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fade to black · 08-21-2004, 01:15 AM

I found this thread because I believe I am a sex/love addict, in a most disturbing sort of way. Whenever I meet someone I really love and want to be with, it seems like they don't feel the same way, and then I go on a rampage and sleep with numerous women that I'm not attracted to or interested in. Not only that, I lead these women on to think that I AM seriously interested in them, just to get quick sex out of them. In the last week I have done this with 3 women, following a bad ending a few weeks ago, with a woman I wanted to marry. Rather than continue and let these three find out about each other, tomorrow I will most likely find a 4th person who I consider "better", and sleep with them, and then I'll feel better about blowing the 3 women off.

Although you might think I'm some freak after readnig so far, I actually appear to be just some normal, reasonably attractive, nice guy. I could in fact very well be the next guy you meet.

best · 08-21-2004, 02:23 AM

Well you have reached step one... realized there is a problem and accepting it as a problem

There are web sites that deal with sex issues. I am sure someone who knows the site locations will come along and post them.
Think on this...

You say it causes problems...so it is a real problem in your life
You say you are going with woman that you don't really care to...
Who is in control of your life?
Or should I say What is in control of your life?
A slave to sex and a sex slave are not the same thing.

Good to see you already know that and are looking for answers.

boryad · 08-21-2004, 09:08 AM

Welcome Fade. Here's a link to a thread where sex addiction is discussed and you'll find many informational links that could be beneficial to you. I know somewhere (perhaps in the thread) there is also quite the post about love addiction.

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ad.php?t=34760 (The Lovely Porn Video I Found On My Computer)

You've come to a good place.

08-21-2004, 02:23 AM	#2 (permalink)
best Don't get undies in a bunch Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: South Shore MA Posts: 7,169	Well you have reached step one... realized there is a problem and accepting it as a problem There are web sites that deal with sex issues. I am sure someone who knows the site locations will come along and post them. Think on this... You say it causes problems...so it is a real problem in your life You say you are going with woman that you don't really care to... Who is in control of your life? Or should I say What is in control of your life? A slave to sex and a sex slave are not the same thing. Good to see you already know that and are looking for answers. __________________ * I asked God to spare me pain. God said "No", Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me. Recovery Related Acronym B. E. S. T. = Been Enjoying Sobriety Today?

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08-21-2004, 01:15 AM	#1 (permalink)
fade to black Paused Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Minneapolis, MN Posts: 1	I found this thread because I believe I am a sex/love addict, in a most disturbing sort of way. Whenever I meet someone I really love and want to be with, it seems like they don't feel the same way, and then I go on a rampage and sleep with numerous women that I'm not attracted to or interested in. Not only that, I lead these women on to think that I AM seriously interested in them, just to get quick sex out of them. In the last week I have done this with 3 women, following a bad ending a few weeks ago, with a woman I wanted to marry. Rather than continue and let these three find out about each other, tomorrow I will most likely find a 4th person who I consider "better", and sleep with them, and then I'll feel better about blowing the 3 women off. Although you might think I'm some freak after readnig so far, I actually appear to be just some normal, reasonably attractive, nice guy. I could in fact very well be the next guy you meet.

08-21-2004, 09:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
boryad Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Tartfest 2007 Posts: 831	Welcome Fade. Here's a link to a thread where sex addiction is discussed and you'll find many informational links that could be beneficial to you. I know somewhere (perhaps in the thread) there is also quite the post about love addiction. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ad.php?t=34760 (The Lovely Porn Video I Found On My Computer) You've come to a good place.

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