Newly Sober and Need Advice

[babylonsister]

I have been involved in a happy relationship for a year and a half with a recovering alcoholic. He has 24 years of sobriety. During the course of our relationship, I haven't really drank around him, thus I have cut down on my drinking quite abit. But I had never really looked at my own drinking as a problem. Well, lately, I have been drinking a bit more,blowing him off, etc. to get drunk. I have also been really depressed and down on myself during this period. It all blew up in my face last week and he said he could not invest anymore time in the relationship if it continued on this path. He said we should take a break. He said I had isolated myself and he couldn't be everything for me. He was tired of worrying about me when I went out, wondering if I was to get arrested or in an accident So I really started to examine my drinking and went to my first aa meeting, I have been everyday since, and I realize I am indeed an alcoholic. I have talked with him since and he's really proud of the steps I have taken and says I need some time. I realize that I need to do this for myself and not to gethim to come back to me, but I feel abandoned by him. I try to leave it to God and say if the relationship is meant to be it will be, but it is very hard. I was depressed before, now it's even worse since I realize I'm an alcoholic and my boyfriend has left me! How can I forget about all this and concentrate on staying sober?

[CarolD]

Congratulations on beginning the wonderful life of recovery!


I too am an alcoholic in AA and it's been an awesome adventure.
Do come share with us in our Alcoholism and or our 12 Step Forum.

The best thing you can do just now is to get a sponsor
and begin Step work.

Welcome to SR!

[nandm]

Welcome to SR!

Like Carol I am an alcoholic who is recovering through AA.

I look forward to seeing you in the alcoholism or alcohol 12 step forums.

[babylonsister]

thank you so much for the welcome and the support. I've been going to meetings (sometimes two a day!) and I just got a sponsor. I'm starting to feel better about the future already...

[Jody Hepler]

It is a huge, wide, wonderful world out there - with lots of opportunities and possibilities - now that you are sober. There will be ups and downs, but hold on for the ride. And please don't leave before the miracle happens.

Use your sponsor, go to meetings, work the steps, get involved in service work - and you too will find a life "beyond your wildest dreams".

Sober has been the best 22 years of my life.

Love in recovery,
Jody