HELP -- Interviewing new roommates - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Lizard · 03-07-2005, 12:31 PM

I've been sober a little over 7 months.

My roommate (and close friend) is moving out at the end of the month. I have one remaining roommate who knows I'm in recovery and is also a good friend.

I'm not sure how to handle the interview process. Should I tell them about my alcoholism before they move in? Should I tell them during the interview? I'm not entirely comfortable telling every person who walks in the door, but maybe it's also a courtesy to let them know before they sign the lease...

Suggestions would be most appreciated.

Thanks,

Liz

**best** · 03-07-2005, 12:35 PM

Does the other room mate drink? If the house is a dry house, that is all that needs be said.
House rules are....
Do you still want to move in?

Set some goals and guidelines. Let them be your house rules.

Lizard · 03-07-2005, 12:41 PM

It's not a dry house. She drinks on occasion. The relief is that the roommate moving out was a pretty big partier and now she'll be gone. We're going to ask questions about people's tendencies, I guess that should be enough.

Moontime · 03-07-2005, 01:02 PM

If someone is moving into your house. Oh yeah, deffinately have no problems saying this is a dry house. I would set boundaries off the get-go. If they can't deal with the no drinking rule, then I wouldn't let them move in.

Lizard · 03-07-2005, 01:14 PM

It's not a dry house. I can't tell them that, it's not true.

BubbaBob · 03-07-2005, 01:26 PM

I wouldn't bring it up at first meeting, but I would let the new roomie know before they commit.

BubbaBob

03-07-2005, 12:31 PM	#1 (permalink)
Lizard Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 27	HELP -- Interviewing new roommates I've been sober a little over 7 months. My roommate (and close friend) is moving out at the end of the month. I have one remaining roommate who knows I'm in recovery and is also a good friend. I'm not sure how to handle the interview process. Should I tell them about my alcoholism before they move in? Should I tell them during the interview? I'm not entirely comfortable telling every person who walks in the door, but maybe it's also a courtesy to let them know before they sign the lease... Suggestions would be most appreciated. Thanks, Liz

03-07-2005, 12:35 PM	#2 (permalink)
best Don't get undies in a bunch Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: South Shore MA Posts: 7,191	Does the other room mate drink? If the house is a dry house, that is all that needs be said. House rules are.... Do you still want to move in? Set some goals and guidelines. Let them be your house rules.
	__________________ * I asked God to spare me pain. God said "No", Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me. Recovery Related Acronym B. E. S. T. = Been Enjoying Sobriety Today?

03-07-2005, 01:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
Moontime Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Charlottesville, Va Posts: 621	If someone is moving into your house. Oh yeah, deffinately have no problems saying this is a dry house. I would set boundaries off the get-go. If they can't deal with the no drinking rule, then I wouldn't let them move in.
	__________________ Every day people are straying away from the church and going back to God. -Lenny Bruce

03-07-2005, 01:26 PM	#6 (permalink)
BubbaBob Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Jasper, GA Posts: 243	I wouldn't bring it up at first meeting, but I would let the new roomie know before they commit. BubbaBob
	__________________ "I thought my sobriety would impress God and that He would open the gates of heaven and let me in. I was disappointed when He didn't. Then I found that He had, instead, opened the gates of hell and let me out."

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03-07-2005, 12:41 PM	#3 (permalink)
Lizard Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 27	It's not a dry house. She drinks on occasion. The relief is that the roommate moving out was a pretty big partier and now she'll be gone. We're going to ask questions about people's tendencies, I guess that should be enough.

03-07-2005, 01:14 PM	#5 (permalink)
Lizard Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 27	It's not a dry house. I can't tell them that, it's not true.

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