miles away from them.

My mother convinced my daughter to stay at her house Christmas night, then comes by last week with a present....she said "I had an idea...I am going out of town for awhile." I asked where...she of course could not tell me....highly classified business don't you know! My poor daughter, my mother has her worrying about her well-being the same way she did with me............my mother has been talking badly about me and my husband to the kids..it just angers me. My brother and his girl....they only want me when they need money or she needs come to me accusing my brother of some pretty twisted things....never once since I met her has she said ONE nice thing..always fighting.they get drunk and say they are demons....sober they say they talk to "Henry"..a demon guide! My God!! She is already on probation for attacking my brother...........my brother will be in jail soon for child support.he won't send his son a package..nothing..just ignores him....GR!!! I won't even go into the rest...I know I should "let go" and 'let God" but lately I have been haVING SOME PRETTY MEAN THOUGHTS ABOUT IT...JUST BURNED OUT WITH DEALING WITH IT....................I want to scream at them..leave me alone!!! I don't know you!!! I feel guilty though..........I want to help them..and I have tried everything I know..................
My poor husband...his family is the same way.drama drama drama..backstabbing......just always something totally negative and hurtful going on...........but send em money....thye're sweet for a week.! I dread holiday meals because I am walking around trying to make sure everyone is getting along.I know better than to do so...but can't help myself sometimes....I just want a quiet peaceful holiday.

I have had some evil thoughts of cancelling at the last minute and going to a hotel and locking that door behind me and holing up for a week! My birthday is 3 days after Christams....I'll just say it's my Birthday present to myself..and it starts the 25th!!! LOL......I know that is bad................

Thanks for listening guys...............((((Huge Hugs)))))


I don't know...the stress lately is etting me down..thought I'd just get it out and hear some replies from others who are going through same/similar.

[Gabe]

2Stop,
Dysfunctional families seldom weather the holidays well.
We can't control what family members do or don't do, but we can control how we react to it.
Here's hoping that a big cloud of serenity buffers you through the holidays.
Hugs,
Gabe

[liveweyerd]

What about making the obligatory appearance and splitting at the first opportunity.
Then, hey, that birthday present in the hotel sounds like a super idea to me.

I stopped making myself available for drop-in company years ago. Just stated that I do not accept unexpected visitors, please call first unless there is an invitation.
I think it is presumptious for people to just assume you do not have your own life and plans and are there for them at their whim.
that's my boundary.