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hopealwayz · 10-30-2005, 09:21 PM

I just lost my job and I don't really know how to deal with this sober. This is the first major setback that I've had to deal with in sobriety. I don't want to drink over this but that thought is popping into my head. I know this disease in cunning, baffling, and powerful and I'm trying to arm myself for tomorrow. I know that I can make it through this sober but I know tomorrow will be a huge battle for me to stay sober.
I am still learning how to deal with life.... and this was a big blow.

So I will just stay sober for 5 minutes at a time. After I get everything taken care of tomorrow with management, I will probably just go do something nice for myself to try to get my mind off of things.

I will try to keep busy tomorrow. Time to pick up the pieces and move on to something better. God has a big plan for everything. I just have to say, "Thy will be done" and keep on looking ahead instead of looking back.

I feel better after venting.

Love and hugs,
Cheryl

roadie58 · 10-30-2005, 09:45 PM

Cheryl, you can get through anything by not drinking. THe most important thing for you to do now is keep yourself together and stay clean. You will find another job, but if you drink tonight that cerainly wont happen soon. Look at it this way, you have only 15 mins, then you can thank God for getting you through today.

Drink some water, take some vitamins if you do that, and get a good night rest. Thats what you need to face the day tomorrow.

Be good and check in first thing in the am, ok?

4health · 10-30-2005, 10:15 PM

Hey Cheryl..Wow. I am sorry you lost the job but think of it this way; you won't get your job back by drinking

you know it. I wish I could just give you a hug. Things will work out. As you say 'Thy will be done'. Another saying I know is 'In HIS time' not necessairly in our's. You'll get another job. You will! Hang in there.

Your almost done with another day. Tomorrow will be better. HUGS!

hopealwayz · 10-30-2005, 11:02 PM

I got through another day sober. Now I've been sober for 19 days.

Everything will work out in time and as it is supposed to.

I am hanging in here. I will not drink over this.

hopealwayz · 10-30-2005, 11:32 PM

I just wanted to let everyone know that I'm going to be ok. I said a prayer and I felt a strong sense of calm and serenity come over me. I feel a sudden sense of peace with what has happened. It is still rough dealing with the feelings, but I know that this will make me stronger. I am going to make it through this and there is more yet to be revealed in my life.

I am going to be ok. And I'm going to stay sober.

Keep me in your prayers.

Hugs,
Cheryl

***Time2Surrender*** · 10-31-2005, 12:01 AM

Your in my prayers Cheryl.

10-31-2005, 03:52 AM

Oh No!! I'm sorry Cheryl. It's hard to fathom sometimes, but getting fired can be a good thing.

Hang In There!!

roadie58 · 10-31-2005, 07:10 AM

So, what are we gonna do today little Cheryl? Please get a plan together, for me, having spare time on my hands always meant trouble.....

splendra · 10-31-2005, 07:19 AM

((((AH))))

The growth looks good on ya girl....

**51anna** · 10-31-2005, 02:49 PM

Cheryl,

I'm sorry about losing your job. It is tough to deal with something like that early in sobriety. But, look at it this way. I went through something really, really scary about 3 months into sobriety. And, I thought about drinking, but I knew that if I could get through this, I could get through anything. You can do this.

hopealwayz · 10-31-2005, 02:56 PM

(((BIG HUGS)))

Thanks so much everyone for being there through this very difficult experience. I am so grateful for your support and care ! It helped me get through the hardest parts especially with the feelings.

Copierguy, I'm so glad that you came back. Stick around SR because this is the greatest group of friends! Good job on 4 days of being clean. You have the hardest days behind you. Just focus on one day at a time. That is what I do and now I have racked up 19 one day at a times. I feel so much better than I did 20 days ago. I feel much, much better.

I know that no matter what life throws at me, I can handle it clean and sober. Drugs and alcohol are never a solution-- they only create more problems. Life is so much better sober!!

mchockfan · 10-31-2005, 06:26 PM

Angel, YOU CAN DO IT. If a 30 year loser like me can I'm sure you can. Stay tough, Stay strong, stay busy!!!

I'm finding meetings to be very helpful and in the past wouldn't have anything to do with them. That was my loss. I didn't respect myself so how could I respect anyone else. Faith in my HP (God) helps also. It changed my view of the world. Here is a great site to read and learn (and keep busy)

http://www.churchlink.com.au/churchl...ge1/index.html

Best Wishes, Arn

Joelby · 10-31-2005, 06:30 PM

Hi,
I've been sober for 2 days. I think I understand how you feel. I can't even leave my bed sober right now. I wish you the best. Tomorrow will be hard for both of us, I'm going to take your advice and refer to it every five minutes tomorrow. Hang in there, Im going to!

dizzyj · 11-01-2005, 03:01 AM

Angelhugs,

Remember all the things you told me?????? - DO tHEM!!!!!!

I have to start looking again too. I'm sure we can help eachother out, even if were stars and moons apart.

tink360 · 11-01-2005, 12:59 PM

Im very proud of you for staying sober through this very difficult time...i hope you keep your head up..i said a lil prayer for you and i want you to know that im rooting for you...sometimes things happen for a reason and maybe the reason you lost your job is because your meant to be somewhere else...hang in there and take it 5 min at a time...lots of love and hugs...tink

Grimnar · 11-01-2005, 01:20 PM

Pulling for you Cheryl!

Greenbug · 11-01-2005, 01:27 PM

Cheryl,

I know this is hard for you and you know drinking wont get your job back. Go to a meetings instead of your job. Most places have a noon meeting, share whats going on with you about your job in a humbling way. I have had this happen and I was able to find other employment from other people in the room at the time.

Not that it will happen but you never know where help might come from. This is recovery related and you can share this. I say meeting for this reason, it was explained to me and it makes sense, that you can do a great program and it will radiate to other aspects of you life, but running a strong employment will not radiate to a better recovery.

I wish you well.

This is a just a job, keep it in proportions to the big picture. Recovery is your life. You can find another job a bit easier.

Having faith in not a theory to talk about but a way of living. Just have faith and things will work out.

Whenever you try something new to you, you are vulnerable. You need to be vulnerable to grow in any way personally.

Blessings,
~GB

luluabel · 11-01-2005, 02:56 PM

((((((Angel )))) well done on 19 days hun .......I am so sorry to hear you lost your job but maybe something better will come along for you .......like Tink I believe things happen for a reason sometimes ,keep strong sweetie sending you a big (((hug))) love Lulu xxxxx

2tough2die · 11-01-2005, 04:29 PM

Sorry you lost your job. Hang in there Yo!

Richie · 11-01-2005, 04:47 PM

I'm sorry about your job loss,Cheryl.You will get a better one!
I'm praying for you.

na4today · 11-01-2005, 04:51 PM

I'm sorry you lost your job, you will find another one as long as you stay sober.
congrats on the clean time!

shestruggles · 11-01-2005, 04:53 PM

Yes, dear ~ I almost despise this saying~ but often things DO happen for a reason. Perhaos losing this job will open up doors you never knew was there. Its always hard to accpet at first (and you are dealing with amazingly, I must add), but in the long run, you may see that this started a whole new SOBER chapter in your life.

All the best, sweetheart!
SS

BTW - I'll be losing my job in December, so I know the feeling of dom and gloom, but, all you can do is work the heck out of your resune (and realize just how fab you are) and explore all kinds of different employment options! I hope you'll find someyhing you LOVE!!

hopealwayz · 11-01-2005, 05:18 PM

I just wanted to thank everyone for their kindness and support during a difficult time.
You are all great and I am grateful that I had this wonderful place to come to. I am smiling now and very thankful for the wonderful words.

Thank you!

Hugs,
Cheryl

ASH · 11-01-2005, 07:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shestruggles

(and realize just how fab you are)

Congrats on all your sober time, it is starting to stack up...one day at a time
Sorry about the job,
but do just take some time to realize how FAB you are

10-30-2005, 09:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
hopealwayz Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: somewhere Posts: 3,514	Feeling hurt and vulnerable I just lost my job and I don't really know how to deal with this sober. This is the first major setback that I've had to deal with in sobriety. I don't want to drink over this but that thought is popping into my head. I know this disease in cunning, baffling, and powerful and I'm trying to arm myself for tomorrow. I know that I can make it through this sober but I know tomorrow will be a huge battle for me to stay sober. I am still learning how to deal with life.... and this was a big blow. So I will just stay sober for 5 minutes at a time. After I get everything taken care of tomorrow with management, I will probably just go do something nice for myself to try to get my mind off of things. I will try to keep busy tomorrow. Time to pick up the pieces and move on to something better. God has a big plan for everything. I just have to say, "Thy will be done" and keep on looking ahead instead of looking back. I feel better after venting. Love and hugs, Cheryl __________________

10-30-2005, 09:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
roadie58 "The BAND" workshop ROCKS! Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 1,489	Cheryl, you can get through anything by not drinking. THe most important thing for you to do now is keep yourself together and stay clean. You will find another job, but if you drink tonight that cerainly wont happen soon. Look at it this way, you have only 15 mins, then you can thank God for getting you through today. Drink some water, take some vitamins if you do that, and get a good night rest. Thats what you need to face the day tomorrow. Be good and check in first thing in the am, ok? __________________ Roadie read about my adventures in trying to stay clean in sober in 'I'm ALIVE' in the Substance Abuse Forum..

10-30-2005, 10:15 PM	#3 (permalink)
4health Gobble, Gobble Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: california Posts: 238	Hey Cheryl..Wow. I am sorry you lost the job but think of it this way; you won't get your job back by drinking you know it. I wish I could just give you a hug. Things will work out. As you say 'Thy will be done'. Another saying I know is 'In HIS time' not necessairly in our's. You'll get another job. You will! Hang in there. Your almost done with another day. Tomorrow will be better. HUGS! __________________ One reason I don't drink is that I want to know when I am having a good time. ~Lady Astor Tomorrow is no place to place your better days~The Dave Matthews Band Sobriety Date 9-16-05

10-30-2005, 11:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
hopealwayz Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: somewhere Posts: 3,514	I got through another day sober. Now I've been sober for 19 days. Everything will work out in time and as it is supposed to. I am hanging in here. I will not drink over this. __________________

10-30-2005, 11:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
hopealwayz Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: somewhere Posts: 3,514	I just wanted to let everyone know that I'm going to be ok. I said a prayer and I felt a strong sense of calm and serenity come over me. I feel a sudden sense of peace with what has happened. It is still rough dealing with the feelings, but I know that this will make me stronger. I am going to make it through this and there is more yet to be revealed in my life. I am going to be ok. And I'm going to stay sober. Keep me in your prayers. Hugs, Cheryl __________________

10-31-2005, 12:01 AM	#6 (permalink)
*Time2Surrender* Community Greeter Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Hillsboro,Oregon Soon to be Washington State Posts: 6,335 Blog Entries: 3	Your in my prayers Cheryl. __________________ "Jack and Diane" painted a picture of my life and my dreams, Suddenly this crazy world made more sense to me Well I heard it today and I couldn't help but sing along Cause everytime I hear that song...

10-31-2005, 03:52 AM	#7 (permalink)
Midas Guest Posts: n/a	Oh No!! I'm sorry Cheryl. It's hard to fathom sometimes, but getting fired can be a good thing. Hang In There!!

10-31-2005, 07:10 AM	#8 (permalink)
roadie58 "The BAND" workshop ROCKS! Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 1,489	So, what are we gonna do today little Cheryl? Please get a plan together, for me, having spare time on my hands always meant trouble..... __________________ Roadie read about my adventures in trying to stay clean in sober in 'I'm ALIVE' in the Substance Abuse Forum..

10-31-2005, 07:19 AM	#9 (permalink)
splendra the girl can't help it Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: splendraville Posts: 4,817 Blog Entries: 3	((((AH)))) The growth looks good on ya girl.... __________________ nice has a hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

10-31-2005, 02:49 PM	#10 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,165	Cheryl, I'm sorry about losing your job. It is tough to deal with something like that early in sobriety. But, look at it this way. I went through something really, really scary about 3 months into sobriety. And, I thought about drinking, but I knew that if I could get through this, I could get through anything. You can do this. __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

10-31-2005, 02:56 PM	#11 (permalink)
hopealwayz Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: somewhere Posts: 3,514	(((BIG HUGS))) Thanks so much everyone for being there through this very difficult experience. I am so grateful for your support and care ! It helped me get through the hardest parts especially with the feelings. Copierguy, I'm so glad that you came back. Stick around SR because this is the greatest group of friends! Good job on 4 days of being clean. You have the hardest days behind you. Just focus on one day at a time. That is what I do and now I have racked up 19 one day at a times. I feel so much better than I did 20 days ago. I feel much, much better. I know that no matter what life throws at me, I can handle it clean and sober. Drugs and alcohol are never a solution-- they only create more problems. Life is so much better sober!! __________________

10-31-2005, 06:26 PM	#12 (permalink)
mchockfan Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Lansing, MI Posts: 23	Angel, YOU CAN DO IT. If a 30 year loser like me can I'm sure you can. Stay tough, Stay strong, stay busy!!! I'm finding meetings to be very helpful and in the past wouldn't have anything to do with them. That was my loss. I didn't respect myself so how could I respect anyone else. Faith in my HP (God) helps also. It changed my view of the world. Here is a great site to read and learn (and keep busy) http://www.churchlink.com.au/churchl...ge1/index.html Best Wishes, Arn

10-31-2005, 06:30 PM	#13 (permalink)
Joelby Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: madison, wi Posts: 25	Hi, I've been sober for 2 days. I think I understand how you feel. I can't even leave my bed sober right now. I wish you the best. Tomorrow will be hard for both of us, I'm going to take your advice and refer to it every five minutes tomorrow. Hang in there, Im going to!

11-01-2005, 03:01 AM	#14 (permalink)
dizzyj Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: grand jct, co Posts: 197	Angelhugs, Remember all the things you told me?????? - DO tHEM!!!!!! I have to start looking again too. I'm sure we can help eachother out, even if were stars and moons apart. __________________ dizzyj What happens to the unanswered prayers???

11-01-2005, 12:59 PM	#15 (permalink)
tink360 Think Happy Thoughts Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: cHiCaGo iL Posts: 245	Im very proud of you for staying sober through this very difficult time...i hope you keep your head up..i said a lil prayer for you and i want you to know that im rooting for you...sometimes things happen for a reason and maybe the reason you lost your job is because your meant to be somewhere else...hang in there and take it 5 min at a time...lots of love and hugs...tink __________________ When you change the way you look at things; The things you look at change.

11-01-2005, 01:20 PM	#16 (permalink)
Grimnar I bite. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: USA Posts: 498	Pulling for you Cheryl!

11-01-2005, 01:27 PM	#17 (permalink)
Greenbug In Paradise! Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Pair-O-Dice, CA Posts: 422	Cheryl, I know this is hard for you and you know drinking wont get your job back. Go to a meetings instead of your job. Most places have a noon meeting, share whats going on with you about your job in a humbling way. I have had this happen and I was able to find other employment from other people in the room at the time. Not that it will happen but you never know where help might come from. This is recovery related and you can share this. I say meeting for this reason, it was explained to me and it makes sense, that you can do a great program and it will radiate to other aspects of you life, but running a strong employment will not radiate to a better recovery. I wish you well. This is a just a job, keep it in proportions to the big picture. Recovery is your life. You can find another job a bit easier. Having faith in not a theory to talk about but a way of living. Just have faith and things will work out. Whenever you try something new to you, you are vulnerable. You need to be vulnerable to grow in any way personally. Blessings, ~GB __________________ NEED HELP WITH RECOVERY?, SICK AND TIRED OF BEING SICK AND TIRED?, NEED HELP STARTING AND FINDING A NEW WAY TO LIVE?, THEN..... GET YOUR A$$ TO A MEETING (((NA))) (((AA))) WE'LL SAVE A SEAT FOR YOU! A MUST READ!!!

11-01-2005, 02:56 PM	#18 (permalink)
luluabel Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: england,united kingdom Posts: 220	((((((Angel )))) well done on 19 days hun .......I am so sorry to hear you lost your job but maybe something better will come along for you .......like Tink I believe things happen for a reason sometimes ,keep strong sweetie sending you a big (((hug))) love Lulu xxxxx

11-01-2005, 04:29 PM	#19 (permalink)
2tough2die Future Philanthropist Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 233	Sorry you lost your job. Hang in there Yo! __________________ But the house is haunted and the ride gets rough And you've got to learn to live with what you can't rise above

11-01-2005, 04:47 PM	#20 (permalink)
Richie Don't Panic Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Chesapeake,VA Posts: 886	I'm sorry about your job loss,Cheryl.You will get a better one! I'm praying for you. __________________ It's the 21st century,so where's my rocket pack?

11-01-2005, 04:51 PM	#21 (permalink)
na4today Learning as I go Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 731	I'm sorry you lost your job, you will find another one as long as you stay sober. congrats on the clean time! __________________ I waited patiently for God to help me; then he listened to me and heard my cry -Psalm 40:1 Take my will and my life Guide me in my recovery Show me how to live Just for today Clean Date 8/20/05

11-01-2005, 04:53 PM	#22 (permalink)
shestruggles Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: waysouth Posts: 394	Yes, dear ~ I almost despise this saying~ but often things DO happen for a reason. Perhaos losing this job will open up doors you never knew was there. Its always hard to accpet at first (and you are dealing with amazingly, I must add), but in the long run, you may see that this started a whole new SOBER chapter in your life. All the best, sweetheart! SS BTW - I'll be losing my job in December, so I know the feeling of dom and gloom, but, all you can do is work the heck out of your resune (and realize just how fab you are) and explore all kinds of different employment options! I hope you'll find someyhing you LOVE!! __________________ "Things do not change; we change" (Henry David Thoreau)

11-01-2005, 05:18 PM	#23 (permalink)
hopealwayz Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: somewhere Posts: 3,514	I just wanted to thank everyone for their kindness and support during a difficult time. You are all great and I am grateful that I had this wonderful place to come to. I am smiling now and very thankful for the wonderful words. Thank you! Hugs, Cheryl __________________

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