How can i support my recovering man without distrupting his program?
I just started dating a guy i met who come to find out is in a recovery program for alcoholism. Im a very supportive and big hearted girl so i dont have a problem with this by any means. He started in a half way house and now is in a 3 quarter way house and so far is 8 months sober and has 4 months left until his program is up as far as i understand. He willingly put himself in the program, and it is his number one priority over anything and everything else, which i totally approve and agree it should be. We dont talk on the phone everyday, but we do text and occasionally hang out or ill go to his work for lunch or something. He spends most of his time going to meetings and such, so usually we talk or spend time after hes done with all he needs or wants to do as far as that. When i first met him, we talked on the phone for like 2 hours, before i knew he was in the program, and i guess his house mates brought it up at the meeting and basically said he had to lessen his time talking to me because it could take his mind away from his programs, which i completely understand. I really have grown to like him alot, he is so sweet and nice and caring and i want to continue our relationship as normal as possible but i dont want to take away from his program. What types of ways can i support him and be able to talk to him without being a distraction? So far basically i just let him do all his things and he texts or calls when he is finished but what else can i be doing or should i not be doing so that this last 4 months and however much longer if he wants or needs, is easier for HE and i to still date but him to get the most from his program?
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