need help

[crayzee]

Hi everyone, I am reasonably new, and so far have only posted in the friends and family of alcoholics forum, and only just noticed this forum was here. Today I was searching the web for stop-smoking forums, and none of them felt like a good fit, I am so glad there is one here!
I have been smoking since I was 16, I am 29 now, and expecting my third child. I am ready to be done, for my sake, and my children's sake. I was down to 5 a day, but a few days ago, my AH had an "episode" and since then I have been up to 11 or 12 cigs a day again.
I need to know how to fight the urge to smoke when my life is out of control, and I feel I need the familiar comfort of cigarettes. Thanks.

[jlo34]

Crayzee,
Glad you are here...

My experience. It was easy for me to quit for my 1st pregnancy...my second, was really hard (5 years later). I "cheated" many times during my pregnancy...and then when she was born with asthma...boy do I ever feel guilty.

I've tried quiting so many times it's ridiculous. I started smoking at 15. I am now 33 and have been quit for 1 year. The difference this time, I guess, I was completely willing...I could see where I was powerless over smoking and nicotine...and I was tired of it ruling my life. I hated the look my eldest daughter gave me whenever I lit up. I began despising the smell. I began hating the "imprisonment" of smoking. I focused on ALL the negatives of smoking - making them more powerful and focusing on ALL the positives of NOT smoking - making them more powerful as well.

I also believe in a HP who I turned my will and life over to. Whenever I felt a desire, an urge, I would ask my HP to take them away...and He did.

I got busy sewing, keeping my hands busy and my brain busy. I changed my habits and changed my behaviors.

This is a great site and we have a thread called "Daily check in". Many of us use this to hold ourselves accountable and share our struggles and victories. Knowing and believing you can do it is a great help too.

Blessings and prayers,
Jen