What do I do?

[WestCoastSwan]

I just posted a brief intro in the Newbie forum. I been clean & sober for two days and attended my first NA meeting yesterday after four years of drug and alcohol abuse. I have told my family and my mother, whom I live with, found out that my best friend is using also and has been selling drugs for three weeks. Although we each make our own choices, he is keeping them in his mother's house.

I have a good relationship with his mother, although she & I have never talked intimately, she considers me a part of her family and a positive influence in her son's life. Once my mother found out about his use and more importantly his drug sales, she gave him an ultimatum to either tell his mother or she would.

I spoke to him last night and told him all of this. He is very scared to tell his mother any of this and asked that I not speak with her. I will honor his request, however, I feel that she should know that he is selling drugs since this could case her to lose her house should he be caught.

I don't know what to do..Any advice?

[smoke gets in my eyes]

Welcome WestCoastSwan!

Congratulations on your new beginning!

Sounds like your Mom is going to take things out of your hands. If your friend has a lick of sense he will liquidate and not restock.

Hugs!
Smoke

[WestCoastSwan]

Just an update...

Thanks for responding Smoke..

Posted this quite a while ago (forgot about this thread!!) and since then many other developments have taken place.

I talked with his mother about his use and two days later we staged an intervention for him. It went well. He told what he thought was his worst secret and the sky didn't fall. He is trying to stay clean and sees that he is in "someways" (<~~his words) an addict, however, he doesn't see the need to get into recovery. BTW, the sales operation never got off the ground since he kept dipping into his own supply.

His mother thanked me for telling her the truth and realized that I was telling her this from a place of love and respect for her and her family. She was already familiar with the program having spent time in AA herself which was news to me.

I have taken him to a handful of NA meetings and he has heard the message which is all I can do. I do feel that once certain restrictions are lifted, his use will get worse and, hopefully, that will be when he hops on the clue train.

My recovery is first and, due to this, we are not seeing that much of each other anymore. I do miss him sometimes, however, I am building solid and lasting friendships in the program and I feel very fortunate.