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ElegantlyWasted · 10-09-2009, 01:52 PM

My gf has always been a little possessive concerning my relationships with other friends that are female. Played tennis with with a friend this morning and she has gone ballistic. Said that she wants me to cease all contact with said friend or she is gone. She also has numerous friends that are male that I have no issues with... To me this seems hypocritical and I am trying to get my head on straight with this whole thing. I did procrastinated and wait until this morning to tell her I was playing. She seems convinces I was not going to tell her at all. Any advice? Feeling a little pwed at the moment.

huntsober · 10-09-2009, 02:05 PM

Chris Rock said guys have 2 types of friends that are girls.

1. Girls they have had sex with

or

2. Girls they would to have sex with

If your personal motives are clear...you are clear.

ElegantlyWasted · 10-09-2009, 02:09 PM

Above seems to be gf's perspective as well. Though you cAn differentiate between thoughts and actions.

ElegantlyWasted · 10-09-2009, 02:11 PM

Motives and actions are cleAr... I'm not doing anything wrong.

anvilhead · 10-09-2009, 02:35 PM

so these friendships precede her? no, wait, doesn't matter.....i guess it comes down to two questions:

1) is the friendship worth losing the relationship over?

2) is the relationship worth giving up the friendship for?

i detest jealousy. cuz i've been the jealous person, insecure, demanding, clingy, and friggin codependent as hell!!!! real energy vampire.....sucking life out of everything to feed me poor little ego.......

Wolfchild · 10-18-2009, 08:14 AM

How have things been going lately EW?

10-09-2009, 01:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
ElegantlyWasted Excellence... not Perfection Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: AZ Posts: 1,190 Blog Entries: 8	RelationshipScenario My gf has always been a little possessive concerning my relationships with other friends that are female. Played tennis with with a friend this morning and she has gone ballistic. Said that she wants me to cease all contact with said friend or she is gone. She also has numerous friends that are male that I have no issues with... To me this seems hypocritical and I am trying to get my head on straight with this whole thing. I did procrastinated and wait until this morning to tell her I was playing. She seems convinces I was not going to tell her at all. Any advice? Feeling a little pwed at the moment. __________________ "We're all told at some point in time that we can no longer play the children's game, we just don't...we don't know when that's gonna be. Some of us are told at eighteen, some of us are told at forty, but we're all told."

10-09-2009, 02:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
huntsober Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 320	Chris Rock said guys have 2 types of friends that are girls. 1. Girls they have had sex with or 2. Girls they would to have sex with If your personal motives are clear...you are clear. __________________

10-09-2009, 02:09 PM	#3 (permalink)
ElegantlyWasted Excellence... not Perfection Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: AZ Posts: 1,190 Blog Entries: 8	Above seems to be gf's perspective as well. Though you cAn differentiate between thoughts and actions. __________________ "We're all told at some point in time that we can no longer play the children's game, we just don't...we don't know when that's gonna be. Some of us are told at eighteen, some of us are told at forty, but we're all told."

10-09-2009, 02:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
ElegantlyWasted Excellence... not Perfection Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: AZ Posts: 1,190 Blog Entries: 8	Motives and actions are cleAr... I'm not doing anything wrong. __________________ "We're all told at some point in time that we can no longer play the children's game, we just don't...we don't know when that's gonna be. Some of us are told at eighteen, some of us are told at forty, but we're all told."

10-18-2009, 08:14 AM	#6 (permalink)
Wolfchild Disposable Hero Tournaments Won: 3 Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Being, ME Posts: 3,758 Blog Entries: 3	How have things been going lately EW? __________________ Any clean addict is a miracle and keeping the miracle alive is an ongoing process of awareness, surrender, and growth

10-09-2009, 02:35 PM	#5 (permalink)
anvilhead Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 14,599	so these friendships precede her? no, wait, doesn't matter.....i guess it comes down to two questions: 1) is the friendship worth losing the relationship over? 2) is the relationship worth giving up the friendship for? i detest jealousy. cuz i've been the jealous person, insecure, demanding, clingy, and friggin codependent as hell!!!! real energy vampire.....sucking life out of everything to feed me poor little ego.......

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