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MNGirlyGirl · 08-10-2005, 10:42 AM

I had a dream last night that I was drinking. In the dream I had hid some beer and drank 2 of them (I don't even like beer). My mom found them and the shame was so horrible. I know these dreams are common in early recovery, but I woke up feeling awful. I have been feeling very strong and not having many urges to drink but I am petrified that I will relapse. The feelings of remorse are still strong. I guess I had relapsed so many times in the last 4 months, deep down I'm still scared.

How long do people have these using dreams after they quit using?

By the way, I have 21 days today!

Kathy

wantneeda · 08-10-2005, 10:56 AM

way to go on 21 days!! thats awesome!
when i have using dreams i thank God for them, for the reminder of where i can go if i don't keep that fear!
that fear of relapse is a healthy fear, the minute i don't fear relapse that's when i'm in trouble.
A friend of mine actually likes his using dreams, go figure, he says he can drink and drug in them all he wants. But just in his dreams.
Those dreams will get fewer and further between don't worry. After 14 months i rarely have them anymore. I know they are scary though aren't they?
ya
hugs, Wendy

BaBa OReiley · 08-10-2005, 11:04 AM

hi kathy,
way to go on 21 days!

want needa basically hit the nail with her reply, i remember my drunk dreams, and like want's friend i used to enjoy mine too, i called them freebies. sometimes they were so real i would wake up with a temp buzz or even feel hung over.

i enjoyed them till i started having bad endings to them, then i hated them.

they eventually lessened, i think with me it was my subconscience reliving my drinking history, when i got real serious about my sobriety is when they started getting bad.

squirrelly77 · 08-10-2005, 12:42 PM

Hey there...
Yep, it's common and I take them as a blessing too as these two have said. The last one I had that made me really grateful took place in a bar where I was going shot for shot with this complete stranger. I got so drunk that I went home with him. Right before I woke up in a near panic, I felt really nasty like I had just drank a ton and before the fog cleared I swore I was in a bedroom different than my own.
Very scary but very helpful too.

squirrelly77 · 08-10-2005, 12:42 PM

oops

MNGirlyGirl · 08-10-2005, 01:23 PM

Thanks Wendy, Baba and Squirrelly!! I guess it is a good reminder of what I want to avoid. Next time I'll try to enjoy the "freebee"!!!

nogard · 08-10-2005, 02:19 PM

Way to go on 3 weeks

nogard

Slowbriety · 08-10-2005, 03:00 PM

its really bad when you are having a useing dream and there are people from AA in it with you.

i havent had one in a few months but i had this one where i was stoned (i dont smoke pot) and then i was like, "oh god im stoned and about to go to a meeting, there gonna know im stoned" the guilt and shame i had was terrible, but like someone said, good reminders of where it will take me if i start back drinking or doing the drugs i use to do.

peace.

chaoticone · 08-10-2005, 03:07 PM

Congrats on your 21 days!!!

08-10-2005, 10:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
MNGirlyGirl Good Clean Fun!! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Plymouth, MN Posts: 938	Using Dreams I had a dream last night that I was drinking. In the dream I had hid some beer and drank 2 of them (I don't even like beer). My mom found them and the shame was so horrible. I know these dreams are common in early recovery, but I woke up feeling awful. I have been feeling very strong and not having many urges to drink but I am petrified that I will relapse. The feelings of remorse are still strong. I guess I had relapsed so many times in the last 4 months, deep down I'm still scared. How long do people have these using dreams after they quit using? By the way, I have 21 days today! Kathy __________________ -- The good news is that your feelings come back...The bad news is that your feelings come back.

08-10-2005, 10:56 AM	#2 (permalink)
wantneeda Miss Behavin' Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: regina,saskatchewan Posts: 976	way to go on 21 days!! thats awesome! when i have using dreams i thank God for them, for the reminder of where i can go if i don't keep that fear! that fear of relapse is a healthy fear, the minute i don't fear relapse that's when i'm in trouble. A friend of mine actually likes his using dreams, go figure, he says he can drink and drug in them all he wants. But just in his dreams. Those dreams will get fewer and further between don't worry. After 14 months i rarely have them anymore. I know they are scary though aren't they? ya hugs, Wendy __________________ nothin' changes if nothin' changes

08-10-2005, 01:23 PM	#6 (permalink)
MNGirlyGirl Good Clean Fun!! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Plymouth, MN Posts: 938	Thanks Wendy, Baba and Squirrelly!! I guess it is a good reminder of what I want to avoid. Next time I'll try to enjoy the "freebee"!!! __________________ -- The good news is that your feelings come back...The bad news is that your feelings come back.

08-10-2005, 02:19 PM	#7 (permalink)
nogard Connected at last Join Date: May 2005 Location: Melbourne Victoria Australia Posts: 11,631 Blog Entries: 3	Way to go on 3 weeks nogard __________________ ...And like a bird that's on the wing and is flying free He can hear the song of home endlessly

08-10-2005, 03:00 PM	#8 (permalink)
Slowbriety New things have come to light Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Downtown Nashville , TN Posts: 298	talk about shame and guilt. its really bad when you are having a useing dream and there are people from AA in it with you. i havent had one in a few months but i had this one where i was stoned (i dont smoke pot) and then i was like, "oh god im stoned and about to go to a meeting, there gonna know im stoned" the guilt and shame i had was terrible, but like someone said, good reminders of where it will take me if i start back drinking or doing the drugs i use to do. peace.

08-10-2005, 11:04 AM	#3 (permalink)
BaBa OReiley Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: QVB NYC NY Posts: 620	hi kathy, way to go on 21 days! want needa basically hit the nail with her reply, i remember my drunk dreams, and like want's friend i used to enjoy mine too, i called them freebies. sometimes they were so real i would wake up with a temp buzz or even feel hung over. i enjoyed them till i started having bad endings to them, then i hated them. they eventually lessened, i think with me it was my subconscience reliving my drinking history, when i got real serious about my sobriety is when they started getting bad.

08-10-2005, 12:42 PM	#4 (permalink)
squirrelly77 Little Girl Found Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Lower Penninsula Posts: 567	Hey there... Yep, it's common and I take them as a blessing too as these two have said. The last one I had that made me really grateful took place in a bar where I was going shot for shot with this complete stranger. I got so drunk that I went home with him. Right before I woke up in a near panic, I felt really nasty like I had just drank a ton and before the fog cleared I swore I was in a bedroom different than my own. Very scary but very helpful too.

08-10-2005, 12:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
squirrelly77 Little Girl Found Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Lower Penninsula Posts: 567	oops

08-10-2005, 03:07 PM	#9 (permalink)
chaoticone Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Fremont, CA Posts: 6	Congrats on your 21 days!!!

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