No Freedom for me on the 4th - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

stormyautumn · 07-04-2005, 10:38 AM

Well here I sit on 4th of July while other people are out at the beach and such. I wanted to take my daughter to the pool but controlling B had to go do some work on the boat and took the car, not the truck. I asked why He couldn't leave the car and he said because I want to take it that's why. I am so sick of living like this and hope that I can get through the next two weeks. So I called and of course we argues and I asked if we were going to do anything he said no. So I then said if I go out are you going to be angry, he replied with go out with your other boyfriends..sick of hearing that too...and when you come home I won't talk to you blah blah. I asked why he couldn't just say have a nice time..he says I've sad that in the past...maybe to someone else not to me. I am like a prisoner. I hate him. Anyways I just keep thinking that next 4th of July I'll be in Indy hopefully owning my own home and having a bbq with friends. My daydreams that are soon to be reality keep me going. Thanks for letting me vent...keeps me sober lol

Calvin · 07-04-2005, 10:42 AM

The day has just started good sweetheart.
How about calling one of your friends to come pick you up?
Don't let him ruin your whole day while he is doing what he wants to do !

Get out of the house it's 4th of July !!

stormyautumn · 07-04-2005, 10:53 AM

I could call my friends but he said if I go out he will not talk to me and might not even let me back in. He doesn't see it. I'd rather just sit here instead of having to argue and beg to come home later to boost his ego.

**Pony** · 07-04-2005, 11:05 AM

{{{Stormy}}} tough situation.

I do hope that you are making a plan to free yourself. No one should live like that.

stormyautumn · 07-04-2005, 11:09 AM

Yes I have a plan...I just have court issues that need to be closed regarding my daughter. Should be closed soon, I have a job lined up for me and most of my things are in storage...can't wait to celebrate my own independence day...again..July 3rd was my anniversary or 3years for leaving my daughters abusive father...so July will completely be about independence for me..lol

07-04-2005, 11:11 AM

Are there any fireworks shows at a local highschool within walking distance? I feel
bad for you, you should be able to come and go as you please. If he has trust
issues, thats his problem. And like Calvin said, how about having a friend or neihbor
take you to a 4th celebration? Fight back! The more you sit back and take it, the
more he will get off on controlling you and do it even more. Does he hurt you
physically?
And if he doesnt let you back in, call the police! you live there.

PlanoTexican · 07-04-2005, 11:11 AM

God bless you and your daughter. Have a happy day, just you and your daughter.

Cathy31 · 07-04-2005, 11:43 AM

Autumn
Thinking of you and I am so glad that you have a plan!! Good for you! Maybe it is better just to ENDURE it - for NOW - as long as there is an end in site!!!!! SOON!!! At least you do appear to know that it is HIM and certainly not you or a reflection on you!

You'll get through this, thinking of you!
Love
cathy31
x

**historyteach** · 07-04-2005, 11:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stormyautumn

I could call my friends but he said if I go out he will not talk to me and might not even let me back in. He doesn't see it. I'd rather just sit here instead of having to argue and beg to come home later to boost his ego.

Just remember, you've got a child who is learning what it is to be an adult woman by watching what you do.
Go out.
If he doesn't talk to you, well, then there won't be an arguement.
Take a key with you. You can let yourself back in the house.
And who the h*ll cares if he thinks you are seeing other people? That IS his problem! You are on your way to freedom? Then start acting like it.
Sorry, this is just my opinion.
Just remember, that child is watching....and learning...
Shalom!

stormyautumn · 07-04-2005, 11:47 AM

Thanks everyone for cheering me up. There is a casino not far from here that we can probably see the fireworks fromthe yard. But for now I dream happy thoughts of al the holidays I'll have without him. lol

**historyteach** · 07-04-2005, 11:48 AM

You only have today, stormyautum.
Today is a gift; that's why they call it the present.
Live for today. Tomorrow may never come....
Shalom!

**CarolD** · 07-04-2005, 02:38 PM

I think is to keep working on your escape plam.
There will be other more happy times in your future.

At age 3 your child is too young to appreciate fireworks...ice cream would be a bwetter treat!

Stay calm and in focus. Blessings

stormyautumn · 07-04-2005, 05:08 PM

Well the a$$hole let me out of the house for awhile..It's so sad that I find that so exciting to share. I guess he just wanted for once to sit in his own misery instead of spreading it. So I took my daughter to see Madagascar. It was great. Home now hopefully we will see some fireworks over here...

07-04-2005, 06:07 PM

Good 4 you!! Enjoy some liberty...enjoy it with your daughter.

Happy

Th!

hopealwayz · 07-04-2005, 06:30 PM

May there be freedom for you.......

don't let him ruin your life...

07-05-2005, 05:17 PM

I'm so glad you got out of the house last night Stormy! I was thinkin
about you. Hope you and your daughter had fun!!

07-04-2005, 10:38 AM	#1 (permalink)
stormyautumn Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 944	No Freedom for me on the 4th Well here I sit on 4th of July while other people are out at the beach and such. I wanted to take my daughter to the pool but controlling B had to go do some work on the boat and took the car, not the truck. I asked why He couldn't leave the car and he said because I want to take it that's why. I am so sick of living like this and hope that I can get through the next two weeks. So I called and of course we argues and I asked if we were going to do anything he said no. So I then said if I go out are you going to be angry, he replied with go out with your other boyfriends..sick of hearing that too...and when you come home I won't talk to you blah blah. I asked why he couldn't just say have a nice time..he says I've sad that in the past...maybe to someone else not to me. I am like a prisoner. I hate him. Anyways I just keep thinking that next 4th of July I'll be in Indy hopefully owning my own home and having a bbq with friends. My daydreams that are soon to be reality keep me going. Thanks for letting me vent...keeps me sober lol __________________ "If life is a bowl of cherries; what am I always doing in the pits" - Erma Bombeck

07-04-2005, 10:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
stormyautumn Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 944	I could call my friends but he said if I go out he will not talk to me and might not even let me back in. He doesn't see it. I'd rather just sit here instead of having to argue and beg to come home later to boost his ego. __________________ "If life is a bowl of cherries; what am I always doing in the pits" - Erma Bombeck

07-04-2005, 11:05 AM	#4 (permalink)
Pony Forum Leader Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: trail of discovery Posts: 2,327	{{{Stormy}}} tough situation. I do hope that you are making a plan to free yourself. No one should live like that. __________________ "Failure is an EVENT, it is not a person – yesterday really did end last night, and today is your brand new day..." .........unknown The sun always rises, and a new day begins.

07-04-2005, 11:09 AM	#5 (permalink)
stormyautumn Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 944	Yes I have a plan...I just have court issues that need to be closed regarding my daughter. Should be closed soon, I have a job lined up for me and most of my things are in storage...can't wait to celebrate my own independence day...again..July 3rd was my anniversary or 3years for leaving my daughters abusive father...so July will completely be about independence for me..lol __________________ "If life is a bowl of cherries; what am I always doing in the pits" - Erma Bombeck

07-04-2005, 11:11 AM	#7 (permalink)
PlanoTexican Support our Troops. Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Republic Of Texas Posts: 453	God bless you and your daughter. Have a happy day, just you and your daughter. __________________ Doing the right thing, when no one else is looking. -Bob Hook 'em 'Horns

07-04-2005, 10:42 AM	#2 (permalink)
Calvin Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: anywhere USA Posts: 69	The day has just started good sweetheart. How about calling one of your friends to come pick you up? Don't let him ruin your whole day while he is doing what he wants to do ! Get out of the house it's 4th of July !!

07-04-2005, 11:11 AM	#6 (permalink)
I_am_tj Guest Posts: n/a	Are there any fireworks shows at a local highschool within walking distance? I feel bad for you, you should be able to come and go as you please. If he has trust issues, thats his problem. And like Calvin said, how about having a friend or neihbor take you to a 4th celebration? Fight back! The more you sit back and take it, the more he will get off on controlling you and do it even more. Does he hurt you physically? And if he doesnt let you back in, call the police! you live there.

07-04-2005, 11:43 AM	#8 (permalink)
Cathy31 1 bite&all resistance crumbles Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: IRELAND Posts: 1,871	Autumn Thinking of you and I am so glad that you have a plan!! Good for you! Maybe it is better just to ENDURE it - for NOW - as long as there is an end in site!!!!! SOON!!! At least you do appear to know that it is HIM and certainly not you or a reflection on you! You'll get through this, thinking of you! Love cathy31 x

07-04-2005, 11:47 AM	#10 (permalink)
stormyautumn Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 944	Thanks everyone for cheering me up. There is a casino not far from here that we can probably see the fireworks fromthe yard. But for now I dream happy thoughts of al the holidays I'll have without him. lol __________________ "If life is a bowl of cherries; what am I always doing in the pits" - Erma Bombeck

07-04-2005, 11:48 AM	#11 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: centered again Posts: 8,071	You only have today, stormyautum. Today is a gift; that's why they call it the present. Live for today. Tomorrow may never come.... Shalom! __________________

07-04-2005, 02:38 PM	#12 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 15,403	The main thing I think is to keep working on your escape plam. There will be other more happy times in your future. At age 3 your child is too young to appreciate fireworks...ice cream would be a bwetter treat! Stay calm and in focus. Blessings __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

07-04-2005, 05:08 PM	#13 (permalink)
stormyautumn Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 944	Well the a$$hole let me out of the house for awhile..It's so sad that I find that so exciting to share. I guess he just wanted for once to sit in his own misery instead of spreading it. So I took my daughter to see Madagascar. It was great. Home now hopefully we will see some fireworks over here... __________________ "If life is a bowl of cherries; what am I always doing in the pits" - Erma Bombeck

07-04-2005, 06:07 PM	#14 (permalink)
Midas Guest Posts: n/a	Good 4 you!! Enjoy some liberty...enjoy it with your daughter. HappyTh!

07-04-2005, 06:30 PM	#15 (permalink)
hopealwayz Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: somewhere Posts: 3,514	May there be freedom for you....... don't let him ruin your life...

07-05-2005, 05:17 PM	#16 (permalink)
I_am_tj Guest Posts: n/a	I'm so glad you got out of the house last night Stormy! I was thinkin about you. Hope you and your daughter had fun!!

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