It's been bothering me for years now.

[thegetupkid]

Hi, my name is Denny, and this is the first time I have been on here, I have read a lot of posts and I didn't want to intrude if this a question that should not be on this site,but people just seem very nice and helpful and this has been bothering me for a few years now.

Well, anyways, my concern is that, when it comes to a relationship, I get attached very easily, to easily, it seems if someone pays attention to me it's like they are the "one". It's hard for me to say this because I hate to admit something like this. But I have come to the conclusion that it might not be a good thing.

I have noticed this since my very first relationship a few years ago, I have been quite a few since then, and it just worries me. I just want to know if there is a term for this, if this is normal, and if anyone else has gone through this. I greatly appreciate anyone's help on this, thank you.

[URMYEVERYTHING]

Originally Posted by thegetupkid

Hi, my name is Denny, and this is the first time I have been on here, I have read a lot of posts and I didn't want to intrude if this a question that should not be on this site,but people just seem very nice and helpful and this has been bothering me for a few years now.

Well, anyways, my concern is that, when it comes to a relationship, I get attached very easily, to easily, it seems if someone pays attention to me it's like they are the "one". It's hard for me to say this because I hate to admit something like this. But I have come to the conclusion that it might not be a good thing.

I have noticed this since my very first relationship a few years ago, I have been quite a few since then, and it just worries me. I just want to know if there is a term for this, if this is normal, and if anyone else has gone through this. I greatly appreciate anyone's help on this, thank you.

Hello and Welcome to SR.

You might attachment issues. Have you expereinced any major losses of significant relationships before in your past?

Also, out of the many "ones" that you have met, have you found that one?

[justanothrdrunk]

I think I know what you're feeling - to a lesser extent at least.

It's been a long while for me and a new relationship. My current relationship (with my wife) was new 17 years ago.

But I do recall feelings similar to what you have described. To a degree, I believe it's natural to have those intense infatuation feelings (some call it "puppy love"). I definitely had those.

If I remember correctly (like I said, been a while), I needed to remind myself that my feelings early on were invariably going to change (learned through experience) and work to keep them in check.

I'll say again - I think at least part of what you're feeling is natural. Big question is what you're doing with those feelings - healthy behaviors or unhealthy behaviors.

[ClayTheScribe]

I know for me I've always got too attached to people who like me because I have low self-esteem and felt they could give me that higher self-esteem. I felt dependent upon them and of course that scared them/pushed them away. You might need to work on yourself some more before entering a new relationship and find out exactly why you get too attached.

[Wolfchild]

How have you been getting along Denny?