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Overman · 09-28-2009, 10:48 PM

Man, I didn't even see it coming. Was with her for nine months. Was depressed for a while, but fortunately I'm not craving or wanting to drink.

I figured this is the kind of stuff that would typically blindside me when I was drinking/using....but after a year of sobriety?!

Funny how the long-term effects of alcoholism can blunt the emotions and awareness of others feelings. It totally caught me off guard, but I'm trying to see it as a positive.

Ugh...

ClayTheScribe · 09-29-2009, 05:47 PM

Sorry to hear that, man. What was her reasoning?

Overman · 09-29-2009, 05:54 PM

Forgot to buy her a birthday gift.

:wtf2

Been so preoccupied with school, work, and sobriety that it totally went over my head.

Guess that's why they say to stay out of reltionships for a while during recovery.

ClayTheScribe · 09-29-2009, 07:16 PM

Sounds like she wasn't worth your time then if she'd dump you over something like that. There must be something else going on with her. Maybe I don't know enough about relationships, but that seems like a total B.S. reason to break up with someone after nine months. I know birthdays and anniversaries are important to women, but it seems like if she really liked or loved you, she could let that one slide. You deserve someone who will value you more than that and not be so superficial.

Overman · 09-30-2009, 05:24 PM

Thanks Clay...and yes, I think there are other issues going on with her. I don't need that stuff in my life right now anyway.

Wolfchild · 10-18-2009, 08:15 AM

How have things been going for you Overman?

09-28-2009, 10:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
Overman 9/15/08 Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: midwest Posts: 257	Got dumped today Man, I didn't even see it coming. Was with her for nine months. Was depressed for a while, but fortunately I'm not craving or wanting to drink. I figured this is the kind of stuff that would typically blindside me when I was drinking/using....but after a year of sobriety?! Funny how the long-term effects of alcoholism can blunt the emotions and awareness of others feelings. It totally caught me off guard, but I'm trying to see it as a positive. Ugh... __________________ "If you can smile whenever anything goes wrong, you are either an idiot or a repairman." (or sober!) ~ Anon

09-29-2009, 05:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
ClayTheScribe Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Colorado Posts: 616 Blog Entries: 1	Sorry to hear that, man. What was her reasoning? __________________ “You must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you." -Ray Bradbury

09-29-2009, 05:54 PM	#3 (permalink)
Overman 9/15/08 Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: midwest Posts: 257	Forgot to buy her a birthday gift. :wtf2 Been so preoccupied with school, work, and sobriety that it totally went over my head. Guess that's why they say to stay out of reltionships for a while during recovery. __________________ "If you can smile whenever anything goes wrong, you are either an idiot or a repairman." (or sober!) ~ Anon

09-29-2009, 07:16 PM	#4 (permalink)
ClayTheScribe Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Colorado Posts: 616 Blog Entries: 1	Sounds like she wasn't worth your time then if she'd dump you over something like that. There must be something else going on with her. Maybe I don't know enough about relationships, but that seems like a total B.S. reason to break up with someone after nine months. I know birthdays and anniversaries are important to women, but it seems like if she really liked or loved you, she could let that one slide. You deserve someone who will value you more than that and not be so superficial. __________________ “You must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you." -Ray Bradbury

09-30-2009, 05:24 PM	#5 (permalink)
Overman 9/15/08 Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: midwest Posts: 257	Thanks Clay...and yes, I think there are other issues going on with her. I don't need that stuff in my life right now anyway. __________________ "If you can smile whenever anything goes wrong, you are either an idiot or a repairman." (or sober!) ~ Anon

10-18-2009, 08:15 AM	#6 (permalink)
Wolfchild Disposable Hero Tournaments Won: 3 Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Being, ME Posts: 3,758 Blog Entries: 3	How have things been going for you Overman? __________________ Any clean addict is a miracle and keeping the miracle alive is an ongoing process of awareness, surrender, and growth

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