Dating an alcoholic and I got pregnant...

[bluejupiter]

I am dating a man who has been sober for 2+ years. He goes to meetings rarely but does have a sponsor. We only had been dating for 6 weeks when - woops - I got pregnant. We were getting along great and are both excited about the baby. But now he's changing and becoming controlling and moody and threatening me with 'Fine, I'll leave' all the time (thats in response to me standing up for myself). Hes becoming possessive also. He has few friends and never spends time with them - seems I am all he has, and he has become demanding of me and my time - I no longer feel like I'm free to do what I want. He pretty much moved in with me quickly but still has his place. He wants us to rent a house together but he has had A LOT of trouble with the law in his life - plenty of jail time, some prison time, 5 DUIs and he'll probably never have his license back. He is strong in his sobriety but I am afraid he.... I dont know??... worries about how he will take care of a family when he makes very little money and really cant contribute much. I'm the one with the (so-so) credit and excellent rental/job history. He certainly tries, he does side work whenever he can. But I am having a hard time dealing with the controlling behaviours, the manipulative threats, the silent treatments. I am not an addict - I've never had substance abuse issues. I got involved with this guy because he was just really very sweet at the beginning. He still is but it is becoming rare - hes always angry about something, very moody and tends to take things out on me through giving me the silent treatment when I don't even know what the problem is? The more he acts this way. the more he pushes me away... I want him to be involved with this baby and I do have strong feelings for him, but I simply cannot tolerate the negativeness, the moodiness and he is just so disagreeable and argumentative all the time. ANy advice is appreciated...

Thank you~

[cece1960]

Welcome Bluejupit,
As a mom...I want to yell "run fast and run hard!", but I know its not always that simple.
I you'd like to join us in another area, we have a section for friends and family where I think you'll find many who understand, much better than I.
Get settled in and take a look around...you are not alone...
(((Hugs)))

[Char87]

Everything you said about your boyfriend is EXACTLY the same with me and my relationship, yet my boyfriend threw a table at me and he pulled me around by my hair, I took him back now im 20weeks pregnant his awful with me, And to make things worse i moved in with him 50miles away from my family and when i visit my family he gives me a hard time, he wont talk to me he will go to the pub get drunk and refuse to talk to me, his cheated in the past and he said wont do it again but when he gets drunk he dont know what his doing, Im so depressed and want to get out, i keep breaking down crying everyday, he has his mates but wont go out with them, and he does the odd job when he can get one going as his a carpet fitter, he was lovely when i met him, i knew he drunk alot when i met him but i dint think anything of it and i just thought cause it was his day off work he was making the most of it.
Since you last posted have you had any good information? If you have any good information i would really greatfully apprieciate some advice because i feel really suicidel even thought im pregnant.
Thank you
Charlie