Relationship mirrors

[Gabe]

"Relationships are mirrors that help us to learn more about ourselves. They are the most challenging and the most rewarding aspects of life. The more intimate the relationship the greater the opportunity for growth we are given.
There are three different types of relationship mirrors. One is the mirror of who you were. This mirror gives you the opportunity to see how far you have come, the chance to experience the karma that you have already cleared. So don’t get caught up in this relationship worried about why it is coming back at this time, thank it and let it go.
A second type of relationship is the one that is mirroring where you are now on your path. If an issue or person has an emotional “charge� to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the issues you have not yet finished in your life. These are the things that we are the most blind to.
The last type of relationship is the one that mirrors your potential. This allows you to have a glimpse at who you could be, if you wanted to. This person is usually someone that you idealize and put on a pedestal or look up to.
Take a look at your various relationships and see which group they fall into. By knowing this you will gain insight into yourself. Self understanding is the entire reason for these mirrors, not to ‘fix’ the other person, but to look at yourself and learn." ~ From Universal Oneness United

[journeygal]

This is interesting.

I recently had a huge awakening about an aspect of my marriage that is a direct reflection of the relationship between me and my father.

My father is extremely needy and too emotionally attached when it comes to me. And now I have come to the painful realization that Jack will be the exact same way with our daughter. It concerns me b/c my relationship with my dad is extremely draining and I don't want my daughter to have to go through it. But I know I have no control over their relationship. Talk about feeling powerless - it's like seeing a train wreck coming but knowing you can't stop it...

It was bad enough being the daughter of an alkie, married to an addict. But how did I attract this other aspect of my relationship with my dad in one, cosmically-charged marriage? Did I have any choice in this at all??? That HP - what a sense of humor...

So I guess this would be mirror #2 and yes, I still have a lot of work to do. Fortunately I'm not blind to it, it's just a hard thing to deal with and I haven't figured out exactly how to deal with it.

Sigh...

[Gabe]

Hey, you forgot something. Your daughter will have you as a Mother. And she is already destined to be beautiful, strong and courageous. She will be fine and probably teach you a thing or two in the process.

[Hopefloats]

Thank you Gabe...I once did a verse that was on this issue. I always felt that our "mirror" would reflect our true self..it was not just something that I hung on my wall....

I really enjoyed this imput...and thanks again!!
God Bless!!!
HOPE2055

[JT]

Thanks Gabe...during one of my inventories I looked at each relationship in my life. Past and present...now that was some time ago. Something that was common is that I don't commit in relationships. I was dissapointed in parental and sibling relationships so maybe that is why. My sister was sent away, my brother died, my dad left and my mom allowed my step dad to banish me for 20 years. My first husband cheated and drank and my son is not a son. Looking at all those things in one sentence is pretty sad and I have don't dwell on them enmasse.

Anyway as a result I have always been a "one foot out the door" kind of gal. As I have grown in both age and recovery I can see and appreciate the ones who will always be there. So...it takes me about 25 years to trust. And even then it scares me. REALLY scares me.

Ward and I have been together over 25 years and even tho he is as solid as a rock I know deep down that that can change. He could leave, he could cheat, he could turn on me. I equate trust with surrender and vulnerability. Look those two words up...pretty powerful and yet that is how I feel. I guess I am not 100% able to take the risk.

This would be the 2nd mirror for me. An issue that I am having to look at right now. Ward and I are in a really solid place right now. Over the years he has grown right along with me. I almost left him at one time and look what I would have missed. And yet trust...complete and utter trust?? I can't do it...

JT

[talia]

thanks Gabe...really great...and very helpful to me....

[Wolfstarr]

Thanks so much, really interesting and thought provoking, especially the mirror #2. I can certainly see a lot of work I have to do...thanks so much for helping me see the mirror in a different way...
much appreciated,
~*Wolfstarr*~