I've been thinking ALOT tonight.

[AllMyFault]

I don't know what to do. My exabf is living with his enabling parents. He was addicted to meth from the age of about 13 till 25 or so, all the time he lived with his parents. They either had no clue or didn't want to know. When he kicked meth, he just substituted alcohol. They have done it all. Paid his legal fees, picked him up from hospitals, let him quit his job and move back home. Now they are sending him away to another family member to 'protect' him from me, when I have already said my goodbyes. I'm not innocent, I know I was an enabler and that is why I put a stop to getting dragged back in. I'm in recovery, but he is not. He has them wrapped around his little finger. He drinks when they aren't looking, lies to them, and almost dragged me right back into the whole freaking cycle again. They have found out about his drinking and stealing thier alcohol yet they continue to DO NOTHING. Quick talk, quick slap on the wrists and that is it. Believe the guys lies cause they want to. To the best of my knowledge they have attended no al-anon meetings and enlisted in no counciling whatsoever. I don't think they recognize that they are drawn into the cycle like I was. I have been at these forums for support, and given the recent incident of almost being drawn back in, I am going to seek some real one on one counciling for myself. Is there anything, oh dear lord that I can do to let them see what they are doing to him? He will NEVER have consequences while they are doing this!

[EricGordon]

Unfortunately this is a bitter truth which is present elsewhere too.
The parents and family sorta live in denial that their child is alcoholic.

Someone put some sense in their heads!!!

[suki44883]

Why do you have to do anything? It's not your problem. Take care of YOU and let him worry about himself.

[utopia]

i find it hard. a good friend of mine got into drugs bout a year ago and now shes in a place where the love of her life hit her. she pays his rent, and i see my parents story again... i see my friend getting sicker and sicker and the person i once knew dying and fading away. i know its not my problem but it hurts and im powerless. have to believe that somehow, someway via step 2 i can be restored to sanity and hand this part of my life over to the HP ala step 3...peace and love.