Ex's addiction getting to me.....BAD!

[inthelight]

I spoke to my ex last evening and he said something quite interesting and I was wondering if there is anyone out there who has dealt with this one. Long story short...he says in addition to his being an A he is also addicted to ME! He says I'm as bad as the alcohol, for one I don't want to be compared to a drug that aids in destroying lives. Is he just trying to be mean or what?

[journeygal]

Inthelight,

Love addiction is a very real problem. I've dealt with it and it can be just as destructive as a drug addiction if not halted. Whenever you read stories in the paper of exes stalking or even killing their former girlfriends or wives, that person probably suffered from a love addiction or obsession with their ex.

Your ex may be telling the truth, or he may be trying to manipulate you into feeling sorry for him. Either way, it doesn't sound like he's in a good place mentally.

[inthelight]

Ok....that's scary! I will read up on that. Thanks.

[nutz]

i'm going thur this at the moment. my partner is in active addiction.
it's driving me nucking futz !!!

i don't even know if we're together or not together.
we're seperated becuase of it.

there's other wreackage beyound the our relatiionship.

i feel okay if she's not around...i've cried , i've grieved,
i tell myself it's over. i've suffered long.
i'm trying to heal and do the best that i can.

but hell no !!!! a knock on the door , the phone call,
the e-mails. just five minutes ago i go don't talking to her.
all she wants is a way to get her fix. she'll say whatever
and pull on my emotions
problems is....you can't BS an addict. i'm in recovery also.

i feel sick to my stomach, i feel like crying.
it hurts like hell.
when i see her or hear her voice. i think of a caring loving woman
that i love very much. i forget all the lys ,broken promises, manipulations,
and the living hell i've gone thur.
i feel the guilty if i say no.

i've been going to meetings, reading , righting, pray..trying to work my program.
am i addicted to her too?..probably.
i say... i love verymuch.
yes...i'm powerless over people,places and things.

it's tears my heart out, i feel sick. everytime i have contact with her,now.
i'm NUTZ !!!!! today again.

having one those great, great day cuase i havn't used. :Flush:

Originally Posted by journeygal

Your ex may be telling the truth, or he may be trying to manipulate you into feeling sorry for him. Either way, it doesn't sound like he's in a good place mentally.

Journey made good points, and the "manipulation" tactic, thats one of the ones I used to use. Whatever it took to get what I wanted.