For the sake of the children... - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

bikewench · 07-02-2004, 05:21 PM

... if you have children or are going to have them.....
.. please remember, that as their mother and father ... you are everything to them.

What you do effects them.

What you think effects them.

Go to any length to get better... cause it's not just your life that's at stake.

It's their lives as well... and they might opt out on YOU.

Like Christopher.
Another young life gone. Taken by his own hand.

I met his grandmother when she dabbled in Alanon. 16 years ago.

And I met his mother when she dabbled in AA and NA nearly as long ago.

Christopher was young enough then that the mother and grandmother's recovery could have broken the cycle... but both of them never stuck around until they "got" it... preferring instead to go the prescription medication route to maintain a flat affect... and when even that wouldn't numb out the mother... she left her children because she couldn't take the stress and moved to the opposite side of the country.

She was here to visit a few weeks ago... and she left as soon as she could ... and her son couldn't take it anymore.

So he permanently left.

I pray for the two younger daughters that remain.

Life makes little sense to me today... and I have a terrible anger against people that have children and then put them dead last...

Blessings on your young soul Christopher. May you finally find peace in the ALL.

Gabe · 07-02-2004, 05:45 PM

(((((Bikewench)))))
I'm so sorry that this story had such an unhappy ending.
I join you in wishing Christopher peace in the all.
I will keep the two younger daughters that remain in my prayers.
This was a very somber reminder that this is a family disease.
Sending some light your way Bikewench,
Much love,
Gabe

Dan · 07-02-2004, 05:52 PM

(...)
Dance in the Universe Christopher.
You earned it.
And bike...

smoke gets in my eyes · 07-02-2004, 06:30 PM

(((Bikewench!)))

Prayers for you, Christopher and his family.

JT · 07-02-2004, 07:00 PM

Sad...and all too common. I share your anger.

(((Hugs)))
JT

Gooch · 07-02-2004, 10:36 PM

(((((((bw))))))))

bikewench · 07-03-2004, 08:46 AM

Hugs and love back to you all....

Your presence and your caring sends powerful positive energy into the world... and gives people hope.

Blessings on you and your unabashed message of love.

:heart:

Paulie · 07-03-2004, 09:52 AM

Your words are so true. So many times we don't realize how what we do affects our kids.

thank you for sharing that and I too will pray for Christopher and the 2 daughters.

God Bless.

07-02-2004, 05:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
bikewench Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: western canada Posts: 1,440	For the sake of the children... ... if you have children or are going to have them..... .. please remember, that as their mother and father ... you are everything to them. What you do effects them. What you think effects them. Go to any length to get better... cause it's not just your life that's at stake. It's their lives as well... and they might opt out on YOU. Like Christopher. Another young life gone. Taken by his own hand. I met his grandmother when she dabbled in Alanon. 16 years ago. And I met his mother when she dabbled in AA and NA nearly as long ago. Christopher was young enough then that the mother and grandmother's recovery could have broken the cycle... but both of them never stuck around until they "got" it... preferring instead to go the prescription medication route to maintain a flat affect... and when even that wouldn't numb out the mother... she left her children because she couldn't take the stress and moved to the opposite side of the country. She was here to visit a few weeks ago... and she left as soon as she could ... and her son couldn't take it anymore. So he permanently left. I pray for the two younger daughters that remain. Life makes little sense to me today... and I have a terrible anger against people that have children and then put them dead last... Blessings on your young soul Christopher. May you finally find peace in the ALL.

07-02-2004, 06:30 PM	#4 (permalink)
smoke gets in my eyes 1000 Post Club Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: That's what I'd like to know. Posts: 2,432	(((Bikewench!))) Prayers for you, Christopher and his family. __________________ It is better to have loved and lost than to live with a psycho for the rest of your life. 21st century proverb

07-02-2004, 07:00 PM	#5 (permalink)
JT Supply Manager Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Cleaverville Posts: 2,913	Sad...and all too common. I share your anger. (((Hugs))) JT __________________ The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind~Wayne Dyer

07-03-2004, 09:52 AM	#8 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,519	Your words are so true. So many times we don't realize how what we do affects our kids. thank you for sharing that and I too will pray for Christopher and the 2 daughters. God Bless. __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

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07-02-2004, 05:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
Gabe Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 4,959	(((((Bikewench))))) I'm so sorry that this story had such an unhappy ending. I join you in wishing Christopher peace in the all. I will keep the two younger daughters that remain in my prayers. This was a very somber reminder that this is a family disease. Sending some light your way Bikewench, Much love, Gabe

07-02-2004, 05:52 PM	#3 (permalink)
Dan Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 8,753	(...) Dance in the Universe Christopher. You earned it. And bike...

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Gooch Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: out there... Posts: 2,668	(((((((bw))))))))

07-03-2004, 08:46 AM	#7 (permalink)
bikewench Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: western canada Posts: 1,440	Hugs and love back to you all.... Your presence and your caring sends powerful positive energy into the world... and gives people hope. Blessings on you and your unabashed message of love. :heart:

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